― nabisco (nabisco), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:46 (eighteen years ago) link
ha. i know this guy who i would always see at parties who would just sit at the bar alone or stand by the wall, just watching people having fun. we're acquaintances, so i'd always felt bad for him, like "oh he doesn't have any friends here, i'll go chit-chat with him". i'd go over, make small talk, but he wouldn't be that responsive, so i'd talk even more to get him to talk more and 'have fun". i thought i was helping, but i guess really he just wanted me to shut the fuck up, go away, and let him soak things up. oh well. next time, i'll just wave from across the room.
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It is a choice one makes as an alternative to being alone. It could be fortunate to have a choice.Family in particular ... why do we care what they say?
― youn, Thursday, 24 November 2022 16:13 (one year ago) link
As someone who is often extremely extroverted but then has to recoup that energy later with some low-demand days, I'm balancing today between people I have to put a TON of energy into being around, ie people who I'm not on the same wavelength as, so I have to heavily moderate my behavior/reactions...and later, going to see people who are very low-effort ie we're on the same page on so many things that being around them is a pleasure.
More of the latter in my life, pls.
― Ima Gardener (in orbit), Thursday, 24 November 2022 16:52 (one year ago) link
I mean idk if that's being extro OR intro-verted, I think it's just "being around people" but whatever.
amen to the latter
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 17:12 (one year ago) link
It's folks who talk about themselves at length but never once think to ask how I'm doing that I cannot be doing with anymore, which sadly is 90% of my wife's extended family.
― MaresNest, Thursday, 24 November 2022 17:54 (one year ago) link
Sorry. Feeling that one. Seems to me some people just keep talking the way they would keep the engine running in their car so their battery won’t die.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:18 (one year ago) link
when I used to hang out with people my favourites were those who talked about themselves without wanting or expecting any reciprocity
― oscar bravo, Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:25 (one year ago) link
This is a interesting point. People talking about themselves at length is fine as long as they are picking up on the subtle or not-so-subtle cues of body language and such on whether you want to keep listening.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:46 (one year ago) link
Which is similar to what MaresNest said.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:50 (one year ago) link
I only learned “body language” is real a few years ago, I had thought it was made up for detective stories
― G. D’Arcy Cheesewright (silby), Thursday, 24 November 2022 19:39 (one year ago) link
i’m hyper-aware of body language & micro-expressions so my stories are like two sentences long bc i’ll cut it short at the slightest hint of boredombut my inner self just constantly tells me to shut up even when ppl seem intetested so i’m a better listener than talker lol
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 24 November 2022 20:00 (one year ago) link
I feel like I'm a pretty good listener and am genuinely interested in other people's lives.
I don't think I really require much reciprocal engagement, but when someone is sorta stuck on transmit all the while, I begin to get nervous and wonder why I'm even here.
― MaresNest, Thursday, 24 November 2022 22:53 (one year ago) link
Otm
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 23:02 (one year ago) link