Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

that's why you answer them privately though right?

pffff lies are the key to SUCCESS

Yeah but if you answer them privately they still affect your personality bars, don't they?

what does it mean when you get the emails saying that someone is checking you out? I had figured it was pretty meaningless since it probably included people who clicked onto my profile and quickly clicked off IN DISGUST, but the last two I've had I've then received a message from the person immediately afterwards, so I figure it's something a bit more than that.

I think you get those when you're anon browsing, but they regard the person as a high match. Which baffles me cos they never are that high a match (I dont regard 80% as that high) when I get em.

occasionally i'll run across a profile in the 'similar' column that is a high match to me but never, ever came up in a direct search.

I *know* this happens. N my housemate/ex and I are 99% match and 90% friends or something, and he doesnt come up even remotely in my match listings.

obligatory o rly

i removed two of my photos when i realized they could be reverse-image-searched to find more info on me than i'd care to share w/ all of OKC

― ᶓ͠סּᴥ͠סּᶔ ᶓͼ᷆ₓͼ᷇ᶔ (gr8080), Thursday, July 18, 2013 8:12 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

dam thats real

you shoosh mookie

hahaha one of my OKC pictures reverse-image searches back to a wdyll thread, except i already deleted that pic from the wdyll thread

thats... a bit scary

Your search - "australians looking over the top of their glasses" - did not match any image results.

i guess i just outed myself as using a three year old picture ( ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)

what does it mean when you get the emails saying that someone is checking you out? I had figured it was pretty meaningless since it probably included people who clicked onto my profile and quickly clicked off IN DISGUST, but the last two I've had I've then received a message from the person immediately afterwards, so I figure it's something a bit more than that.

― Fanois och Alexander (Merdeyeux), Thursday, July 18, 2013 6:10 PM (Yesterday)

i have come to the conclusion that you get those:

a) if someone has spent more than a few seconds on your page, has clicked through the questions/photos/personality tabs etc
b) when no one's visited your profile in over a day in order to be all "hey! dont forget that OKC exists-- a real person actually clicked on your profile!"

or a combination of the two

ok wtf i'm gonna do this: goole's rules for answering qns on okc. sorry if this is all p obvious!

1. basics: pretty much, try not to! only answer questions that will reveal your own red lines. so, basic stuff about politics, general values, and so on. This is the basic 'sort'. answer the questions that really do mean something to you, don't throw shit out there that's doesn't. if you have to come up with an opinion on the subject, and you don't care what a potential date thinks either, then don't even answer. maybe somebody has extreme opinions on shakespeare vs mozart, but you don't, so don't throw off the math.

2. gimmes: a bunch of the questions are really similar (there are near-repeats on topics like guns, prayer, homosexuality, contraception, etc) so make sure to answer all of those and rate them highly -- you'll look even more like the people you are close to. the basic trivia-about-life stuff go here too (like grade school science qns). those are an easy +% to non-idiots.

3. sex: consider not saying much about sex at all. so many of these qns are badly worded, and don't have answers that won't (to someone) look creepy, or virginal, or bragging, or skanky, or clueless, or whatever. answer these only if the answer both makes you look more fun, shows some sense of your sexual values rather than sexual experiences, and/or the answer is impt. for you to see. otherwise, don't! UNLESS you have some kink that's really core to what you're looking for. maybe i'm old fashioned but idk knowing someone's opinions on anal before we even meet is a bit much.

4. harsh shit: if you DO have strong preferences about people that are a little impolite (stuff about money, education, body type, height, age, kids, etc) consider just keeping that to yourself. you don't have to advertise everything. you want the profile to look inviting, not judgmental and demanding. somebody who DOES fit your criteria might think you're an asshole. (this is a little different for women who get so much more attention in a bad way)

5. numbers: answer somewhere around 150 and not more than 200. you want a number that's meaningful but doesn't look like you're on the site 24/7 clicking away. boring!

