Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

hm - well I asked if she was doing anything this weekend and maybe we could go see a movie or something - *immediately* I have a friend coming over this weekend *pause* but *pause* we should make plans for later - your subway entrance is right over there *points*

"It was nice to meet you" is a fine way to end something that didn't work out, and I used that one myself earlier this summer. I don't get why someone would be pissed off by it, it's as nice a way as you can get to making your intentions clear. I get annoyed when someone vaguely suggests staying in touch or meeting up in the future when they're not interested.

He rolled his eyes as he walked off.

sorry to butt in -- but ljub, this is totally baby behavior imo -- eye rolling? who does this? worse yet, how futile is it to roll your eyes at something? you do not want to date this person anyway, the arguments will be terrible and possibly frequent.

oh man, she just emailed me about catching a movie next week!

LL - yeah I know. I already didn't want to date him and after that I wanted to date him less.

乒乓, nice!

https://dl.dropbox.com/u/9627011/photos/redspot.gif

Woo woo!

Man, reading people accurately, or the semblance thereof, is so weird. Just when you think you know what something means, you totally actually don't--possibly bc the other person doesn't know, themselves! Everyone dissembling so hard/trying to have the right responses, there's just no way to base anything on anything except clear, decisive actions such as asking you out again. And sometimes not even then!

My date last night was distinctly gbx-ish, just slightly harder-used by lyfe.

Okay, I have had to answer way too many questions that are basically "are you a racist?"

Just when you think you know what something means, you totally actually don't--possibly bc the other person doesn't know, themselves!

this 1000x, and not just dating

Okay, I have had to answer way too many questions that are basically "are you a racist?"

― ENERGY FOOD (en i see kay), Saturday, November 10, 2012 7:02 PM (16 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

yeah I think the match % and friend % basically just exist to let you see if the other person is a conservative or not

my friend thought I was creepy for answering 300 questions - what do you think a good number of questions to answer is

it depends on your margin of error for one true love

I just answered my 1800th question and I'm extremely creepy

my pattern, it seems, is to answer the liberal-bait questions to the extreme (would you date someone who owns a gun? NO. other side -> NO must be mandatory) and then I click "I don't care" for everything else

Nice work Dayo...from your description your date sounds like a bashful anime character...I approve!

I answered I think 600 questions...the fun thing is looking at the bar graphs that they derive from your answers.

So I tried to send a message to someone, and it told me that her inbox is full, but they'll let me send her a message anyway if I pay okcupid a dollar! This is hilarious behavior, website.

Meeting up with someone from OKC to see a rock show tonight. TERRIFIED.

Buck up! It's just a hang. You only met her through the internet so if it doesn't work out, you never have to see each other again.

And who knows, you might even have fun!

Fighting the urge to head to a bar to get some courage in me before we meet. Hopefully will be fun.

they usually have drinks at shows, just don't chug in front of her obviously

my new profile is failing miserably

I can't help thinking, of course it is? Because it's not YOU and it's not even real! At least those other boring people whose profiles are neither interesting nor individual, maybe at least they really ARE that dull. But you could never be!

I haven't looked at it, so I wouldn't say anything conclusive, I certainly re-write my prof whenever the mood strikes and it doesn't always highlight the same things about me. But if YOU wrote a boring, lackluster profile it would not even be able to offer the slight charm of being genuine.

rewrote my profile and posted it to say I am looking for big titties and madd bong hits and my inbox is full

just finished the second date - thought it went well, mostly nice chats but there was a moment where I felt we were ~vibing~ a bit

ended w/o making definite plans - not sure what would be a good date idea next

feel like catpig is the trump card in almost any situation you encounter, tbh

sorry

maybe I should just spend the weekend with catpig

Just went on an okcupid date, first time I've gone out with someone who wasn't my ex since I met her. It wasn't bad! It wasn't great, but there was nothing unpleasant about it. The show we went to was a really good time, though.

The show we went to (Quasi and Jon Spencer - didn't stay for much Jon Spencer and went for beers instead) was really good. The date was strange. She got me to open up about a bunch of stuff, and it seemed pretty good, but then she seemed really distracted and concerned about her day tomorrow so we walked for a while until a bus came for her so she jumped on without saying goodbye. She texted me to say it was swell and that's it. I feel like I was in a car accident slightly worse than a fender bender, but I'm sure I'll be ok sometime next week.

Shouldn't post when drunk-ish and upset and cold. Please excuse the poor wording.

no, that was a good post

Oh, I was brushing up against shutting that whole thing down again (back in Chicago but really need to devote my time and scant resources to pursuits other than OKC-related time wastage/activities) but someone I'd been chatting with proposed an innocuous afternoon coffee which turned into an hours-long and very intimate conversation with someone who I now feel strongly compelled to keep in my life in one respect or another. Probably the single best OKC-related meetup I've experienced, so I'm feeling decidedly less cynical about the site at the moment.

I went on two dates w someone, started to get a thing for him, now he's moving to Georgia. Next.

That afternoon coffee thing happened with me and my husband :-)
No pressure...

Seeing someone in a bit over a week (she's going away for a few days) that seems almost too perfect. Going to have to do my best to relax before then. She's only 34 (I'm 41) but she knows about Four On The Floor (Canadian comedy show from the mid-'80s featuring The Frantics), which is incredible. Barely heard back from the woman from the 15th. Not sad about that now.

Certain interactions on this site make it clear why some people have OKC profiles instead of, say, a significant other. I just sent a brief and breezy reply to an equally-brief and seemingly-breezy first message from someone and got called on the carpet for how noncommital my response was and a demand to know whether she just had to try harder or whether it (whatever the unspoken 'it' entails) just isn't going to happen. I'm just gonna keep y'all in suspense as to which way I'm leaning on that one...

Oh, and having a second coffee with the previously-mentioned lady (who I've chatted with a fair bit since) tomorrow. Even if nothing romantical comes of that, though, I think I'll be seeing a fair bit more of her. Also, I seem to have gotten much better at meeting people in the month I've been back in Chicago and have met a fair number of interesting ladies in that time, which leaves me questioning my interest in OKC more hardcore than ever (seeing as how I only started using it post-college when meeting new people suddenly required more than just hangin' around campus).

WHY do people rate me 4 or 5 stars and then when I write them a message, they still don't respond??

I would also like the answer to this question. OKC users are mysterious.

Asperger's?

Or people who contact you first, then don't respond you when you reply?

I've done that

So it was you!

Ha, I'm 33 and love Four on the Floor/Frantics.

(but I'll stop hitting on you, Bryan.)

when I message I send a bunch of messages at a time, if I get a 'nibble' that's when I really examine the profile carefully

might as nip it in the bud if you see things that set off alarm bells, right?

But you're awesome, Sund4r!

I won't send a message until after I've examined the profile carefully. It's usually answers to certain questions that will prompt me to write.

Had a long OKC chat with someone else last night and I'm seeing her Wednesday. I did disclose that I was seeing someone else for the first time Thursday and she accepted that, though now I kinda only want to see the new person as she's communicative, not mysterious and quiet like the Thursday person. Also agreed to see the Quasi woman for a David Bazan show on the 13th. She'd better be more polite this time.

aw man my date cancelled on tonight - this must be OKC karma

Is there a separate OKC category for quasi women?