― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 12:58 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 12:59 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:00 (eighteen years ago) link
not analogous, though. iraqis killing US soldiers are not criminals, they aren't breaking any generally agreed laws. whereas the US troops using chem weapons and torturing iraqis are.
― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:00 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:02 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:04 (eighteen years ago) link
(OK, perhaps technically the US are not "at war" with Iraq any more, but it's still an illegal occupation.)
― The Damp Is Rising (kate), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:06 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:07 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:09 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:10 (eighteen years ago) link
If two 14-year-olds have sex, the boy can be prosecuted for rape but not the girl. Which is odd, especially as a 14-year-old girl is emotionally much more grown-up than her male counterpart.
So there's some room for improvement in the law there, but I'd guess that women having sex with a man against his will is pretty rare compared to the other way around — the man has the more 'active' role in proceedings, and if he's really, really drunk any would-be female rapists will find themselves trying to play snooker with a length of rope, if you know what I mean.
― Hello Sunshine (Hello Sunshine), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:11 (eighteen years ago) link
i certainly think that a women, not matter what state shes in or what shes wearing, is neither to blame nor responsible in any way if she is raped. but i think that there are certain conditions whihc might contribute to a rape occuring. its when a moral aspect comes in that i think judgements of this kind get twisted. there is a chance that if you control your drinking, cover up etc, you might be able to reduce the risk of rape, but this doesnt mean that there is moral force compelling you to do so, i think.
xpost i agree with trife that the idea that the woman should have to say no for sex to be declared non-consensual is freaky, given the power dynamic involved with sex why shouldnt there be a burden of proof that either partner said "yes", rather than "no"?
i dont expect to have to refuse everything that i dont want, i prefer to be asked if i do want them in most cases. why shouldnt this be the same in sex?
― ambrose (ambrose), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:12 (eighteen years ago) link
Don't bank with NatWest, then.
― Hello Sunshine (Hello Sunshine), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:14 (eighteen years ago) link
XXXXpost.
― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:14 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:15 (eighteen years ago) link
Whew, that one almost got away from me there!
― Sororah T Massacre (blueski), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:16 (eighteen years ago) link
― ambrose (ambrose), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:16 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:17 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 13:19 (eighteen years ago) link
That's not what anyone's saying though. What I'm saying is that if you impair your senses through intake of chemicals to a point when you cannot avoid certain situations, then you have to take responsibility for getting yourself in a fucking mess where something bad can happen. Yes, the rapist is 100% to blame for the rape itself, which is an entirely reprehensible and disgusting act and not the behaviour of a normal, moral human being; but if you are blind drunk and are raped in a situation where you would not have been raped were you not blind drunk, well, you got yourself drunk. Same if you get beaten up. It's awful and horrendous and no one should be beaten up or raped, drunk or not, but there are assholes out there and if you've half a brain you should know that and take steps to avoid them.
Henry's made some very cogent points about different kinds of rape too, obviously.
XXXpost.
really nick? what if you werent paying total attention and were rear-ended by another vehicle, which seems much closer to rape than driving your car into a tree or something, does that person deserve to be shamed as well? what about if youve been in a car wreck of your own making, lost both your legs, and then i kick your crutches out from under you and rob you? hey maybe "responsibility" isnt as important as your tory ass thinks it is
If you're not paying attention and someone rear-ends your car then yes, pay fucking attention. Take responsibility for your own actions and be aware of the potential asshole actions of others. How this makes me a tory I'm not quite sure, except that accusing someone of being a tory when they extole not 100% sassy "not my fault" uber-liberal bullshit opinions is a common ILX habit. As is anonymity.
― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 November 2005 13:26 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 14:12 (eighteen years ago) link
drunkenness and immodesty are almost universally considered moral issues.
― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:15 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 14:16 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 14:18 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 14:19 (eighteen years ago) link
― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:21 (eighteen years ago) link
― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:21 (eighteen years ago) link
― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:22 (eighteen years ago) link
it's so normal pregnant women and toddlers do it.
― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:24 (eighteen years ago) link
― Come Back Johnny B (Johnney B), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:24 (eighteen years ago) link
― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:25 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 14:26 (eighteen years ago) link
― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:26 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 14:27 (eighteen years ago) link
― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:27 (eighteen years ago) link
It's a shame because this thread had got me thinking about some interesting stuff, and it seemed like quite sensitive things were being debated in a way that didn't make me feel uncomfortable on a personal level. Which it now does.
― The Damp Is Rising (kate), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:29 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 14:30 (eighteen years ago) link
I like how Trife is now insinuating that I am a rapist. Not every victim is innocent. Not everything you read in the papers is true.
― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:30 (eighteen years ago) link
I take Nick's point, but the logic seems flawed somewhere. Maybe I'm being dumb but "The guy's 100% responsible, but the woman needs to take some of the responsibility" doesn't make sense to me. -- Come Back Johnny B (john.barlo...)
you're looking at it from the wrong end of the telescope. with a large number of rape cases, the thing is to prove that an offence has taken place -- to prove that the woman is 'a rape victim'.
it's difficult to prosecute for rape, at levels below violent attack, precisely because concepts like 'consent' become very slippery when drink/drugs/etc is involved. so you have lots of very ugly court cases where the guy has clearly 'taken advantage' (and of course he may well have been under the influence also) but it's very hard to prove that the victim was not consenting -- partly of course because of lack of witnesses.
nick hasn't said the crime of rape is diminished by the irresponsibility of the victim, but it's actually fairly cold comfort for victims to know that they have some internet dude in their corner saying it's categorically never your responsibility to do your best not to get into difficult situations, like some guy's car at the end of the evening when you're shitfaced.
― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:33 (eighteen years ago) link
(Sorry Kate)
― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 21 November 2005 14:34 (eighteen years ago) link
im sure rape victims enjoy some creepy internet dude looking for ways to blame them and increase their exact percentage of culpability even more
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 15:27 (eighteen years ago) link
― _, Monday, 21 November 2005 15:31 (eighteen years ago) link
― The Damp Is Rising (kate), Monday, 21 November 2005 15:37 (eighteen years ago) link
When a person, a private citizen, about their OWN business, fails to take whatever "reasonable measures" (avoiding drugs and alcohol; avoiding bad parts of town; avoiding living in a flood plain; avoiding living over a faultline; wearing heavy clothing; having a penis; carrying weaponry) then there are no damages to be apportioned to other parties. The victim is the only victim. So why does blame need to be apportioned?
Because it is in society's job description to protect the freedom of its private citizens to go about their own business. So by apportioning blame to said private citizens, you are effectively stating which protections are not in society's job description, and saying "we do not, as a society, give a shit about people's freedom to do this or this or this." What do you think should fall under "at your own risk" and what should be protected? Is going down the pub looking hot and having a few more than you really should (possibly because everybody else was cheering you on) honestly fall in the same fucking category as "trying to jump my snowmobile off this 50 foot bluff" or "racing motorcycles in the pouring rain?"
I'm not going to touch the idea of not blaming the rapist because the victim was so drunk because that's patently absurd and indefensible, ergo not worth anyone's time.
― TOMBOT, Monday, 21 November 2005 15:37 (eighteen years ago) link
― TOMBOT, Monday, 21 November 2005 15:39 (eighteen years ago) link
no-one has done this!
― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 21 November 2005 15:39 (eighteen years ago) link
― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 21 November 2005 15:44 (eighteen years ago) link
Nick Southall has said nothing on this thread which as offended me - AS A RAPE VICTIM - while Ethan certainly has.
And how is it an "ad hominem" attack to ask someone if they have ever experienced the behaviour that they are trying to prescribe the reactions to? Unless you think that asking someone if they've actually been raped is by definition offensive.
― The Damp Is Rising (kate), Monday, 21 November 2005 15:45 (eighteen years ago) link
Ethan seems to think somebody has. I'm trying to send the message that he's being unreasonable and wasting his time.
