you said it, sister
― but olives are valuable too (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 11 June 2013 22:47 (ten years ago) link
otm
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 11 June 2013 23:02 (ten years ago) link
how long has yr friendly Love Doctor said so?
― ballin' from Maine to Mexico (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 00:31 (ten years ago) link
predictably, i've overscheduled myself. :/
― steening in your HOOSless carriage (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 00:56 (ten years ago) link
predictably, you've humblebragged
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 12 June 2013 01:14 (ten years ago) link
I had utterly given up on OKC but got messaged the other night by someone I have mutual friends with (but havent met) and he seems like a dece fellow. Gonna meet up with him on the weekend. I'm not sure I'm in the headspace to be dating right now, but hey I cant let that shut me off from experience.
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 03:26 (ten years ago) link
on dis ting, where to even start
― beet boy, beet boy, eat that perfect beet boy (haitch), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 11:46 (ten years ago) link
no hype lol
― steening in your HOOSless carriage (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 14:00 (ten years ago) link
too late for that
― wince (imago), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 14:04 (ten years ago) link
Christ, a match came up in my emailed "quiver" thingies, the guy decided calling himself "CuudleStarv3d" would be a good idea. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT DUDE.
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 13 June 2013 00:22 (ten years ago) link
...pretend I spelt that properly.
curdle st4rved
― multi-purpose food (electricsound), Thursday, 13 June 2013 00:31 (ten years ago) link
CUDDLE STARV 3-D
― misandry rublev (donna rouge), Thursday, 13 June 2013 01:50 (ten years ago) link
Definitely the best in that series, CUDDLE STARV 2 was some bullshit.
― ORK OUT (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Thursday, 13 June 2013 05:44 (ten years ago) link
2 STARVD 2 CUDDLE
― beet boy, beet boy, eat that perfect beet boy (haitch), Thursday, 13 June 2013 06:36 (ten years ago) link
Wish you could just exclude poly/open relationship people from your searches.
― ORK OUT (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Thursday, 13 June 2013 08:22 (ten years ago) link
You can if theyre honest enough to put "available' rather than "single", then you can search on "single only" but alas a lot of them put "single" :/
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 13 June 2013 08:45 (ten years ago) link
There's this guy I am Fetlife friends with who is one of my highest matches on OkCupid. We also follow each other on tumblr. I think I wrote him off once because he was boring at texting. Finally going to meet him, I think, as I've come to terms with the fact that not everyone is a WORDSMITH when it comes to text messages.
― homosexual II, Thursday, 13 June 2013 15:40 (ten years ago) link
"You can if theyre honest enough to put "available' rather than "single", then you can search on "single only" but alas a lot of them put "single" :/"
fwiw I'm in a poly-type-ish relationship and we both have "single" b/c "available" seems to be the domain of married people looking to cheat on their partners, or so it seems, and all the other poly-type-ish people have "single"
― Doctor Casino, Thursday, 13 June 2013 15:46 (ten years ago) link
well you're never going to stand out with that attitude
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i don't understand why a person wouldn't put a lot more thought into a magic message that appears privately in someone's pocket
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:05 (ten years ago) link
I think I wrote him off once because he was boring at texting.
lol!
― ttyih boi (crüt), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:08 (ten years ago) link
I'd do that.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:16 (ten years ago) link
c/d: people who respond to your messages but with only one word or one sentence and who don't seem to know how to hold a conversation
― 乒乓, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:36 (ten years ago) link
i think i am writing someone off because she is a bookworm whose favorite author is f. scott fitzgerald :\
gonna need two sentences from you to get anything going on that, dude
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:40 (ten years ago) link
dudddd to those people. Otoh some people don't seem to like my style of slightly longer messages with actual conversation in them.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:41 (ten years ago) link
yeah i am wondering if that comes off as too strong / creepy
― 乒乓, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:44 (ten years ago) link
'i don't really wanna get into a lot of long email exchanges, let's just meet'
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:46 (ten years ago) link
I am all for meeting quickly, I'm just looking to establish whether you are someone I should shower and put on make-up for. Write 2 or 3 or 4 nice emails and then let's get drunk together.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:48 (ten years ago) link
Hey, what's with all the Christian Grey wannabe's claiming to be DOMs on OkCupid these days? It's gross.
― homosexual II, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:55 (ten years ago) link
we all seek a gimmick that works
― Nhex, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:57 (ten years ago) link
Hale yes. A 30-yo rich kid asked me to date younger men for him and his profile was ALLLLLL about "D, not s." I told him if he found any younger men he thought I would like, to send them my way. He didn't seem to like that very much.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:59 (ten years ago) link
what's worked for me in the past is: hey, something about their profile we have in common/seemed interesting, innocuous off hand joke, closing. problem I'm having now is the majority of the profiles in my area refer to the New York Jets and Bud Light.
― Spectrum, Thursday, 13 June 2013 17:06 (ten years ago) link
I held back and kept it at only one reference to "cheap American beer."
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 17:08 (ten years ago) link
"D, not s."
'UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES s, HAVE I MADE THAT CLEAR?'
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 17:13 (ten years ago) link
Aren't most conversations a series of sentence-long exchanges? Much more than that feels like you're monologuing at each other.
― Dan I., Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:43 (ten years ago) link
Depends on whether you think of the messages as texts or letters? I like getting letters. There's more room for personality and perspective to come out, I think.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:50 (ten years ago) link
I feel like one-sentences back-and-forths are trying to be banter, and banter is far better accomplished in person with facial expressions and eye contact.
u realize ur saying this on ilx
― Dan I., Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:57 (ten years ago) link
eye contact terrifies me
― ttyih boi (crüt), Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:58 (ten years ago) link
sp Okay but I'm not trying to make anyone on ilx fall madly in love with me.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:00 (ten years ago) link
Or at least want to sleep with me enough to ask me out again.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:02 (ten years ago) link
one line banters on okc usually just end up with me sending a youtube link and never hearing back again
― 乒乓, Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:02 (ten years ago) link
that's like ilx, i guess
Haha. You are a treat. I feel like one-liners are a diminishing thing, though? If neither person ups the ante by putting more effort into the corresp, each exchange just loses a little steam until someone stops writing back. And links are even lazier than prose. Links are like saying, I couldn't even be bothered to think of something to say.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:19 (ten years ago) link
Its like a relationship, but much more efficient
― posters who have figured how to priv (darraghmac), Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:28 (ten years ago) link
So after four years of mis-starts I'm actually dating someone through the site.
Pretty happy actually, she's great.
― Josiah Alan, Thursday, 13 June 2013 22:15 (ten years ago) link
oof
― the bitcoin comic (thomp), Thursday, 13 June 2013 22:32 (ten years ago) link
Grats, jo
― steening in your HOOSless carriage (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Friday, 14 June 2013 01:38 (ten years ago) link
my super promising date for thursday just cancelled because "it's a long story, but this isn't the right time."
disappointing.
― steening in your HOOSless carriage (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Sunday, 16 June 2013 19:47 (ten years ago) link