Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

"D, not s."

'UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES s, HAVE I MADE THAT CLEAR?'

Aren't most conversations a series of sentence-long exchanges? Much more than that feels like you're monologuing at each other.

Depends on whether you think of the messages as texts or letters? I like getting letters. There's more room for personality and perspective to come out, I think.

I feel like one-sentences back-and-forths are trying to be banter, and banter is far better accomplished in person with facial expressions and eye contact.

u realize ur saying this on ilx

eye contact terrifies me

sp Okay but I'm not trying to make anyone on ilx fall madly in love with me.

Or at least want to sleep with me enough to ask me out again.

one line banters on okc usually just end up with me sending a youtube link and never hearing back again

that's like ilx, i guess

Haha. You are a treat. I feel like one-liners are a diminishing thing, though? If neither person ups the ante by putting more effort into the corresp, each exchange just loses a little steam until someone stops writing back. And links are even lazier than prose. Links are like saying, I couldn't even be bothered to think of something to say.

Its like a relationship, but much more efficient

So after four years of mis-starts I'm actually dating someone through the site.

Pretty happy actually, she's great.

Its like a relationship, but much more efficient

oof

Grats, jo

my super promising date for thursday just cancelled because "it's a long story, but this isn't the right time."

disappointing.

holy god

http://jezebel.com/semi-terrifying-dating-site-reveals-what-strangers-real-513410785

Dating Diagnostic report that a) compares your self-perception to that of your dates', b) reveals what areas you may be overestimating or even underestimating the quality of your first impression, and c) gives you the data you need to ask "do people see me as I see myself?"

reading this immediately made me feel like a 7th grader all over again and i am not even in this game -- terrible website!

Man, I would probably never do this, but I would devour well-produced feedback data about how I present myself in romancey situations!

I mean, documentation and analysis type stuff are the only things I could really call a "passion" of mine, and especially the "quantified self" stuff. But I don't really want to go out to dinner for it.

i wonder how a really nichey site like that even has enough users to justify their claims

They'd probably just tell me I should be nicer or have long hair or something. I can get that from other people I don't like irl.

Right. That, and you'd have to go on more than a handful of dates w/ more than a handful of people to get meaningful data. xp

that's why it just seems like mean torture to me

the premise of that site reminds me of the ibanker dude who went out on one date with a girl and then kept on emailing her for 2 years afterwards saying stuff like "you kept on touching your hair so that meant you were really into me, why won't you respond to my emails?" etc.

who goes out on a date to be a test subject to improve somebody's further dating? yeah sure if you like each other, get together again, but that really looks like an afterthought here.

i wonder if they have testers who go out and are really good at collecting details (and possibly recording them on trips to the bathroom) and then they give that raw data to a machine/robotic human who analyzes the data and writes the report zagat-style

'i don't really wanna get into a lot of long email exchanges, let's just meet'

feeling this

but then again I don't-remember-what-comedian said a date proposal is translated as "What do you want to do, first?"

You "seemed uncomfortable" and "touched [your] hair very little" and therefore did not signal interest sufficiently.

Honestly the concept kind of appeals to me - maybe since I tend to think I do everything wrong haha - but the comments on that article point out exactly how awful this would be. Focus-grouping for people, sample size of 3. We have enough bland people on dating sites already.

terrifying

http://deadspin.com/5910779/24+year+old-finance-guy-asks-all-his-dates-to-complete-a-creepy-survey-afterward

http://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/ae2a7ca68323047b9d3f0313055208af/tumblr_monp8a46x11qzgn6wo1_500.png

Hahahahaha.

remdinding you of your negative traits in order to turn you into a nervous wreck while dating is what family and friends are for

xxp lol!

so awesome

goos luck

hoos luck

^^ i knew that was coming but i didn't think it would come so fast

*waits for it*

hoos luck usa

otm

so i went out with a girl friday night. we'd been texting all week like excited teenagers and being on the phone til all hours, it was great. i sort of figured the chemistry would simmer down to some degree on meeting, but it was high enough that she insisted our first meeting be at her house for whiskey. so it was. her roommate was there too, and we all got along decently enough and had some laughs and sips. the roommate politely vacated shortly thereafter, while the date kept complaining that she was tired. it was late and we were drinking whiskey, so i took that as my cue to show myself the door. she bid me good night, and i left it there.

the next day i sent her a text just to check in, mention i'd had a nice time, and her response was 'listen i don't know what happened last night but i'd appreciate it if you didn't contact me i'm really uncomfortable.'

i said 'whoa. ok. did i do something wrong?' i half expected her to accuse me of flirting with her roommate or something.

reply: 'after you left i felt sick, my roommate took me to a clinic and a toxicology screening showed things i don't remember taking, so i'd appreciate it if you didn't contact me.'

i said 'wow. wow. ok. sorry you felt sick. i definitely had nothing to do with that. i'll respect your wishes.' and that was that.

bfd, other people other plans, but the whole thing was bizarre and alarming and weirdly insulting.

holy shit that's messed up

wow, that is bizarre

what the fuck?

waaait, when you mentioned that on another thread, I assumed you meant you met her at a bar

run, hoos! ruuuun

she had already friended me on fb and followed me on instagram and has since unfriended and unfollowed me

lulz

that is good, because then you don't have to do the work!

I am trying to figure out if something weird did happen to this girl that you had nothing to do with, if she is the worst person in the world at saying "hey, I'm not interested", or if she is genuinely crazy