here "you don't get to xyz" means you have no standing to do what you're doing, not "i will break your face with my state violence."
― there are more than 3.5 HOOS per steen (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Tuesday, August 20, 2013 8:47 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
well i think you're ignoring the powers granted to the tone police under subsection six of the patriot act, article twenty two.
― "Dave Barlow" is the name Lou uses on sabermetrics baseball sites (s.clover), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 01:54 (ten years ago) link
The tone police, they live inside of my head. The tone police, they come to me in my bed.
― "Dave Barlow" is the name Lou uses on sabermetrics baseball sites (s.clover), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 01:56 (ten years ago) link
it's not an argument from threat, legal or physical or rhetorical or otherwise, it's an argument from an ethics that rests on history: an oppressor class's definition of the oppressed class's experience can never be the truest definition of that experience. it's only one that serves the oppressing class's interests, which can't be aligned with the reality of the people being pressured by the weight of a culture aligned against them.
^
― s. cloverlandthug (The Reverend), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 02:06 (ten years ago) link
did you see when that fake tumblr vegan socialist had a "first time frank and I had sex" pic and it was an actual p in v pic
― mh, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 03:40 (ten years ago) link
i did not
but lol at 'in v pic'
― there are more than 3.5 HOOS per steen (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 03:46 (ten years ago) link
p in v pic is a pvmic
― Coming Out Of Elton John's Mouth (crüt), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 03:51 (ten years ago) link
boo yah
― there are more than 3.5 HOOS per steen (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 04:02 (ten years ago) link
Yeah I was scrolling past at work at the end of the day and hopefully the cleaning crew didn't see when I went past that, sheesh
― mh, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 04:16 (ten years ago) link
shouldn't we be willing to ask ourselves if anger is our best response?
Sure, but as with the pronoun trouble a sentence or so back, we should be willing to ask ourselves, but you don't get to ask me* and therein lies the game. Like, there is a difference between recognising that something (such as 'rage is not the best educator of your allies') is true, and thinking "I should say that, then". Unfortunately the internet was built on the latter impulse.
*I am straight white male, anybody gets to ask me anything
― Andrew Farrell, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:05 (ten years ago) link
yeah
arguing politely and reasonably is also a learned strategy - and one where the end goal is not to learn something new or even "win" the argument: it's to retain the moral high ground. i see people - usually those in positions of power, arguing the lol liberal case for the status quo - deploy a kind of pig-headed "reasonableness" all the time, using pedantry and this weird kind of faux-logic that refuses to take into account real-world complexities or nuances, all the while maintaining a politely superior tone and refusing to understand the basic ideas that the other person is trying to communicate. and then claiming the moral high ground when the other person gets frustrated - and then in subsequent arguments when the other person starts off rudely because they already know arguing won't be constructive, dismissing the entire argument based on that
― lex pretend, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:32 (ten years ago) link
manners have pretty much always been a form of social identification and exclusion - being mannerly was the mark of gentlemen and a means of middle class self-elevation above the mob. not that i personally want to go out of my way to not get along with people - usually, lol - but that instinct has been taught me since childhood and isn't necessarily innate
whenever somebody addresses the way a person expresses themselves, whether that be grammar pedantry or complaints about tone, they are - deliberately - refusing to acknowledge the content of what's being said. the cheapest kind of power game tbh.
― beans on toast and ghosts (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:40 (ten years ago) link
yeah but deep down everybody knows that they're right if only everyone else would shut up and listen and writing yourself blank cheques wrt how you address or engage others in any contentious topic with this in mind...idk.
― dmacation problem (darraghmac), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:48 (ten years ago) link
kind of pig-headed "reasonableness" all the time, using pedantry and this weird kind of faux-logic that refuses to take into account real-world complexities or nuances, all the while maintaining a politely superior tone --lex pretend
In a nutshell here for sure! Implicit assumption of logical correctness or objectivity. And the sort of passive voice - it also reminds me a bit of people who criticize protestors and say "they'd be better off going through the proper channels" like some sort of deference is in order
― cog, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:54 (ten years ago) link
yeah but deep down /everybody knows/ that /they're right/ if only /everyone else would shut up and listen/ and writing yourself blank cheques wrt how you address or engage others in any contentious topic with this in mind...idk. --dmacation problem (darraghmac)
But I don't know that I'm right!
― cog, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:55 (ten years ago) link
welcome to ilx and god help u
― dmacation problem (darraghmac), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:56 (ten years ago) link
i've been thinking about that today. we need to distinguish between topics where it's possible to be right or wrong - general knowledge or trivia, i guess - and topics where there is a more or less correct answer - stuff where you can draw on evidence but not perhaps ever reach a definitive conclusion, like "what is the best way for a government to fulfil every child's educational potential?" - that isn't purely opinion, but it isn't a question of only one correct answer either - and then topics which are at bottom matters of pure opinion - "people should have equal opportunities from birth" or "it is wrong to discriminate against people based on innate characteristics".
that last group of topics falls under ethics rather than knowledge. i can't prove to somebody who disagrees with me that i'm right because in the end it's a matter of world-view. for me, that means that i might want to win people over to my own world-view and i might want to use whatever approach seems most likely to succeed, but i also might decide some people will never share my opinions and if the opposition is strong enough then fuck them, they're the enemy, all i care about now is tactics
― Dacca to Environ (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 09:59 (ten years ago) link
― beans on toast and ghosts (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, August 21, 2013 9:40 AM (28 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― lex pretend, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 10:10 (ten years ago) link
er i meant to add truth bomb
*carves "not necessarily" into nv's forehead*
― dmacation problem (darraghmac), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 10:17 (ten years ago) link
the word bomb is certainly relevant.
