It's a dating website. I mean if both of you wanted to be friends and it worked out then congratulations, but you can hardly be surprised if someone you don't want to date doesn't want to keep associating.
― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Monday, 11 February 2013 22:15 (eleven years ago) link
Which is to say to vinnie that imo you did the right thing and there's no better way to do it, it's just that not responding is the other persons prerogative? f.haz otm.
― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Monday, 11 February 2013 22:16 (eleven years ago) link
i've attempted to be completely honest in my profile, but i'm kind of wondering . . . should i change my 'body type' from 'a little extra' to 'average'?
i mean, i *do* have a little extra but i'm also athletic and reasonably proportioned. is this a thing worth fudging?
― mookieproof, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:23 (eleven years ago) link
I thought you were "really damn tall"
― mh, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:30 (eleven years ago) link
Avvvvvverage, mooks. Just my vote. Having to pick one makes for a really weird split around body-types for both men and women.
― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Monday, 11 February 2013 22:32 (eleven years ago) link
only so i can pack more on xp
― mookieproof, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:33 (eleven years ago) link
Yeah, you guys are definitely right that if she isn't interested, getting no response makes sense. I guess I was more wondering that for people who were able to become friends with a date, how it happened. It sounds like I probably tried it the right way, but I am very big on second-guessing myself.
― Vinnie, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:34 (eleven years ago) link
ty L
― mookieproof, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:39 (eleven years ago) link
Like for instance it just fucks up what is perceived as "average" and if you're the kind of person who low-balls things on purpose it can fuck with how you portray yourself to others.
― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Monday, 11 February 2013 22:45 (eleven years ago) link
people keep on telling me to lie about my height : \
― 乒乓, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:47 (eleven years ago) link
The catch there is many women are assuming you're lying about your height to begin with, so should you add in a couple inches to account for that assumption? And change your screen name to Vizzini?
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Monday, 11 February 2013 22:51 (eleven years ago) link
thought about mentioning that I'm like 5'8, 5'9 with boots on! idk
― 乒乓, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:52 (eleven years ago) link
xxpost Yeah, that's terrible advice. Unless you're planning to run a long con involving shoe lifts or a lotta slouching.
― The Young And The Breastless (Old Lunch), Monday, 11 February 2013 22:52 (eleven years ago) link
wish it was the 60s, when it was acceptable for guys to wear heels
― 乒乓, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:56 (eleven years ago) link
of course every man over 6'0 would be barred by federal law from wearing heels
in fact every man over 5'7 is federally required to stoop until they are 1" below my height
I want to see the long-con shoe lift movie.
― Vinnie, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:58 (eleven years ago) link
Just hold a curtain in front of your legs during the entire courtship.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Monday, 11 February 2013 22:59 (eleven years ago) link
gonna wear a cape
― 乒乓, Monday, 11 February 2013 22:59 (eleven years ago) link
I have been progressively more intrigued by taller women, I think I should try dating over 6'
― mh, Monday, 11 February 2013 23:15 (eleven years ago) link
btw guys I apologize for using this thread as reading material, I haven't even attempted to get a date in like four months, but it's good to keep tabs on the game
Really do not get the height issue, but then again my last bf was the same height as me (5'4) so maybe Im an outlier on that front.
― Manti and the Catfish (Trayce), Monday, 11 February 2013 23:53 (eleven years ago) link
mookieproof, I'm glad you asked about which body type list. I had been using "a little extra," but changed it to "average" after talking with friends about how people's tendency to round down changes the values of those terms. Plus, I have a gut (which is "extra" and I have muscle, and it all adds up to pretty much "average" IMO.
Some other site I used years ago used the term "Thick" which I really liked a lot b/c it totally describes me, and it describes guys I like. Would also appreciate "solid," "dense," or "English bulldog."