(this comes from my own short exp, women friends who use the site a lot and gave me a bunch of advice, and the okc blog iirc)

In re censoring yr answers, whats the point long run

Thats accepting that you must agree with someone on x issue in order to successfully date, which btw no imo

but deception is the key

i struggled to have opinions on a lot of the questions, had to force myself to care more than i really did. do think there are certain questions that are gonna be pretty telling "Do you really love Jesus?", "Do you like men?", that kind thing.

I hate the petty math-y ones with a vengeance, fuck you if you think this school test shit matters.

not if you're hot for nerds, bro

dude i am hot for nerds but i'm really unhot for people who get all superior about their perceived intelligence so i'm in a bind

now i actually want to see these math questions to see if they're legitimate filters

my observation to men on answering those questions: if you answer "yes" to a question that's worded "Are women OBLIGATED to shave their legs?" you sound like a psychopath. that's basically all i remember about OKC, scanning a dude's profile for his answer to that question and acting accordingly.

the ones i've seen are logic problems, half the time i can't be arsed taking the 30 seconds to work them out

obligated by whom, exactly? i am obsessed with that question. it lived in someone's mind.

but there are a lot of men who would say "yes" who aren't psychopaths, merely sexist jerks

tomayto tomahto

the very best interpretation you could put on somebody answering that question "yes" is that they don't read so good

I think the nerd IQ questions are pretty valuable. Whether a person gets them right, wrong, or doesn't care (I think there's always a "WTF IDGAF" option) says a lot about their personality at the very least. I don't think it has to be an elitist thing, I mean the questions are all pretty easy.

there are plenty of women out there who actually are into those kinds of (moronic) guys! i'm just sayin'

Useful way of weeding out feminazis imo

my roommate bitches about how many gay men say yes women have an obligation to shave their legs

that... is a thing i did not know of

i sometimes answer the logic questions purposefully wrong, what a stupid fwebsite fuck it! (well there's that one about what's bigger, moon or the sun)

hmm, the flipside is then, I guess, what if you WANT to date dumber

pick-up artists might intentionally look for wrong answers to those questions

Also going the delete/re-answer route. Answered too many questions, profile is too old, quasi-joke about poached eggs is boring, barb at self for having no sense of direction is encouraging to arseholes, no-one gets the Hitchhiker's reference (mookie, you were right), all my highest matches mostly talk about being unique and valuable snowflakes

I'm curious to know more about this poached egg quasi-joke.

Not even a quasi joke really - in the 'what are you good at' section, I say I'm working on my poached egg technique because it'll improve my weekends. I have been claiming this since 2008. Maybe instead I should name something I'm good at. Although really, I'm with in orbit upthread when she says there's no room for anything but self-effacement on OKC.

I was hoping to steal ZS's suggestion of Kdot as a username, except every letterdot is taken except udot and wdot. Maybe I'd attract random messages from Utah with udot.

the 'what are you good at' question is the hardest question to answer

i re-read my profile for the first time in a minute today and god it reads smarmy

the okc gazes also into you

says the dude who is batting .500

see that's the funny bit

"success on okc"

such as it is

has not led to

"success in relations with the sex i'm attracted to"

like now i have the weird problem of "can i feasibly reconnect with these people i haven't messaged in 3 weeks while i've been focused on this girl i have yet to meet who now seems to not want to meet me anymore"

Ach thats when I find this hard - the choice thing. Im seeing 2 guys at the minute, both who have (wildly differing) good qualities, neither of whom have jumped at me with any major "lets commit" thing yet, they both know about each other at least, and I'm like "gahhhhhh wtf do I do". I'm not used to having any attention let alone a choice :/

gr8080's strategy generated a bunch of new matches, wheeeee (I give it 3 days)

you mean gr00le?

did abide by some of g00le's rules, but I think it was gr80 who said he was re-answering? can't find it now

i sometimes answer the logic questions purposefully wrong, what a stupid fwebsite fuck it! (well there's that one about what's bigger, moon or the sun)

― 乒乓, Friday, July 19, 2013 7:01 PM (3 days ago)

i saw a woman who intentionally answered this wrong but then wrote a few sentences about how she likes the earth so much better than the sun-- i kind of liked that

that would be a red flag for me