my dude just proposed to a girl he met via instagram
they were both following each other (because of mutual friends) and she just took it to him in the comments one day and asked him out on a double date
― http://threeframes.net (gr8080), Tuesday, 11 June 2013 19:33 (ten years ago) link
aw i thought that you meant he had proposed marriage via instagram
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 11 June 2013 19:36 (ten years ago) link
i'm sure it's happened
― http://threeframes.net (gr8080), Tuesday, 11 June 2013 19:37 (ten years ago) link
sierra probably makes the ring sparkle the most
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 11 June 2013 19:38 (ten years ago) link
I believe that when two people join in a relationship that they can become one, and are both equal. I know that these are just words for now, but maybe someday I can prove them to you. I love playing racquetball, softball and I run.
Something Smoove-esque about this.
― ljubljana, Tuesday, 11 June 2013 21:46 (ten years ago) link
I gave up. I don't even like any of my matches anymore. Dating in any fashion is a lot of PITA.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Tuesday, 11 June 2013 22:13 (ten years ago) link
you said it, sister
― but olives are valuable too (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 11 June 2013 22:47 (ten years ago) link
otm
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 11 June 2013 23:02 (ten years ago) link
how long has yr friendly Love Doctor said so?
― ballin' from Maine to Mexico (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 00:31 (ten years ago) link
predictably, i've overscheduled myself. :/
― steening in your HOOSless carriage (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 00:56 (ten years ago) link
predictably, you've humblebragged
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 12 June 2013 01:14 (ten years ago) link
I had utterly given up on OKC but got messaged the other night by someone I have mutual friends with (but havent met) and he seems like a dece fellow. Gonna meet up with him on the weekend. I'm not sure I'm in the headspace to be dating right now, but hey I cant let that shut me off from experience.
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 03:26 (ten years ago) link
on dis ting, where to even start
― beet boy, beet boy, eat that perfect beet boy (haitch), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 11:46 (ten years ago) link
no hype lol
― steening in your HOOSless carriage (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 14:00 (ten years ago) link
too late for that
― wince (imago), Wednesday, 12 June 2013 14:04 (ten years ago) link
Christ, a match came up in my emailed "quiver" thingies, the guy decided calling himself "CuudleStarv3d" would be a good idea. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT DUDE.
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 13 June 2013 00:22 (ten years ago) link
...pretend I spelt that properly.
curdle st4rved
― multi-purpose food (electricsound), Thursday, 13 June 2013 00:31 (ten years ago) link
CUDDLE STARV 3-D
― misandry rublev (donna rouge), Thursday, 13 June 2013 01:50 (ten years ago) link
Definitely the best in that series, CUDDLE STARV 2 was some bullshit.
― ORK OUT (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Thursday, 13 June 2013 05:44 (ten years ago) link
2 STARVD 2 CUDDLE
― beet boy, beet boy, eat that perfect beet boy (haitch), Thursday, 13 June 2013 06:36 (ten years ago) link
Wish you could just exclude poly/open relationship people from your searches.
― ORK OUT (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Thursday, 13 June 2013 08:22 (ten years ago) link
You can if theyre honest enough to put "available' rather than "single", then you can search on "single only" but alas a lot of them put "single" :/
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 13 June 2013 08:45 (ten years ago) link
There's this guy I am Fetlife friends with who is one of my highest matches on OkCupid. We also follow each other on tumblr. I think I wrote him off once because he was boring at texting. Finally going to meet him, I think, as I've come to terms with the fact that not everyone is a WORDSMITH when it comes to text messages.
― homosexual II, Thursday, 13 June 2013 15:40 (ten years ago) link
"You can if theyre honest enough to put "available' rather than "single", then you can search on "single only" but alas a lot of them put "single" :/"
fwiw I'm in a poly-type-ish relationship and we both have "single" b/c "available" seems to be the domain of married people looking to cheat on their partners, or so it seems, and all the other poly-type-ish people have "single"
― Doctor Casino, Thursday, 13 June 2013 15:46 (ten years ago) link
well you're never going to stand out with that attitude
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i don't understand why a person wouldn't put a lot more thought into a magic message that appears privately in someone's pocket
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:05 (ten years ago) link
I think I wrote him off once because he was boring at texting.
lol!
― ttyih boi (crüt), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:08 (ten years ago) link
I'd do that.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:16 (ten years ago) link
c/d: people who respond to your messages but with only one word or one sentence and who don't seem to know how to hold a conversation
― 乒乓, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:36 (ten years ago) link
i think i am writing someone off because she is a bookworm whose favorite author is f. scott fitzgerald :\
gonna need two sentences from you to get anything going on that, dude
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:40 (ten years ago) link
dudddd to those people. Otoh some people don't seem to like my style of slightly longer messages with actual conversation in them.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:41 (ten years ago) link
yeah i am wondering if that comes off as too strong / creepy
― 乒乓, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:44 (ten years ago) link
'i don't really wanna get into a lot of long email exchanges, let's just meet'
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:46 (ten years ago) link
I am all for meeting quickly, I'm just looking to establish whether you are someone I should shower and put on make-up for. Write 2 or 3 or 4 nice emails and then let's get drunk together.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:48 (ten years ago) link
Hey, what's with all the Christian Grey wannabe's claiming to be DOMs on OkCupid these days? It's gross.
― homosexual II, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:55 (ten years ago) link
we all seek a gimmick that works
― Nhex, Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:57 (ten years ago) link
Hale yes. A 30-yo rich kid asked me to date younger men for him and his profile was ALLLLLL about "D, not s." I told him if he found any younger men he thought I would like, to send them my way. He didn't seem to like that very much.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 16:59 (ten years ago) link
what's worked for me in the past is: hey, something about their profile we have in common/seemed interesting, innocuous off hand joke, closing. problem I'm having now is the majority of the profiles in my area refer to the New York Jets and Bud Light.
― Spectrum, Thursday, 13 June 2013 17:06 (ten years ago) link
I held back and kept it at only one reference to "cheap American beer."
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 17:08 (ten years ago) link
"D, not s."
'UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES s, HAVE I MADE THAT CLEAR?'
― j., Thursday, 13 June 2013 17:13 (ten years ago) link
Aren't most conversations a series of sentence-long exchanges? Much more than that feels like you're monologuing at each other.
― Dan I., Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:43 (ten years ago) link
Depends on whether you think of the messages as texts or letters? I like getting letters. There's more room for personality and perspective to come out, I think.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:50 (ten years ago) link
I feel like one-sentences back-and-forths are trying to be banter, and banter is far better accomplished in person with facial expressions and eye contact.
u realize ur saying this on ilx
― Dan I., Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:57 (ten years ago) link
eye contact terrifies me
― ttyih boi (crüt), Thursday, 13 June 2013 20:58 (ten years ago) link
sp Okay but I'm not trying to make anyone on ilx fall madly in love with me.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:00 (ten years ago) link
Or at least want to sleep with me enough to ask me out again.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:02 (ten years ago) link
one line banters on okc usually just end up with me sending a youtube link and never hearing back again
― 乒乓, Thursday, 13 June 2013 21:02 (ten years ago) link
that's like ilx, i guess