I resent being told, as a rape victim, how I should feel about it. I ESPECIALLY resent a male instructing other males in the sensitive treatment of rape victims by threats of sexual violence.
Ethan's brand of chatter vs your brand of chatter vs. A Nairn's comments vs. Nick's = "one man's trash is another man's treasure" "different strokes for different folks" "welcome to the internet arguing about the relative validity of different forms of discourse is a moot point in 2005"
It's ad hominem because you're doing it because he's Ethan.
― TOMBOT, Monday, 21 November 2005 15:50 (eighteen years ago) link
On the same day, on the same site:
http://wonkette.com/605534/teen-tennis-player-who-sexually-assaulted-autistic-girl-will-not-have-future-ruined-by-prisonIt’s so weird how this keeps happening, right? You know, like it just happened with Brock Turner, and his beautiful future that no one wanted to dare ruin! Jeez, it is almost like if you are a white teen athlete, and you sexually assault someone, people are really concerned about how that might affect your future! Read more at http://wonkette.com/605534/teen-tennis-player-who-sexually-assaulted-autistic-girl-will-not-have-future-ruined-by-prison#VWG0vX911mfLCGtW.99
http://wonkette.com/605513/lets-talk-about-juanita-broaddrick
can absolutely see Bill Clinton doing this (then, not now) and not even thinking of it as rape, but thinking of it as dominant, alpha sex. I can see a LOT of men doing that during that time period, before we started telling them in the ’80s, “hey, that is rape, do not do that.” I can see YOUR NICE GRANDPA doing that, back then.***Rape is about power, not sex.” For those for whom it’s about power, those are the serial rapist guys, and they hate women and want to punish us. But I don’t think that’s in every case. I think good men can rape, and be sorry, and not do it again. This is very bad feminism.***To sum up, I think Bill Clinton could very well have raped Juanita Broaddrick; that it doesn’t make him an evil man, or irredeemable (I’m Catholic; we’re all forgiven, if we’re sorry, and Broaddrick says Bill Clinton personally called her up to apologize). It doesn’t even necessarily make him a bad feminist — you know, later, once he stops doing that.
― socka flocka-jones (man alive), Wednesday, 17 August 2016 14:38 (seven years ago) link
Thought this revive was going to be about Kurt Metzger.
http://www.dailydot.com/irl/kurt-metzger-sexual-assault-amy-schumer-twitter-block/
― how's life, Wednesday, 17 August 2016 14:55 (seven years ago) link
xpost that last half of the last sentence is worthy of the site being taken down.
― Neanderthal, Wednesday, 17 August 2016 14:57 (seven years ago) link
Yeah I p much felt like wonkette should be deleted after I read that, especially coming from its publisher.
― socka flocka-jones (man alive), Wednesday, 17 August 2016 15:05 (seven years ago) link
Also, as if it weren't enough "once he stops doing that," oh you mean other than the time he abused the oval office to have an affair with a young intern.
― socka flocka-jones (man alive), Wednesday, 17 August 2016 15:06 (seven years ago) link
my alma mater, byu, finally getting into some hot water over this. way overdue. that place is a patriarchal cesspool.
― bagging area (map), Wednesday, 17 August 2016 15:08 (seven years ago) link
and institutionally vulnerable because it's so opaque re: its retrograde policies about student bodies. i can't lie i'll be more gratified the more they get punished for it, but also if it leads to change in de-fanging the honor code it would have a real effect on hundreds of students who get caught in that horrible whirlpool every year.
― bagging area (map), Wednesday, 17 August 2016 15:16 (seven years ago) link
This has to be fake, right?
https://twitter.com/realbrockturner
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Wednesday, 14 September 2016 16:25 (seven years ago) link
Brock Turner @realbrockturner June 29Loving the new #HeterosexualPrideDay hashtag! #Proud #Swimmer #Hetero
I'm pretty sure this is a troll account
― one way street, Wednesday, 14 September 2016 16:32 (seven years ago) link