Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I only visit OKC to moderate lately. it's fun.

Someone congenial & fix-it-y & backpacking/ice climbing/outdoorsy msged me and continues to write when I write back. Remind me never to date fussy, emotionally out of touch editors again ever. You'd think I'd learn, but....

"If you can have a conversation about political philosophy on a random Tuesday, in a dive bar and dressed for the opera, you're my kind of girl." Translation: No actual women need apply.

So I have always had the worst luck in getting any kind of responses or messages on this site. I kinda want the new profile to be less representative of the actual me, but rather just the kind of read-between-the-lines, project-on-me kinda profile that dudes will respond to. Also need help with a new user name.

I might need a photo of me holding a ukulele.

XP that is definitely the right idea, for ladies and dudes

so my first OKC date has been rescheduled 3 times due to hurricane sandy. ominous??

― 乒乓, Wednesday, October 31, 2012 11:56 PM (6 days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

so this was a very middling date!

it's okay because I have another one tomorrow

if I do find someone through this I will attribute it to linking to both REGRET (BAYWATCH VERZH) and UPSIDE DOWN in my profile

I kinda want the new profile to be less representative of the actual me, but rather just the kind of read-between-the-lines, project-on-me kinda profile that dudes will respond to.

"dudes", haha. my old profile gave a good impression of the actual me, which resulted in ten visitors a week, and three dates overall. then i overhauled it, put all the personal info in the explained questions, encouraged people to go look for it, put a bunch of non sequiturs in the "thinking about" section, and set the prettiest possible picture of me as an avatar. result: fifty visitors a week, and tons of mail, most of which are ladies perving on The Beard, which I carefully showcased in said picture.

people actually look at the answers to questions? wow

I start with 'unacceptable answers'

making new profile tonight, anyone got suggestions to manic pixie dreamgirl-esque username?

h☺m☺sexua♪²

I always read all the questions! I can't really like anyone if they don't write explanations.

making new profile tonight, anyone got suggestions to manic pixie dreamgirl-esque username?

can you use AmelieAmelieAmelieAmelie?

UkeleleGalPal

reallifeediesedgwick

Okay fess up who is starstracknfield or whatever that name was?

Daet tonight btw.

date last night went pretty well despite the nor'easter? but can't tell if I was softly let down or not. we'll see!

man, the weather is really harshing your OKC experience

haha yes I keep wondering if it is an omen telling me to get off of OKC.

What did she say?

^ also wanted to ask this. Very interested in how parting lines are interpreted. I think I really pissed off a guy the other week by saying 'Well, it was really nice to meet you!' and not, you know, lying about wanting to keep in touch. He rolled his eyes as he walked off.

hm - well I asked if she was doing anything this weekend and maybe we could go see a movie or something - *immediately* I have a friend coming over this weekend *pause* but *pause* we should make plans for later - your subway entrance is right over there *points*

"It was nice to meet you" is a fine way to end something that didn't work out, and I used that one myself earlier this summer. I don't get why someone would be pissed off by it, it's as nice a way as you can get to making your intentions clear. I get annoyed when someone vaguely suggests staying in touch or meeting up in the future when they're not interested.

He rolled his eyes as he walked off.

sorry to butt in -- but ljub, this is totally baby behavior imo -- eye rolling? who does this? worse yet, how futile is it to roll your eyes at something? you do not want to date this person anyway, the arguments will be terrible and possibly frequent.

oh man, she just emailed me about catching a movie next week!

LL - yeah I know. I already didn't want to date him and after that I wanted to date him less.

乒乓, nice!

https://dl.dropbox.com/u/9627011/photos/redspot.gif

Woo woo!

Man, reading people accurately, or the semblance thereof, is so weird. Just when you think you know what something means, you totally actually don't--possibly bc the other person doesn't know, themselves! Everyone dissembling so hard/trying to have the right responses, there's just no way to base anything on anything except clear, decisive actions such as asking you out again. And sometimes not even then!

My date last night was distinctly gbx-ish, just slightly harder-used by lyfe.

Okay, I have had to answer way too many questions that are basically "are you a racist?"

Just when you think you know what something means, you totally actually don't--possibly bc the other person doesn't know, themselves!

this 1000x, and not just dating

Okay, I have had to answer way too many questions that are basically "are you a racist?"

― ENERGY FOOD (en i see kay), Saturday, November 10, 2012 7:02 PM (16 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

yeah I think the match % and friend % basically just exist to let you see if the other person is a conservative or not

my friend thought I was creepy for answering 300 questions - what do you think a good number of questions to answer is

it depends on your margin of error for one true love

I just answered my 1800th question and I'm extremely creepy

my pattern, it seems, is to answer the liberal-bait questions to the extreme (would you date someone who owns a gun? NO. other side -> NO must be mandatory) and then I click "I don't care" for everything else

Nice work Dayo...from your description your date sounds like a bashful anime character...I approve!

I answered I think 600 questions...the fun thing is looking at the bar graphs that they derive from your answers.

So I tried to send a message to someone, and it told me that her inbox is full, but they'll let me send her a message anyway if I pay okcupid a dollar! This is hilarious behavior, website.

Meeting up with someone from OKC to see a rock show tonight. TERRIFIED.

Buck up! It's just a hang. You only met her through the internet so if it doesn't work out, you never have to see each other again.

And who knows, you might even have fun!

Fighting the urge to head to a bar to get some courage in me before we meet. Hopefully will be fun.

they usually have drinks at shows, just don't chug in front of her obviously

my new profile is failing miserably

I can't help thinking, of course it is? Because it's not YOU and it's not even real! At least those other boring people whose profiles are neither interesting nor individual, maybe at least they really ARE that dull. But you could never be!

I haven't looked at it, so I wouldn't say anything conclusive, I certainly re-write my prof whenever the mood strikes and it doesn't always highlight the same things about me. But if YOU wrote a boring, lackluster profile it would not even be able to offer the slight charm of being genuine.

rewrote my profile and posted it to say I am looking for big titties and madd bong hits and my inbox is full

just finished the second date - thought it went well, mostly nice chats but there was a moment where I felt we were ~vibing~ a bit

ended w/o making definite plans - not sure what would be a good date idea next