no boys allowed in the room!!!!

is this the neighbor?
i would not interfere behind mom's back but i would tell mom to her face that i don't agree that tampons have an impact on "virginity"

It was unexpected. She's mostly normal and modern and realistic about life things.

xp I did tell her, and I don't think she has any rational reason (I mean even in her own mind), it's just learned emotional prejudice.

My mom tried this gambit on me when I was 13. Swiftly got the Mayo Clinic medical book (her Bible) out and fought back with BIOLOGICAL SCIENCE.

"I lost my virginity to tampax."
Who the fuck even thinks this is a reasonable thing to think?

The sad thing is that the person in question was also sexually assaulted at least twice in her life, which makes me think like when that happened to her and whenever she has thought about it in all the years afterward, did she think it was "sex"?? What must that mean for a person with those beliefs to think of it that way? It's horrifying.

Guys can we talk mooncup? I know some of you use them and now that I no longer have an IUD I think I might give one a shot. Which do you use and do you like them etc.

i am wondering about them too. i have a v short but v heavy flow, and super tampons are waay too absorbent, normals are not absorbent enough etc tmi tmi

Mine's not really bad. I'm OK with regulars throughout etc. I don't know if that matters but there it is.

i just hate having to change them so often, is my thing with regulars

Pretty sure I've talked about this before, but:

I primarily prefer pads, because I don't want to lose my virginity to tampons. JUST KIDDING. My period is BANANAS heavy so tampons are a joke. But after the first couple of Shining-elevator-scene days, I really like the Diva Cup because I can just stick it in and go about my day and only empty it once, maybe twice if I'm out for a long time. That is with a flow that would still be too heavy for regular tampons, so you regular users would probably find that you can empty it even less.

Dealing with it in a public restroom, especially a stall, takes some getting used to but once you do it a couple of times it is pretty easy. I have found that carrying a little packet of some kind of vagina-friendly wipes so I can clean off the cup and my hands and not risk getting little bits of TP stuck to everything makes it much easier. It is also useful to practice taking it out and putting it in before you find yourself with your leg propped up on the stall wall, bleeding all over everything while you try to get the fucker back in the right way. I would also wear a backup pad/liner with it the first few times you take the show on the road just in case you don't have it situated quite right. But seriously, by the second or third day you use it, you'll be an expert at cramming it up there the right way.

Other pros - environment, cheaper by far in the long run.

Oh, I have tried The Keeper long long ago and didn't care for it. I do like the Diva Cup. That's the only other one I've used, and I've had this one for a long ass time.

The only thing I tried in this vein was the instead cups years and years ago and I could ever get the fuckers to sit right but I think they work differently than the keeper, diva, and mooncup do.

I can't remember what thread it was on that we talked about this stuff but since i"m here and too tired to look I'm gonna put it here anyway. I have started washing my face with coconut oil. I am very scared about this but it's been three nights and my face has totally cleared up? I had these little bumps that I thought were tiny spots but they're just gone. I'm kind of amazed. Will keep you posted.

My best technique is to fold it in half, insert it, let it unfold, and the twist and pull slightly until it feels like its created a seal. It's also important to figure out how far up is comfortable/appropriate for you. Pro tip: practice inserting it in the shower.

xp that is exciting about the coconut oil!

intrigued by coconut oil face washing

still so far so good - will give a thorough update in a week. let's hope my face doesn't explode between now and then. I have no reason to think it will except for the fact that putting oil on my face still seems weird.

Last week I bought coconut oil on the recommendation of you fine ladies. I haven't tried it yet though because a) Oil scares me and b)PP hates coconut so much the he cannot even stand to look at coconuts on TV. I am going to try it. I just hope I don't get served with papers a week later.

PP hates coconut so much the he cannot even stand to look at coconuts on TV

omg!

I am enjoying smelling like a macaroon. I don't know if I'll keep using it on my face. I haven't decided yet. It's definitely the best shaving "cream" I've ever used.

PP hates coconut so much the he cannot even stand to look at coconuts on TV

hahaha this is so funny

e - how much do you use on your face when you wash it? i finally bought some

Just a little scoop. I just googled it but it says to massage it in and then put a hot washcloth over your face to open your pores a little and leave it there a couple seconds until it cools. Then you just wipe the excess away with the washcloth. That's it!

lol sunny.

tangentially related to sunny's predicament, but not really: years ago my sister-in-law ended up trying on one of my mother in law's perfumes. sister in law goes home, forgets about it. husband gets affectionate and then freaks right out, because his wife smells like his mom --- it fucked with his head so much she ended up taking a shower to get the perfume off.

i finally managed to revive my yearbook tumblr thing and this picture seemed noteworthy because all four of these girls look like movie stars. The girl who looks like she's about to join the source family is my favorite, but they're all adorable.

http://25.media.tumblr.com/e69611b29c940b832c1595b7612d31eb/tumblr_mp20h0KHxA1rcq6xho1_500.jpg

also that reminds me - i was wondering if we could talk about this concept of "resting bitchface"

We could talk about it, but this is the first I've ever heard of it!

i saw something on jezebel about it -- everyone has a resting face. it's the face you make when you're not making any expression at all. some people, apparently, are told a lot that they have a "resting bitchface", indicating that their natural face is in some way communicating hostility.

and i tried to take a picture of my resting face, to see what it looked like. and it looked sad!

