Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

great paragraphs of our time:

MRA culture grew out of various masculine revivalist movements of the 90s and early 2000s: the right-wing moralism of the Promise Keepers; the revenge-fantasy sociopathy of the “seduction community” cataloged by Neil Strauss in The Game; Nu Metal.

"; Nu Metal" is going to do the trick in most cases.

i briefly thought neil strauss's book was called the game: nu metal

I don't know what nu metal is but I have a date on Friday. Just a first one, chill.

I think my new year's OKC resolution is going to completely ignore the lists of music and movies when deciding who to message. Not books though. Baby steps.

going to be, that is

I fervently support your resolution. I'm reasonably well-read, with coherent/decent music taste, but really hate making books-and-music-that-define-me lists. And I'm musically out of date.

i specified on my list of stuff i like that lists of stuff you like isn't important to the "do i like you?" decision-making process

I should also add I am going to update my lists of stuff.

lists of stuff is the only thing i miss about this, make 'em in my head now, fantasy culture canon 2k13

All but one of the six/seven aforementioned ladies who were all "Hey, let's meet up!" over a week ago have dropped off the face of the earth, and the one remaining rainchecked a first date from last weekend due to illness. Haven't heard from her since, though, but I figure I'll give it a solid week before I just shut down my profile altogether. Pretty much over this constant flighty, flaky nonsense and I might have something brewing in The Real World so whatever.

aw :(

Like, I'm currently busting my hump looking for a job, so that's really filling my quota of wasting time on attempts at attracting the interest of people who couldn't care less at the moment, thanks.

OKC *and* applying for jobs at once is way too much indifference to subject yourself to.

Feelin' ya, Old Lunch. Was talking to five people about potentially meeting up, all of them seem to be busy now or have just ignored me entirely. Maybe they're too busy with other dates. This site can really get you down.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887323374504578217973101313736.html

yeeesh

I'd gotten lazy and cribbed from my résumé

shit guys, I just accidentally posted my résumé on okcupid and sent a hiring manager my dating profile :(

http://i.huffpost.com/gen/678735/thumbs/o-NIC-CAGE-RESUME-570.jpg

still the best way to apply for a job

google bar at bottom best bit

I assumed that daters lied about their weight. I certainly rounded down. What shocked me, though, was how many women seemed to be lying about their height. All of the 96 women I interacted with listed their height as between 5-foot-1 and 5-foot-3, even though the average height of an American woman is 5-foot-4. Though it isn't impossible that 100% of these women would have fallen below the average, it's statistically improbable. (Plus, you could tell from their photos that most of the women were taller than they said.) These women assumed that men wanted shorter, more petite dates, and they appeared to be right. Why? Because men lie about their height, too.

This shit is so stupid. So, so stupid. Not in the article, just that people give a shit about such minor details, and that people are so willing to lie pointlessly.

Yyyyyyyyyyup. I'd have zero qualms about instantly aborting a date with anyone who blatantly misrepresented themselves in some similar way. Because what else are they lying about? And dumb shit like the "straighten your hair, curly headed ladies!" nonsense in that article. Just...shut up and stop dispensing stupid advice, damaged lady.

I don't know, I find little white lies reassuring. That lady, I have no idea though. Cannot relate.

I don't know that I pay attention to height other than a vague "small, medium, large" compared to my own stature.

And...account disabled. It wasn't a total waste this time 'round as I thankfully met someone who's quickly become a friend. But still.

http://creepywhiteguys.tumblr.com/

Oh my goooooddddddd D:

Only two entries?? I feel cheated.

lol I think it was just launched today

konichiwa bitches

When I heard all the horrors messages girls received I stopped using OKC.
The fact that only girl replied in maybe 40 attempts also was key to my decision.

I dont get anything that bad, thank fuck. I do get a lot of pretty lame and sometimes slightly creepy stuff tho ("hi want a massage call me on [cellphone number]").

More sadly though, I pretty much never get replies ot the messages I initate. Even though Ive had some succesful dates from OKC and have met some genuinely awesome people, that has ALL been from them messaging me first. Its as if whatever I feel my tastes are, I dont deserve/have wrong somehow. IDGI. The guy I got tangled up with recently (we have settled things between us and decided we're best friends, and are still very close) keeps telling me "youre awesome and sexy and could have anyone you wanted".

But he gets plenty of OKC dates and I get none. What gives, guys!?

Also, the one girl who replied I was pretty excited about it. I mean, i'm a fairly shy person and have been rejected harshly quite recently so it was a little happy event. In the end she said she doesn't want to meet someone from the internet because it makes her feel uncomfortable. She then closed her account for a good month and now she is back online, so I asked her out. If nothing happens then I'm abandonning online dating altogether. I'd rather check around my network friends then sending messages and waiting for answers.

just received:

Do you happen to know when I should expect the spontaneous vomiting to subside after exposing my eyes to your photos?. I can't seem to get a hold of it and my throat is burning. :(

i'm reminded of that old simpsons gag: "why would they come to our concert just to boo us?"

That is pretty rude!

"that's not vomit; just your soul getting some air"

Man, I know negging exists but thats just fucked up.

that is crazy

Maybe it's a Wayne's World reference?

"You sure you werent looking in a mirror?" is the only lamearse comment I'd be able to make to something like that, ha ha.

Have you reported it?

i thought about it? ultimately i just laughed about it, so whatever

i wonder if this kind of thing isn't her okcupid shtick (fwiw, this was lady-on-dude negging) - maybe i've encountered a little-known female member of the mini-papas

What a cow.

trayce otm. obv response is to post her profile itt.

Anyone else been rated 4-5 stars by someone, message that person, who proceeds to not reply back? I'm starting to wonder if the OKCbot is playing matchmaker or something.

Or else my "I lost my number, can I have yours" come ons need refreshing.

Please tell me you dont really use cheesy lines like that in first messages Lee ;P

Ands yeah ive been rated and/or favourited and never gotten messages from it, but eh *shrug*

I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND why when I get a mutual 4 or 5 star rating the person never replies back. TO THIS DAY, someone who's saved me as a favorite or rated me high has never replied.