Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

yeah and if you're doing it in the quickmatch" mode, you dont get to see their whole profile, and once you DO get to see their whole profile, maybe theres something thats a turn-off

bamf

No, you can actually scroll down and see the profile in quickmatch mode. xpost

yes but not their "details" (height, religion, diet stuff etc) or their "you should message me if" essay

in quickmatch you can skip the profile (or rate it 3* or something) and then when it says something like 'oh are you sure?' you can click on their profile. I think? I've deactivated my account now. okc's worked out pretty well for me.

If they look promising I always skip, then on the next screen click on the little icon of the person you just viewed.

sure, i'm just attempting to explain how a casual user could rate someone highly in quickmatch and then not give a shit about getting in touch with them once the site notified it was a mutual attraction

Posting to ilx about things seems to spur them to happen, even if to no effect? I got a response from the 2nd co-starring person but a profoundly unenthusiastic one that asked me nothing. Ho hum.

When you're single and going on lots of dates, you start to wish you had some sort of dating superpower. Perhaps a Spidey sense to help you differentiate Ms. Right from Ms. Wrong. Or a charm spell to win over that dreamy person who's out of your league. Or—for efficiency's sake—the capacity to be on three dates at the same time.

http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/superman/2013/05/dating_apps_and_pheromones_better_sex_through_technology_neuroscience_and.html

i def have to credit the sheer number of dates okc has gotten me with an overall boost in my lady-seeking confidence generally

@JohnTesh 20 May
Most people respond to an online dating invite in 19 hours. If you don't hear back by then, they probably aren't interested. #Teshtips

lol i just came here with that

<3

im about to log on again for the first time in 3-4 months, lets see what awaits me

I think everyone who was gonna message me has messaged me at this point. I'm all dried up.

Hmmm well "stuck up" man found me on Plenty of Fish (NOT recommended) & also revisited my OKC profile again last night. It might be time to block.

he followed you to other sites? yikes!

His first message on the other site: so, why are you too stuck up to talk to me?

I can't believe that guy has to use the internet to get dates, he's probably so successful he's just trying to slow things down a little.

Haha, yeah he's probably freaking out because he's never experienced rejection before.

should I get an okcupid account? it kind of scares me. also I don't know if it's a thing that people my age use.

maybe I should wait a few months. I am ALMOST ready to start dating again. but first I have to clean my entire house. which will probably take a few months.

lol crut! Do what makes you happy. It is getting to be summer, though--it's a good time to go on casual dates in the outdoors?

giving this a whirl again. i had some pretty good luck with it when I lived in NYC, but out in the suburbs it's not looking as promising. it's amazing how stark the differences are b/t the types of people who live in both areas, but prob shouldn't be that surprising.

iatee to thread

don't put the city folk on too much of a pedestal, those illusions will be shattered quickly lol

i think i have okc fatigue, every profile is starting to look the same to me

going on a date in the suburbs sounds like fun. i'll come pick you up around 7, we'll go to the mall, get dinner and drinks at ruby tuesday's, walk around and go to some stores, finish up with a late night horror movie at the 'plex.

that's pretty much how my last date in the 'burbs went from start to just about the finish.

i can't really think of any alternatives ... head to a friend's place, my place, your place, maybe go to a park that's 1/1000000th the size of anything in the city ... go on a hike, go to the city. that's about it. i'm bored just thinking about it. i need to move back to the city.

i forgot that summer is when all the interns come to town

flood of brand new people with "i'm here for the summer" as top line

Hey, there's always the arcade at Dave and Buster's! (xp)

suburbs usually have bowling alleys

It feels so perversely appropriate that maybe the best new match I've seen this year is also "oh btw, I don't actually live in city I'm listed under but another one 4 hours away]."

in the same message that somebody agreed to meet up they also professed to finding 'HAHA RAP LYRICS BUT ALL PROPER AND STODGY AND SHIT' type humor to be funny. i'm so conflicted

you guys can troll each other; it'll be cute

i'm gonna print out a troll mask and wear it to the meet up

i came accross the girl who's photo is used in the primary screen shot for the iPhone app in the app store.

Oh wow. My biggest claim to fame is talking to the girl who designed the Main Attrakionz album cover (the first one, sadly not Bossalinis...)

I found my fave OkCupid person so far and then I saw her at a gig the next night! No contact by either means, which left me feeling a bit creepy even though I DID NOTHING WRONG. :'(. It's been four months since I registered and I still haven't filled out my profile, I'll do it soon when I'm less busy, I really will.

I've had mine for like a year and STILL haven't filled out the essays, though I've answered many questions. But I will, really I will, too. I've been not interested in going on any dates the last couple months, so it's working out.

ugh 99% match with hottie i have dozens of irl mutual friends with that i have never actually met

why is that an ugh

sounds like a solid lead?

how do you know who your mutual friends are?

hmmm, is being a homeopath a good enough reason to click "not interested"?

depends how much investment, i suppose

i clicked anyway, don't want to go there

I support that decision. Also taking the horoscope seriously.

(no homeo)