"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

That is pretty harsh.

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

hi, do you know the internet?

It's not that social networking replaces your social life, it just... mediates it. Instead of personally inviting people to parties via word of mouth/telephone/email or just throwing it up on a flyer, you're sending it to a reasonably targeted, much larger group than you'd be comfortable calling. The downside is that pretty soon you're doing the majority of communication through there, any "event" that can vary from a party or concert to two people sitting around drunk turns into some "scandalous" photo diary, and there's the online backchannel that sucks everyone in.

I've been around people where there's this obnoxious feedback loop where they're pretty much trying to come up with new people to befriend and more pictures/content to put up on things like myspace, and half of what they talk about is myspace. Urgh.

Still, why is word of mouth/telephone/email an inherently better form of communication? I agree that it's a "larger group than you'd be comfortable calling" but I think that's very likely a good thing. For example, tonight I'm going to play soccer with a casual friend from a class. He invited me and the rest of the group with a facebook message. It would have been awkward for an acquaintance to call/email, and probably would have never happened.

I had a friend whose girlfriend changed her facebook relationship status to "single" in order to make him jealous, or something.

putting yr actual girlfriend/boyfriend as 'wife' or 'husband' on facebook is kind of crepey though, surely it should refer only to actual married spouses or to best friends.

which reminds me ... enrique, are you still gonna be in glasgow this weekend?

haha this is true.

I know a fair amount of Johnston & Wales -- a local culinary school -- on there.

i don't know anyone obsessed with it, though. thank heavens.

http://badge.facebook.com/badge/36910239.80.948704031.png

My account has been hacked and because Facebook sucks, I can’t get back in. My email has been changed and ph number erased - so the only way to get in is to be sent a code, but only through the email it’s been changed to

Does this link work for you?

https://m.facebook.com/help/203305893040179

No - Facebook will only send a recovery code to the new email that’s been added to my account

That's really dumb. I had thought they'd give an alternate way to authenticate if you report being hacked.

I had a friend of a friend get locked out by a hackers and get back in, I'll ask what they did

In the last few days I've noticed my feed seems to be almost entirely suggested posts with the odd meme from groups I follow. Hardly any content from my friends. Not sure exactly when this encroachment truly started but it's lousy

You can curate this somewhat with the show more / show less buttons. Whenever I see a post from a friend I tell it to show me more like this. Whenever I see a suggested post I tell it to show me less like this. It seems to be working, at least for me.

If you view FB in a browser rather then app you can install Facebook Purity which gets rid of all that shit.

lol Purity has been amazing. sadly I tend to use it more on my phone these days but it gets all the keywords you wanna avoid out, plus that stuff too

This @highlight thing got annoying really quick.

Please, if you’re sending a fellow ilxor a friend request and their profile is set to private, introduce yourself unless you already use your full govt name here. Not gonna accept just because we have ilx friends in common if I don’t know who you are on this forum. Like, my profile is private for a reason.

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