I worry that my resting face looks slack and vacant. Like I will be working away and realize I'm sitting at my desk with my mouth slightly open. I guess that's better than my other bad habit which is to sit with my jaw clenched so tightly that I get terrible headaches.

Anyway, resting bitchface is a dumb concept that has its roots in the fucked up idea that women should always look pleasing and accommodating, IMO.

it fucked with his head so much she ended up taking a shower to get the perfume off.
oh man, i don't doubt it for a second. yikes!

agree with u carl
just one MORE thing for us to feel like we have to "work on" -- your face is sitting wrong

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=3v98CPXNiSk

lol at the blonde girl who points at her bitchy resting face

resting asshole face

I look permanently pissed off, even on the rare occasions that i'm not!

o yeah ppl alwayyyys think im mad and im almost never mad

How greasy is it acceptable for hair to be when going to the hairdresser for a wash+trim? Do I have to wash my hair just to make it clean enough for someone else to wash it? And then wash it again to get the tiny hairs out and make the new cut look good? Gah.

I normally get a dry trim so I don't have to think about these things (also because the heavy-duty shampoos/conditioners salons use often makes my scalp itch) but last time I booked the receptionist told me they never did dry cuts even though I'd previously had several at this salon, so I'm trying to do things the approved way this time.

I am usually pretty greasy when I go to the salon. I generally tend to wash my hair on Sunday or Monday and then again sometime towards the end of the week. If my hair cut is on Monday, though, I'll be like fuck it, why wash my hair Sunday if I'm just going to have it washed on Monday? So I'm usually on four day hair when I go in, which is really beyond the limits of acceptability for going out in public.

My stylist has been cutting my hair for like eight years, though, so she knows I'm gross.

Ha last time I got my hair cut I hadn't washed it in a week. Ytth always tells me how good my hair smells when its unwashed so I didn't really think about it. So anyway I apologized in advance to the stylist for it bring kinda greasy and she mentioned that it smelled strongly of argan oil (which I wasnt using at the time) but it wasnt unpleasant.

Cut to: some weeks later, I've purchased argan oil for the first tome and omg it smells kinda gross. So now I feel a little embarrassed bc I wonder if she was too nice to say that it was gross. Ytth is no help bc he thinks it smells good even after a week.

I wish I could smell my own hair :/

I've been known to powder my hair to make it presentable for the last half-day before a wash and cut, but I do feel slightly sheepish telling the stylist, by the way, my hair is full of corn starch. Lucky she's cool and doesn't care (and has probably seen a lot worse).

Man I wish i could get away with not washing my hair every day :(

the problem is that once you start not-washing every day, you NEVER want to wash it.

OTM

Since it grew longer, I've settled into a routine of washing and conditioning every third day. The first day's a wash/condition; the second day's just a rinse in hot water to remove 'product' and maybe a little light styling conditioner when damp; the third is another rinse in hot water - and that night, I rub/comb olive oil or argan oil in my hair and leave it in overnight to be washed out in the morning. I tend to do all my hair dyeing on this last day in the cycle.

A good friend of mine is a hairdresser and she says that compared to some of the things she's seen on scalps, the average customer's greasy hair is NBD. You can't control that as much as not turning up with smoky, smelly hair coated in yesterday's hairspray.

I don't get my hair wet at all in between washes, and in winter when I can wear a hat to work I've been known to go over a week without washing.

My problem is I get a crazy flaky + itchy scalp by day 3, only relieved by washing.

Try massaging almond oil into your scalp from time to time, may quieten down the flakes and itchies.

Hmm, interested to try the hot water but no product thing. I try not to wash every day because it gets frizzy/flyaway and starts to look greasy quite quickly if I wash too often, so I'm curious whether being rinsed without shampoo has the same effect or not.

I never quite mastered the powder-on-hair trick, either using talc/baby powder or using some ancient bottle of "dry shampoo" my mother had. Could never get it to comb out and would always end up having to wash it out instead, defeating the point...

Repped it in another thread but: blowpro dry shampoo is cornstarch-based and has a fantastic puff dispenser that makes it super easy and effective to use. I thought it was pricey at $14 fir a tiny bottle but it has lasted so much longer than others I have used.

Xp I will give the almond oil a try - so far I've tried coconut oil, ACV/lavender/teatree, super balm from lush, and head and shoulders, and nothing has really worked.

The blowpro is also scentless, which is a huge plus

I won't use dry shampoo - it's never worked for me. If you have dark hair it can be like spraying fake dandruff on, too.

If I were you, I'd switch to a gentler shampoo (if you're economising, those big bottles of TRESemmé are good value) and apply conditioner to your hair, not the scalp. It sounds like what you're using is a little bit strippey for your head, which makes your scalp redouble its sebum-producing efforts, vicious-circle style. I settled on the 'ducking head in hot bath water' method because I don't feel clean or like I'm able to de-stress unless I dip all of me in the hottest water I can manage, first thing in the morning.

Am already doing all that!

I thought the problem would resolve itself over time, once I started cutting way down on washing, but it's been a year (or 2 years?) And no change.

I rinse my hair in between washes, too, and sometimes give my scalp a scrub with my fingertips. Plus I wash my bangs or else they get really greasy.