― Shamrock Shoe (LocalGarda), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 10:23 (ten years ago) link
Now more than ever, a failure to live down to darragh's view of humanity should not be seen as, well, a failure.
― Andrew Farrell, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 10:47 (ten years ago) link
I mean, I'm sure he's a nice chap, but you'll want someone for the other shoulder, you know?
Proooobably not Ronan.
I thought you had recused yourself
― dmacation problem (darraghmac), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 10:50 (ten years ago) link
I'm so glad this thread pops up every once in a while in case I don't want to understand whatever the fuck is happening on ilx.
― proobably (how's life), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 10:58 (ten years ago) link
i have ilm for that
― Dacca to Environ (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 10:59 (ten years ago) link
andrew doesn't deign to tone police irish ppl on ilm that i'd noticed, so it can't be that
― dmacation problem (darraghmac), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 11:02 (ten years ago) link
póg mo tone
― Francois Toofo (seandalai), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 11:08 (ten years ago) link
http://aseasonedplateofmurder.tumblr.com/post/42333304654/tw-misogyny-possible-rape-it-really-bothers-me
― k3vin k., Wednesday, 21 August 2013 13:48 (ten years ago) link
can we stop linking the troll tumblr now
― ⚓ (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 13:54 (ten years ago) link
seriously
― lex pretend, Wednesday, 21 August 2013 14:04 (ten years ago) link
concur
― there are more than 3.5 HOOS per steen (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Wednesday, 21 August 2013 14:41 (ten years ago) link
― Francois Toofo (seandalai),
a++++
― "Asshole Lost in Coughdrop": THAT'S a story (darraghmac), Monday, 26 August 2013 21:55 (ten years ago) link
http://straightvoices.tumblr.com/
― your authentic guitar playing self (elmo argonaut), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:26 (ten years ago) link
straight voices on gay rightsno matter what anyone says, straight people's opinions do matter. in fact they can be more effective in fighting bigotry because they're not emotionally biased. this is a safe space for straight allies of gay, lesbian, bi and transgendered people. we also post things from gay people supporting straight people and valuing them for the contributions they make to ending hate. we only accept genuine submissions not things making fun of straight people!
no matter what anyone says, straight people's opinions do matter. in fact they can be more effective in fighting bigotry because they're not emotionally biased. this is a safe space for straight allies of gay, lesbian, bi and transgendered people. we also post things from gay people supporting straight people and valuing them for the contributions they make to ending hate.
we only accept genuine submissions not things making fun of straight people!
― your authentic guitar playing self (elmo argonaut), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:27 (ten years ago) link
no matter what anyone says, straight people's opinions do matter. in fact they can be more effective in fighting bigotry because they're not emotionally biased.
just off to the "copy and paste something 100 times over" thread
― RAWK of Agger's (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:37 (ten years ago) link
i
― HOOS it because...of steen???? (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:38 (ten years ago) link
no matter what anyone says
― crüt, Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:39 (ten years ago) link
oh jesus christ i was kind of hoping that site was trolling
― RAWK of Agger's (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:39 (ten years ago) link
i can't tell if its real
is it sincere or satiric
― your authentic guitar playing self (elmo argonaut), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:39 (ten years ago) link
...
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:39 (ten years ago) link
ok that katy perry thing
― crüt, Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:40 (ten years ago) link
"look queers, just shut up and let us get on with fighting bigotry for you, ok?"
― RAWK of Agger's (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:40 (ten years ago) link
i don't think it's satirical, i think it's butthurt Macklemore fans
― RAWK of Agger's (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:42 (ten years ago) link
#you don't have to be gay to have pride #pride
― crüt, Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:43 (ten years ago) link
http://31.media.tumblr.com/402558b773ef9d87d5d4e5fd64abe544/tumblr_moyttjN18I1sxw9fdo1_400.jpg
look at this fucking masterpiece
― your authentic guitar playing self (elmo argonaut), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:44 (ten years ago) link
http://straightvoices.tumblr.com/post/59408391566/berelyn-lgbtq-people-who-use-their-sexuality
― RAWK of Agger's (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:49 (ten years ago) link
yeah this has gotta be a joke
― crüt, Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:49 (ten years ago) link
god i love tumblr
― J0rdan S., Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:50 (ten years ago) link
can we nuke it from orbit
― HOOS it because...of steen???? (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Thursday, 29 August 2013 15:52 (ten years ago) link