Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

http://okcebooks.tumblr.com/

OK, OK Cupid. My profile says I'm looking specifically for single, straight guys. Why would you include in my quiver matches a bisexual "available" dude? Not helping!

suggestive sell

http://www.okstereotype.me/

the gender/age variations (here: http://www.okstereotype.me/stats/) are something to behold.

You are probably a Girl and we are 82% sure.

...

Suddenly I'm not sure about any of their stats.

They are 75% sure I'm a guy.

Ach profile has to be publically accessible for that to work. Nooo.

You can cut and paste your essay instead.

Well that was interesting. They were right about everything except my age: they aimed 8 years too low.

RealAge (tm)

Oh missed the paste bit. LOL wtf, I'm a 29 year old guy because I talk about music in my profile a lot!?

Key words to be male include "thinking" and "computers". Thanks, quiz. Its nice to know the fact I use my brain makes me male o_0

just a trayce, thinking bout computers

http://i.imgur.com/Yvu2fsS.png

It took 15 years off my age, which was nice

http://i.imgur.com/2sVtVni.jpg

lol

It took 15 years off for me as well. I guess that's ok, though I fear it means I'm silly.

I'm still off the OKC but I'm in the process of slowly getting to know an OKC-er (also no longer on the site) who I was talking to a year and a half ago before my life kind of blew up, at which point we mostly lost touch. But I'm glad we reconnected because she's great. I guess we'll see what happens and whether I have to begrudgingly give OKC some sorta props again (she was by far my highest local match when we were both on the site).

my new strategy of never going on the website until somebody messages has been going great. my inbox is empty and I haven't been on in a month

I guess that's ok, though I fear it means I'm silly.

I kinda got the same feeling but you know what, I DONT CARE NERRR.

http://i.imgur.com/cWVztwK.jpg

Wau.

hey wanna catch a yoga class some time?

Suddenly creeping on me, I see. :-D

Though if you're serious, sure!

Funny, one of the key words in my profile is yoga, the other is ballet. /flips hair

almost went with "looking good in them yoga pants gurl" but creeped myself out :D

we totally should though.

the funny thing about the negging i posted earlier: the girl i dated all summer before i left dc came to nyc to visit that night for a work thing and stayed with me. (i referred to her multiple times upthread - met her on okc, things were initially bumpy but settled into a nice healthy relationship, and then i had to move semi-against my will right as we were getting serious)

it had been four months since i moved, and a couple months since we'd seen each other, and in that time she'd expressed interest in seeing other people, and had started to do so, and we kinda each pulled away a little. but we caught up on each other's lives and hooked up the first night she was here and it was like getting kicked in the face - to be reunited with the person i loved, to know i can't be with her long-distance, to know that she wasn't going to move to nyc and join me after all, but to experience all the old emotions and sensations. i tacitly knew that it was doomed when i left dc, of course, but god i regret leaving now - this is all gonna seem goopy and sentimental when i look back it in six months or whatever, but nobody's ever loved me like that. just getting to hold her one more time revived all the old emotions i thought i'd subsumed. blug

well maybe you should move back to dc

i mean i don't know what 'semi-against my will means' but priorities

xpost - my office in dc closed and they offered everyone relocation or severance. i took relocation w/her full support, and the understanding that she wanted to move to nyc way more than i did when we started dating

don't think moving back hasn't occurred to me though :/

Ew. Why did I get back on this? 33 messages of suck, one mediocre date. Best messages so far are one guy who informed me that he read through all 21 pages of my answers, one guy with no pic or profile info asking if I was "really looking for casual sex," and one guy who asked (this was before I had a chance to fill out my profile), "Is this just some kind of weird experiment to see how many messages you can get by being pretty?" Yeah, a hostility-laced compliment is always the best way to go.

Dude I hung out with last night was fun and pleasant enough, but pictures were seriously out of date & I am way too smart for him. Also briefly wound up at trustafarian kegger.

Awww I just found one of my old roommates on here! Such a great dude. Probably would not date, but do have ws tendencies.

I find myself hoping a lot of my uninspiring wooers have deal-breaker answers so I can summarily dismiss them.

somebody messaged me back two months after I first messaged them. she has 'starship troopers' listed as a favorite movie but that only comes after a long list of auteurs. I fear it may be listed ironically. I don't know if I can deal with somebody who doesn't take verhoeven seriously.

this stereotyping thing thinks I am about 5 years younger than I am and lean

A lady friend of mine created a profile and linked to mine on hers saying I'm a nice guy, and the result is dozens of dudes cluttering up my visitors page. She's such a goofball.

Went on two dates with a girl who I got along with splendidly, lots of interests in common, but basically no chemistry. I've never tried to do the date->friend with anyone from OKC, but I sent her a message trying to be as nice as possible that I wanted to continue hanging out but didn't see us being more than friends, so that she wouldn't be led on. Haven't heard back since. Guess I should have handled this differently? I confess to being a dummy with no experience with this kind of thing.

Would also like to know how to say this without saying this.

I think you just sort of have to pull off the band-aid. If they're feeling the same way, they'll be relieved as well, but if they liked you then there's no getting around them maybe being sad or pissed off or whatever... them not answering your messages after hearing that seems pretty neutral, as negative reactions go. What is there to say?

I will actually give OKC props on the 'friends' front. I have a few solid people in my life as a result of going out once or twice and mutually conceding that, yeah, it ain't happening in the romance department but that we'd still like to be in one another's lives.

It's a dating website. I mean if both of you wanted to be friends and it worked out then congratulations, but you can hardly be surprised if someone you don't want to date doesn't want to keep associating.

Which is to say to vinnie that imo you did the right thing and there's no better way to do it, it's just that not responding is the other persons prerogative? f.haz otm.

i've attempted to be completely honest in my profile, but i'm kind of wondering . . . should i change my 'body type' from 'a little extra' to 'average'?

i mean, i *do* have a little extra but i'm also athletic and reasonably proportioned. is this a thing worth fudging?

I thought you were "really damn tall"

Avvvvvverage, mooks. Just my vote. Having to pick one makes for a really weird split around body-types for both men and women.

only so i can pack more on xp

Yeah, you guys are definitely right that if she isn't interested, getting no response makes sense. I guess I was more wondering that for people who were able to become friends with a date, how it happened. It sounds like I probably tried it the right way, but I am very big on second-guessing myself.

ty L

Like for instance it just fucks up what is perceived as "average" and if you're the kind of person who low-balls things on purpose it can fuck with how you portray yourself to others.

people keep on telling me to lie about my height : \

The catch there is many women are assuming you're lying about your height to begin with, so should you add in a couple inches to account for that assumption? And change your screen name to Vizzini?

thought about mentioning that I'm like 5'8, 5'9 with boots on! idk