Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

heh, an OKC match I added as a friend on Facebook about a year ago but never met just asked me out for a drink.

ha, kudos

you know how dating websites only show you 'desirable' and 'attractive' people within your first couple of weeks, to get you hooked

when i used tinder i got like a bunch of 19 year old college freshmen in a row

it was gross, so i deleted it

Set your minimum age higher than 19 then, bro

eh i think it said more about the service that they would set it up to do that -- basically, i couldn't trust their algorithms anymore

It was showing me a few young people, but I think it was more geographical? Do you live near a lot of young people?

this was nyc

i just went with whatever the default was

is tinder just for dating?

vs what organizing book clubs?

i guess he means for friendly hangouts and stuff?

there's meetup.com for that

or goodreads

nhex otm

when tinder started up the majority of users were college kids. when i first started using it a few months ago i started noticing that whenever i'd first log in, the first one or two people that it gave me were age-appropriate, immediately followed by dozens of 19-22 year old sorority types.

not sure if its me moving to a more urban area this month or their user base growing, (or a combination of the two) but in the last few weeks i've started getting many more people my age.

also it's pretty obvious that if you haven't opened it in a while, if the first one or two people you see were active more recently than you then they are someone who chose you

isn't it more for sex than dating though?

eh, on the spectrum it's closer to OKC than something like grinder ime

actually i am getting the feeling that a lot of people use it as a game more than a way to actually meet people for dating or sex; just a fun curiosity like "does this person whom i think looks attractive in their photos think i look attractive in my photos?" and once you get that confirmation the thrill is gone-- it's only strength (you only get to communicate with people you find mutually attractive) immediately becomes its greatest weakness (you are chatting using a mobile app with very little substance to start a conversation with)

though i recently talked with a str8 female friend in her 30's who lives in SF and quit OKC 2 years ago and she told me she's gone on "several great dates" with dudes she met on tinder so

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/09/tinder-dating-app_n_3044472.html

this article kind of touches on the reason I think I stopped using OKC... instead of being an aid to the fun of dating, it seemed to be starting to replace it?

www.okcupid.com/profile/hellyeahbooks?cf=regular

"Lollita."

wao that's... quite extreme.

i'm an idiot. was drunk. and, incorrigible. time to delete. what a joke. everything is hell. i added an extra L when i was drunk. never again, a shame. ashemed.

it's deleted now. it was a joke. a drunk one.

^describes most okc profiles tbrr

there'd be no human culture without drunk jokes.

describes most okc profiles tbrr

haha otm

i might recreate that same profile from memory, in hour or two?. i was slightly proud of what i did, there? just, the name doesn't need to be here on ilx? and, i spelled Lolita wrong. <-- idiot. find me in A2, though. lol.

AS LONG AS YOU'RE NOT STUPID OR POLY AMOROUS.

god, why does shit like that need a label. NOTHING needs a label. just date and shut the fuck up, weirdo.

if you call yourself poly, you are forever. if you call youself gay, you are forever. if you call youself bi, you are forever. if you call yourself queer, you are forever.

just, shut the fuck up and go with the flow. don't make it anymore complicated than it is. sex and kissing is EASY. don't make it hard.

and don't label yourself!

queer's a kind of anti-label though. maybe poly is too, i'm not sure.

as for me oh god i seem to be arranging to meet somebody, i didn't know this site was going to have real life consequences.

and you with your naked face

i know, i've false advertised terribly. i can still retrieve the hair from the bathroom bin, it's not too late for me...

well if it turns out to be in orbit that you're arranging to meet, she will be v. pleased

why do you needs dates when you have ilx?

you have ME

ah, i threw queer in there without thinking. i actually do like that 'label' as a catch-all. except for when straight couples use it, which makes me want to kill. just...

i just feel that sexuality is such a deeply personal thing, so, how could you possibly label it??? but, i suppose that 90% or so of the U.S. population feels exactly the opposite...

i'm not on some, oh "sexuality is so fluid and we're all queer" trip. it's just... i cannot even believe that people even THINK about it. i basically figured this shit out in the sandbox when i was 4.

lots of x-ps.

i still have your profile open, boy_slayer

lol

i'm okay with that...? for now.

i mean, i don't regret creating it, as the joke it were. i just regret getting bombed and sharing it here.

well i gotta go but i'll leave it open, in case you need any help recreating your profile

POST THE TEXT

i'm in a rush. and a lazy one, at that. but, i would like to re-use that text.

i just regret sharing the username here.

for serious? all of it?

i dunno if you want to subject yourself to the ilx tittering that it will bring

check your e-mail, 乒乓.

no problem