Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

yeah, this is a crazy minefield imo - i've approached and been approached by a couple girls i knew in real life who came up as high okc matches, and it's been wicked awkward every time (even if the context of the approaching is "ha how crazy")

how you gonna let a computer make you feel weird about a girl

hoos can you be victorian for a second and ask your friends about her

how you gonna let a computer make you feel weird about a girl

― j., Tuesday, June 11, 2013 7:16 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is a key post ty

i'm also being double stupid cause we already follow e/o on twitter & instagram tbh

i think i should move to DC

otm

yes hoos, u r dbl stupid :)

my dude just proposed to a girl he met via instagram

they were both following each other (because of mutual friends) and she just took it to him in the comments one day and asked him out on a double date

aw i thought that you meant he had proposed marriage via instagram

i'm sure it's happened

sierra probably makes the ring sparkle the most

I believe that when two people join in a relationship that they can become one, and are both equal. I know that these are just words for now, but maybe someday I can prove them to you. I love playing racquetball, softball and I run.

Something Smoove-esque about this.

I gave up. I don't even like any of my matches anymore. Dating in any fashion is a lot of PITA.

you said it, sister

otm

how long has yr friendly Love Doctor said so?

predictably, i've overscheduled myself. :/

predictably, you've humblebragged

I had utterly given up on OKC but got messaged the other night by someone I have mutual friends with (but havent met) and he seems like a dece fellow. Gonna meet up with him on the weekend. I'm not sure I'm in the headspace to be dating right now, but hey I cant let that shut me off from experience.

on dis ting, where to even start

no hype lol

too late for that

Christ, a match came up in my emailed "quiver" thingies, the guy decided calling himself "CuudleStarv3d" would be a good idea. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT DUDE.

...pretend I spelt that properly.

curdle st4rved

CUDDLE STARV 3-D

Definitely the best in that series, CUDDLE STARV 2 was some bullshit.

2 STARVD 2 CUDDLE

Wish you could just exclude poly/open relationship people from your searches.

You can if theyre honest enough to put "available' rather than "single", then you can search on "single only" but alas a lot of them put "single" :/

There's this guy I am Fetlife friends with who is one of my highest matches on OkCupid. We also follow each other on tumblr. I think I wrote him off once because he was boring at texting. Finally going to meet him, I think, as I've come to terms with the fact that not everyone is a WORDSMITH when it comes to text messages.

"You can if theyre honest enough to put "available' rather than "single", then you can search on "single only" but alas a lot of them put "single" :/"

fwiw I'm in a poly-type-ish relationship and we both have "single" b/c "available" seems to be the domain of married people looking to cheat on their partners, or so it seems, and all the other poly-type-ish people have "single"

well you're never going to stand out with that attitude

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i don't understand why a person wouldn't put a lot more thought into a magic message that appears privately in someone's pocket

I think I wrote him off once because he was boring at texting.

lol!

I'd do that.

c/d: people who respond to your messages but with only one word or one sentence and who don't seem to know how to hold a conversation

i think i am writing someone off because she is a bookworm whose favorite author is f. scott fitzgerald :\

gonna need two sentences from you to get anything going on that, dude

dudddd to those people. Otoh some people don't seem to like my style of slightly longer messages with actual conversation in them.

yeah i am wondering if that comes off as too strong / creepy

'i don't really wanna get into a lot of long email exchanges, let's just meet'

I am all for meeting quickly, I'm just looking to establish whether you are someone I should shower and put on make-up for. Write 2 or 3 or 4 nice emails and then let's get drunk together.

Hey, what's with all the Christian Grey wannabe's claiming to be DOMs on OkCupid these days? It's gross.

we all seek a gimmick that works

Hale yes. A 30-yo rich kid asked me to date younger men for him and his profile was ALLLLLL about "D, not s." I told him if he found any younger men he thought I would like, to send them my way. He didn't seem to like that very much.

what's worked for me in the past is: hey, something about their profile we have in common/seemed interesting, innocuous off hand joke, closing. problem I'm having now is the majority of the profiles in my area refer to the New York Jets and Bud Light.

I held back and kept it at only one reference to "cheap American beer."

"D, not s."

'UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES s, HAVE I MADE THAT CLEAR?'

Aren't most conversations a series of sentence-long exchanges? Much more than that feels like you're monologuing at each other.