Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Also I'm surprised there is seemingly no limit on profile size.

Yeah, I thought, well, at least know I know they really don't cut anyone off, ever.

Makes me want to start a profile and just paste a full novel in there, like "Catcher in the Rye" or something. I wonder what kind of messages it would get.

that guy is a real piece of work. when he got to the part about Islam I couldn't take any more

To me, it kinda had the ring of the entries found online by that guy who walked into a gym in PA and shot a bunch of women.

It's obviously an MRA thing, but can anyone explain exactly what he means by "Code Delta one-liners which come my way in e-mail"?

Also, io OTM about the gym shooter. I'm not sure "Delete this profile and I swear I'll depart this world with OKC to blame and make sure it hits the headlines. Most Unfavorably" is really about picking up women...

i think it means he's categorized the responses he's gotten. which i'm surprised he's received enough to do.

i'm finding it hard to be entertained by this. seems really damaged and sad and, yeah, potentially dangerous

also a kind of sick leaves of grass kind of vibe where you know he's been adding and adding and adding to it

Oh, shit, just thought, I probably shouldn't c&p on here, just in case he's weird enough to google bits of his profile, right? Any mod want to erase that stuff?

xp yeah, I'm not feeling 'entertained', really, but this stuff does fascinate me in a morbid way.

guys, the ladies will just swoon when you refer to them as "missy"

Is there any moral burden to let someone know about...I don't know? Even if OKC was responsive and say, deleted his profile, that wouldn't affect his irl crazy and could even push him further.

all i could think to do would be sending it to the local cops. but since it can't be tied to an individual it would be seen as very tenuous. "an unnamed/unseen person who may be in your area may be crazy."

yeah all okc has is an email address, an ip address, a zip code

Oh well fingers crossed then.

I did a curious search and my #1 match on the whole of OkCupid has a soul patch and is currently at Burning Man. That's it, I'm outta here.

if you run that exact same search again it will prob give you a diff top result

Does anyone else have a moderator tab? I have the luxury of deciding if images are appropriate. One of the first ones was a naked dude with a hairspray can obscuring his dick. I voted obscene.

yes! I talked abt it upthread. I haven't used it in a while but it's a fun time killer.

Met a 99% match tonight based on my new deleted/recreated profile. He actually was far too much like me for my own comfort, so that I sat there thinking 'shit, I have to stop doing [thing he's doing]' I'm going to see him again, though, because I liked him in the moments my brain wasn't screaming 'JINX!'

Also, on Wed I've got a first date with someone who looks just like my ex based on his photos, and kind of writes like him too.

Yeah people talk a lot of shit about the matching system but the one 99% person I went out (am going out) with was a huge success.

but yes there was definitely the feeling of the person being uncomfortably similar

Met another guy Wednesday night - had a good time and would have been up for hanging out again, though maybe not in a date-y way. Got a note from him afterwards saying that he was impressed I wasn't more nervous, and that he WAS nervous (I couldn't tell) and that he'd decided not to date anyone until he'd overcome the nervousness.

And I'm seeing this uncomfortably similar person again tonight and I'm really not in the mood. I think it's going to be awkward, and then I do get nervous :-(

play on playa

life's a beach

all was as predicted. I should have stayed home and watched Bond movies with my housemates.

baaaah, bad luck. if it makes you feel any better your housemates were just watching die another day on repeat.

my incoming messages have really dried up lately. i guess you start to slip out of the match lists when you're not doing much on the site? I HOPE.

which bond?

Craig-era, so I didn't miss much really

sorry

kinda curious what 'too much like you' means tho. are you not a+?

on the first date he sort of latched onto a few topics he could talk at length about and did so, rather than having the potentially more awkward getting-to-know-you conversation. Pretty sure I've done that from similar motives. This time around, I just found him a bit earnest and boring all round (even though he's had an 'interesting' life, he was kind of banging on about it a bit) and suspect I can sometimes be a bit earnest and boring in a similar way myself.

whereas the self-diagnosed nervous wreck from Wednesday made me feel relaxed and chatty even though I didn't wanna take it any further.

tough crowd!

me and them both!

sorry -- you were being honest and that's v. cool. although *now* i might be nervous where i never was previously

are you still on there? When I was re-writing my profile I tried to look at yours for inspiration because I thought it was good, but I couldn't find it.

i have the fear of that kind of meetup too, ljubljana. presenting myself as 'earnest and boring' is definitely something i am inclined to do. actually i met a 99% match a while back (not 'officially', by coincidence, at a party) and she was very nice and all but the dumb generic questions and answers my rigidly structured brain throws at me as it panics and tries to fill empty space left us with a pretty stilted conversation. yknow maybe when i go on dates i should bring along a friend who's looser of mind and tongue than i am to get the conversation rolling.

I think when there's ~~chemistry~~ all of that what-next business is supposed to fall away a bit. But today I would have much preferred your generic Q&A to 'I'm going to pick an issue and riff off that for at least an hour'.

hi ljubljana

All my whinging can be summarized as 'no chemistry'.

I'm failing Chemistry.

hah you are v. kind ljub. i suspended my account a while ago because i found the whole thing depressing.

https://twitter.com/bendreyfuss/status/379670146110877698/photo/1

no more creeping anonymously on people's photos

BOO

??

'you must have at least one photo posted to view everyone else's photos'

bailed on my a-list but i did appreciate the anonymous browsing