― Je55e, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 00:16 (eleven years ago) link
Y'know, in my experience, it's often ladies of average height who require men to be a certain degree taller than them. The taller the girl, the more likely she is to understand what it's like to be written off over height-related issues. I've basically dated short-ish women and women that were a little taller than me but very few that were within a few inches of my height.
― The Young And The Breastless (Old Lunch), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 00:16 (eleven years ago) link
Vinnie, I wonder if your reply - "I wanted to continue hanging out but didn't see us being more than friends" - made it clear that you *actually wanted to continue hanging out*, b/c otherwise, it could read like the run of the mill polite no-interest message.
― Je55e, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 00:22 (eleven years ago) link
I think my mom is like 5'7" -ish, might be something to that adage about trying to find a woman like your mom I guess
haha no
― mh, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:02 (eleven years ago) link
I would support the wearing of cuban-heeled Beatle boots by all boys everywhere, in any year. I mean why be limited by when you were born?
― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:15 (eleven years ago) link
May I also suggest these chic stove-pipe pants to go with them?
― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:16 (eleven years ago) link
was I ever supposed to be wearing something else?
― mh, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:24 (eleven years ago) link
cuban-heeled Beatle bootschic stove-pipe pants
i don't even understand your banter
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:26 (eleven years ago) link
I had to google
Although I like to think it was Chic stove-pipe pants, for good times
― mh, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:26 (eleven years ago) link
fuck the beatles
http://i.imgur.com/3mSdcQ7.jpg
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:27 (eleven years ago) link
is that bob dylan?
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:29 (eleven years ago) link
yeah, but should have been marc bolan
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:31 (eleven years ago) link
^^ like the cut of this guy's jib
― mh, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:32 (eleven years ago) link
This this this. If I dont hear from somoene for bit and ask why and get the "look this isnt doing it for me, we can be friends if you like" I always read that as a brush off if it happens early on.
There's exceptions to this of course, but if I barely know a guy I'll assume "sorry just friends" means "no thanks". Ditto "some other time" when passing on a date request.
― a kissed out red popemobile (Trayce), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:34 (eleven years ago) link
marc bolan? did this thread turn into Bands you keep trying to like but can't get into ? ;-)
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:35 (eleven years ago) link
do you find it easier to get into dylan than t. rex?
also i'm not sure dylan is exactly a style icon but what do i know
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:38 (eleven years ago) link
I wasn't sure if it was Prince or Bob Dylan.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:40 (eleven years ago) link
yes! xp
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:45 (eleven years ago) link
dylan in the 60s is like who I aspire to be
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:46 (eleven years ago) link
I would aspire to be prince but I feel like if I even thought that I would instantly be consumed by flames so I refrain
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:47 (eleven years ago) link
blasphemous flames, that is
rolling off a bobby
xp lol
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 02:47 (eleven years ago) link
Well, I did suggest to her that we should watch some Doctor Who sometime (she was appalled that I hadn't seen any). The vague "let's hang out sometime!" break-off message has been used on me before, so I tried to steer clear of using it myself.
― Vinnie, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 14:35 (eleven years ago) link
I got my first date on here (on Valentine's day O_o ) and have major butterflies in my stomach. I noticed that she said "no" to the question of whether she likes to be hugged when she's meeting someone. What's the proper thing to do then? I feel like a handshake would be weird, and a nod would probably turn into some kind of awkward bow which of course would be even weirder.
― Dan I., Tuesday, 12 February 2013 20:36 (eleven years ago) link
Handshake is fine IMO, but I've used a very enthusiastic wave if it didn't feel like a handshake/hug situation.
― Vinnie, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 20:44 (eleven years ago) link
terrorist fist jab
― pun lovin criminal (polyphonic), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 20:50 (eleven years ago) link
man on the Pioneer plaque should be our paradigm.
― hot young stalin (Merdeyeux), Tuesday, 12 February 2013 20:58 (eleven years ago) link
fist bump -> explosion
― 乒乓, Tuesday, 12 February 2013 20:59 (eleven years ago) link