Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

wao that's... quite extreme.

i'm an idiot. was drunk. and, incorrigible. time to delete. what a joke. everything is hell. i added an extra L when i was drunk. never again, a shame. ashemed.

it's deleted now. it was a joke. a drunk one.

^describes most okc profiles tbrr

there'd be no human culture without drunk jokes.

describes most okc profiles tbrr

haha otm

i might recreate that same profile from memory, in hour or two?. i was slightly proud of what i did, there? just, the name doesn't need to be here on ilx? and, i spelled Lolita wrong. <-- idiot. find me in A2, though. lol.

AS LONG AS YOU'RE NOT STUPID OR POLY AMOROUS.

god, why does shit like that need a label. NOTHING needs a label. just date and shut the fuck up, weirdo.

if you call yourself poly, you are forever. if you call youself gay, you are forever. if you call youself bi, you are forever. if you call yourself queer, you are forever.

just, shut the fuck up and go with the flow. don't make it anymore complicated than it is. sex and kissing is EASY. don't make it hard.

and don't label yourself!

queer's a kind of anti-label though. maybe poly is too, i'm not sure.

as for me oh god i seem to be arranging to meet somebody, i didn't know this site was going to have real life consequences.

and you with your naked face

i know, i've false advertised terribly. i can still retrieve the hair from the bathroom bin, it's not too late for me...

well if it turns out to be in orbit that you're arranging to meet, she will be v. pleased

why do you needs dates when you have ilx?

you have ME

ah, i threw queer in there without thinking. i actually do like that 'label' as a catch-all. except for when straight couples use it, which makes me want to kill. just...

i just feel that sexuality is such a deeply personal thing, so, how could you possibly label it??? but, i suppose that 90% or so of the U.S. population feels exactly the opposite...

i'm not on some, oh "sexuality is so fluid and we're all queer" trip. it's just... i cannot even believe that people even THINK about it. i basically figured this shit out in the sandbox when i was 4.

lots of x-ps.

i still have your profile open, boy_slayer

lol

i'm okay with that...? for now.

i mean, i don't regret creating it, as the joke it were. i just regret getting bombed and sharing it here.

well i gotta go but i'll leave it open, in case you need any help recreating your profile

POST THE TEXT

i'm in a rush. and a lazy one, at that. but, i would like to re-use that text.

i just regret sharing the username here.

for serious? all of it?

i dunno if you want to subject yourself to the ilx tittering that it will bring

check your e-mail, 乒乓.

no problem

well, anyway...

ummm. don't those sort of labels turn anyone else off? i just mean, why put a label on such a deeply, personal thing???

Because you have a certain amount of confidence in yourself to represent who you are to others? No label is perfect.

ok. i like that answer. not that i mean to back so down so quickly, and i do admit that the way i posed my question was unfortunate. but, your answer was unexpected and thought-provoking.

i suppose that's just what some people need. some sort of confidence with a "label" attached to it, no matter how strong they actually are. and, now that i actually think about it, i can imagine that 'label thing' being useful for MILLIONS of reasons.

it's just not something i need, though. but, now, i can understand why other people might like to use it.

that's the best s/n, btw.

So, I like someone lots, but (having heretofore never really dated or been in a relationship or whatever) I have no idea how to either read signals or appropriately give them off in ways that won't potentially alienate her or make things awkward.

We've hung out intermittently (maybe like 5 times since November, including a hiatus between December and April/May) and get on well. Anyways, I'm beginning to fear there's no "forward momentum" and I don't know if this is due to a lack of interest or if I'm just being impatient. It doesn't help my paranoia that when we recently hung out she casually hugged a friend she ran into, whereas I'm not sure we've even shaken hands. I don't know if I've been relegated to a sub-hug friend, or if she's being careful about making loaded gestures. I dunno, I don't have much to work with, and, short of just going "btw i like u", it would be so much easier if I could just make her an unsubltly coded mixtape or something.

can people quit messaging me on OkC then messaging my sister, too? And asking us both on dates? or in worst cases, all three of us? This is even after they know we're all sisters.

xp

i feel like in your situation a tactfully worded honesty would be the best way to go? "i would like to date you but let's not get hung up about it if you don't like me in that way" kinda thing?

Yes, I think that's the only way anything is going to go anywhere (I think I just needed to hear it from someone else). I drafted a declaration of romantic intent of sorts and it's actually the cheesiest thing ever, but here's hoping I'll have the resolve/poor judgement to send it sooner rather than later.

kiss the girl ah woah oh

don't think i'll ever be brave enough to remind myself of the horrors of this morning's ill-considered okc messaging spree.

haha

What does it take to win her heart? Is it gifts of gold, priceless jewels? No. It takes a heart of worth willing to shelter hers; beating to bring her happiness. What does it take to claim her love? Could it be poetry fit to be recited by angels? No. It takes honest words of love unfeigned, unchanging, unending and capturing her spirit with sincerity. What does it take to make her yours? It takes patience, adoration, trust and constant love...........

Attention please:I received many messages from black guys.....I just can't accept the colors...don't waste your time and mine, thanks!

Good luck everyone!

oof.

Oh look another terrible person.

I can't top that (who would want to?) but I did get a msg today from someone who admits in his profile to working for Bechtel.

in dc i see so much "i work in the intelligence community" and "i'm an IT contractor for the military" and "i'm a consultant for the pentagon" and i feel dirty continuing to read the profile

I work for big ag

If I hadn't literally just finished listening to a song all about astrological signs, I probably would have o_0'ed at the self summary I just saw that begins "I am a true scorpion."

Nah you can still o_O

I have trouble starting off convos on OKCupid tho, even when it's with someone who rated me highly. I can never think of anything to say other than: "Oh, you're into <shared interest>? Cool, me too!". find it easier to have a kickoff convo in person.

I've stopped writing to anyone unless sthing in their profile specifically makes me want to ask them a question or comment on it. Like, if someone is cute or seems "nice enough" or w/e but nothing they wrote seems to demand I reply, I just click through. It was boring/pointless trying to think of pleasant but personal things to say to guys who wrote very little (or very little of interest) about themselves.

I seem to have a date this evening, out of the blue.

I've found "hi, I think our profiles resonate well/complement each other/etc." Works well. To the point without room for try-hardism or awkward inroads.

Also, how has this site become so hopeless and depressing for me :(