Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

lol yeah

I'm a little wary of leaning on pop psychology as much as he does since it can be a little overdeterminative/self-justifying

but I've been saying this for years:

The point of those jokes, though, is I just think it’s sad that the main places in our culture that we designate to meet new people are bars and nightclubs.

schools and work tbh

^places where people are forced to get to know you slowly

Well, that’s not a really strong pitch, “Come cook food with me and do nothing.” Maybe that’s my problem.

Come hang out in my vicinity while I do stuff! Yes, I begin to see why this never work out....

If you would know me, come live with me

Come live with me and be my love

But don't buy a pig in a poke either i spose

hanging out with someone while they cook or I cook or we both cook sounds pretty ideal to me, tbh

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5FLmGTr_GUw

And we will all the...somethings...prove--wait, that doesn't even rhyme.

It did in 1590 give a guy a break.

if you know the other quote i tip my cap

Sadly, no. I'm not very smart you know.

I only know material that was included in the Golden Treasury of Poetry for Children in approx 1951.

Tsk

hanging out with someone while they cook or I cook or we both cook sounds pretty ideal to me, tbh

― 乒乓, Friday, February 15, 2013 3:01 PM (24 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This is pretty much much all I'm looking for. I kind of think there's an impulse to be all "'On a typical Friday night I'm' at a bar partying spring break whooo!" such that wanting to stay at home and cook seems o_0

Or maybe not.

It will seem o_0 to people you aren't compatible with, but why worry about what those people find o_0? The trick is finding the people who are simpatico and :D with the things that you dig and vice versa.

What is this "Movie Match" thing? I never click on the Matches section and only noticed it now.

The results for it don't seem that much different from usual matches?

Met guy Ive been talking to I mentioned above, spent all day at an awesome music festival with him. It was really nice. Nothin happened but it was cool.

Why do I attract the conservatives?? They make up the majority of those who have contacted me or 5-starred me. My quiz answers make it very clear that I'm averse to their sort. Maybe they're trolling me.

Besides conservatism, the guy who 5-starred me last night had these attributes:

- Thinks fat people are gross and that fat is a sign of a weak character
- Talks a big game re KIP!! and ACCEPTANCE
- NO BISEXUALS EVER EWWWWWWW KILL KILL KILL
- Believes that a man who is into porn doesn't need a boyfriend
- Believes that a person w/ a mental illness is "not ready for the responsibilities of a relationship."

I wouldn't have spent 10 seconds reading about him, except that he 5-starred me. Me, a man w/ some fat parts and a fondness for abortion.

Yesterday, for the second time (different dudes, though), a guy messaged me and wants to take me to get my nails done and take me shopping. I am always tempted by these offers, but then I flake out.

WELL, I am BORED with Okcupid so I decided to make my profile kinda vampy just because--why the eff not.

anyone have any tips? my username is 'hourbackgetit'

hate my username now.

Feedback: all your pictures appear to be selfies, and that is a bit of a red flag for me. The essays are good imo

yeah the only photos of me that seem to be around are me, like, at a goth club. And that won't do!

What's wrong with selfies? I think your profile is cute. If I lived there I would friend-message you! I like the bit about drama. Anyone who says they don't like drama is a red flag for me. Usually what it means is they are going to be an evasive jerk.

What's wrong with selfies?

The problem isn't selfies ... it's if you ONLY have selfies. It makes you seem like you might never leave the house, or don't have any friends? Poorly socialized? All of this stuff is highly speculative bullshit, but it does cross my mind when I'm browsing.

Maybe you just look bad in all candid photos, or hang out with people who aren't apt to photograph hangouts? (Note: I have selfies, and you're right: I am poorly socialized and like staying at home!)

Anyway, homoII's selfies are hot, will probably override other considerations..

Maybe you just look bad in all candid photos, or hang out with people who aren't apt to photograph hangouts?

If a person thinks they look bad in all candid photos that is sort of a red flag, right? Unless you're trying to attract someone who is preying on people with esteem issues, or has plenty of their own, or ... fingers crossed ... doesn't care because the pictures are hot.

I hang out with people who aren't apt to photograph hangouts. And most of the photos they do take include other people and aren't pictures I'd be likely to include in an online dating profile. Red flagging selfpics seems kinda silly, imvho.

You can always crop your pals out of the photos.

Anyway, glad to hear my opinion is silly. Just trying to be constructive.

hate my username now.

crazy talk. great username, essays are totally full of personality - a+ profile imo

It makes you seem like you might never leave the house, or don't have any friends? MYSPACE

all your pictures appear to be selfies, and that is a bit of a red flag for me

Shit. I dont like knowing this. I only have (not that ovbious, I'd hope) selfies cos no one ever takes a decent pic of me!

Having said that, I have potential datetimes with gorgeous, mind-bendingly talented electroindustrial musician boy (tho he has to go interstate for a funeral this weekend which has kiboshed our plans for a while). And a strangely compellingly attractive 50 year old guy who seems really into me. Tho he has 2 dealbreakers (he has 3 kids, and he's head of, of all things, a fucking uk3l3l3 orchestra!?)

ALSO WHAT IS IT WITH ME AND ALL THIS MUSICIANS

I doubt I take a good picture of myself! Probably one that focuses in on my own biases.

plus if someone else takes it I might not be looking up and to the left, with a camera held over my head

I look wretched in most, if not all, candids. But I think I am reasonably attractive.

only one solution: a trip to your local mall's Glamour Shots

Candid shots never accurately capture my duckface or my peace sign.

Gah now I'm paranoid and want to go change all my damn photos.

Nah just add one!

Or just do what you want! Everyone has different standards and cares about different things. I never gave a rip if all of someone had nothing but selfpics on their profile. I'm pretty sure that was the case for the lady I'm kinda sorta seeing now, and I'm glad as hell I didn't write her off over that. People be overcorrecting on their OKC standards, damn.

Gah now I'm paranoid and want to go change all my damn photos.

you seem to be doing fine with your current photos tbh

unless you're trying to pick up polyphonic, i mean

Def isn't a dealbreaker for me even. Just something that makes me go hmm </c&c>

And for good reasons, as you explained them! Its easy to have kneejerk reactions for all kinds of reasons, too. I always go "yuck no" at anyone with a beard, and I really should stop that.

And likewise I'm sure i lose a TON of great potential mates because I say I smoke.

yeah but tbf you can just stop smoking, a beard is 4 lyfe