"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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Yeah, I'm a little weird about adding ILXors, too. I'll say yes to those who ask me, but I don't add others unless I've met them IRL. I was the same way on Friendster and MySpace.

jaymc, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 16:02 (twelve years ago) link

The past two months on facebook for me

- friends with 19 yr old uni students on my course
- old friends from school appear (ie people in their late 20s)
- people I know from my gap years appear (people in their late 20s/early 30s)
- people I used to work with pop along (people either about to hit their 30s or in them)
- bosses appear (old)

(And now - the cooler people I know, people like my trendy early 20s cousin, are defecting from myspace)

From where I'm, er, poking it seems fb has morphed very rapidly into a more grown-up/varied space just within the last few weeks.

A head-mashing collision of worlds, but has been a handy way for me to update my address book and say hi to people I was crap at keeping up with when I was much busier than I am now and not in the mood for chat.

Zoe Espera, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 16:24 (twelve years ago) link

^ 8080. I'm just not quite used to granularity of it all yet. It's not about posting shit you don't want your boss to see, it's the unease of a party when both your mates and your boss are there. You have different social registers for these people.

stet, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 16:30 (twelve years ago) link

Precisely. I did feel very out of place on there when it was just me and uni mates writing 'wot time is the oral exam lol I forgot!!!!!" Was more at ease when friends my age appeared but, yes, the boss thing feels slightly gatecrashy - not cos they're mostly older but because there's obv a professional relationship there and now I'm supposed to call them my 'friend' and vice versa. Although some of the bosses I've seen making 'friends' with colleagues are probably more likely to write inappropriate stuff than I am.

Zoe Espera, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 16:38 (twelve years ago) link

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/519PAH2SC0L._SS500_.jpg

Tracer Hand, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 16:39 (twelve years ago) link

I thought that said "pubics"

Curt1s Stephens, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 16:40 (twelve years ago) link

None of my bosses are on Facebook. I'll take this as a good thing.

Ms Misery, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 16:40 (twelve years ago) link

you guys know that you can set specific parameters for privacy on a person-by-person basis? so your boss, for example, doesn't have you see that your interests include "pedophilia" or "arson"?

max, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 17:56 (twelve years ago) link

why would you want to censor that

Curt1s Stephens, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 18:12 (twelve years ago) link

max works at a daycare with no fire exits.

The Cursed Return of the Dastardly Thermo Thinwall, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 18:15 (twelve years ago) link

no fire exits makes it harder for arsonists to get in, see

Curt1s Stephens, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 18:18 (twelve years ago) link

your interests include "pedophilia" or "arson"?

But that would be the only thing we have in common! Seriously my bosses are far too old to care about shit like Facebook.

Ms Misery, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 18:27 (twelve years ago) link

people with myspace accounts should be culled.
-- Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, June 27, 2006 6:37 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Link

damn i should chillax

That one guy that quit, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 19:44 (twelve years ago) link

Most everyone at work jumped on the FB bandwagon, so they could be "hip like the students." They strong-armed me into signing up. I had to explain what a poke was to my boss, and then show her how to send a personal message.

It was depressing.

molly mummenschanz, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 19:50 (twelve years ago) link

I just signed up for this today, totally different world to myspace. It's like a more grown-up bebo really, and I never warmed to bebo. It'll take some time to get used to.

Chris in Belfast, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 21:24 (twelve years ago) link

How Facebook could crush MySpace, Yahoo!, and Google (from Slate.com).

jaymc, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 21:40 (twelve years ago) link

zoe, i'm intrigued as to which "bosses" you mean ;)

it's the unease of a party when both your mates and your boss are there. You have different social registers for these people

er. i don't, really. there are subtleties and niceties, but it's all one big swirling vortex round grimly's social sphere.

grimly fiendish, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 22:17 (twelve years ago) link

The typical Facebooker spends hours each day sending messages, posting "notes" or blog entries, and uploading photos, along with trolling for freshmen girls who love the Decemberists.

journalists be hyperbolizin

That one guy that quit, Tuesday, 26 June 2007 22:21 (twelve years ago) link

some people on there have like 20-30 comments a day, most of which are the same message

"wow sounds like you had a great time!!! how was steve?? work is really busy at the moment! im off to Madrid in August!!! How cool is that????!!"

696, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:04 (twelve years ago) link

feels like being in a town centre pub in somewhere like Hatfield

696, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:04 (twelve years ago) link

"im really excited about the wedding!! photos look amazing!! have you seen any of the old gang around at all?!!! mikey is still just the same!!"

696, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:09 (twelve years ago) link

WELCOME TO THE REVOLUTION

That one guy that quit, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:11 (twelve years ago) link

6968080

Ed, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:14 (twelve years ago) link

which incidentally was my telephone number in 1985

Ed, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:15 (twelve years ago) link

Ed how was last night!!! sorry i couldnt make it round!! I had to work late!! crazy busy! what are you doing this weekend??? Is it ok if i bring round the macbook so you can do that cloning thing!! We'll have to meet up for drinks soon!! I'm busy all week and then its Dezzers stag on friday which should be AMAZING!!! How about sat??

696, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:21 (twelve years ago) link

I deleted my MySpace Account. I feel much cleaner now.

nathalie, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:22 (twelve years ago) link

but 696 you must know these people if you can read their messages... surely you don't mind it that much.

That one guy that quit, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:22 (twelve years ago) link

he's looking for insider info on the housing crash

"I just paid £95,000 for a 2 bedroom buy to let in Croydon! WICKED!! I'm in the $$$$s now!"

acrobat, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:24 (twelve years ago) link

fwiw: with one exception, all the ilx0rspeople I've added as FB friends are ppl i know in real life. does this make me rude and standoffish? it's not meant to.

I would be exactly the same! I don't need to keep up with strangers and their doings...

kv_nol, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:27 (twelve years ago) link

i don't need a public internet site to keep up with people i properly know though...

That one guy that quit, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:29 (twelve years ago) link

Sat could be good but I might be on for some beers up north (North of Luton!!!!! Scary!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!), go clubbin' with the Lads. Buzz me friday see if there underwater or not.

Ed, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 09:35 (twelve years ago) link

<i>i don't need a public internet site to keep up with people i properly know though...</i>

ach, i don't *need* one. but it's kinda fun. also: experiments with private internet sites (no, rly) haven't been resoundingly successful.

i'm not saying facebook is revolutionary -- it's palpably not. i think its current popularity will wane quickly. but fuck it. it's put me in touch with a couple of old friends, and it suits my purposes well.

grimly fiendish, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 10:58 (twelve years ago) link

i'd probably be fine with it but it sort of makes complicated situations public and more complicated....

That one guy that quit, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 11:00 (twelve years ago) link

r u on last.fm?

blueski, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 11:02 (twelve years ago) link

lol

That one guy that quit, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 11:05 (twelve years ago) link

"Facebook users who like to control who gets to see your account details, take note: political views, religious back ground and other sensitive details may be wide open to prying eyes even though you've configured your profile so its viewable only to designated friends.

That's because the user setting that allows only designated friends to view a user's profile has no effect on whether the contents of that profile can be searched by the Facebook community at large. Users who want to block their profiles from being searched must go through an additional step."

more - http://paranoia.dubfire.net/2007/06/go-fish-is-facebook-violating-european.html

Tracer Hand, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 11:37 (twelve years ago) link

it wasn't a joke :(

blueski, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 11:39 (twelve years ago) link

i keep adding people from my degree course at university who i've not seen since then. probably silly but nice to see old faces again at least.

blueski, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:02 (twelve years ago) link

i can't find the i love music group on FB. :-(

nathalie, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:06 (twelve years ago) link

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2200160366

I keep meaning to join it, but I don't want people I know to think I love music :/

Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:08 (twelve years ago) link

I may have already exaggerated my love of Ivan Campo in that regard

Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:09 (twelve years ago) link

I am the small Pogatetz

blueski, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:12 (twelve years ago) link

i keep adding people from my degree course at university who i've not seen since then. probably silly but nice to see old faces again at least.

-- blueski, Wednesday, June 27, 2007 6:02 PM (11 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

i'm halfway to quitting it because this just leads to headaches and/or aforementioned randoms. i'm being a bit prissy about it i guess.

That one guy that quit, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:15 (twelve years ago) link

I've started getting former school mates bringing the "AIN'T SIN YOU FOR AGES" to what was previously a contended quip-trading circle-jerk between a bunch of people I already spend a lot of time with. It's all turning from gold into shit.

Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:18 (twelve years ago) link

contented, I mean

Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:19 (twelve years ago) link

it's only as complicated as you want to make it.

blueski, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:19 (twelve years ago) link

Maybe I don't really know what I want, Steve

Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:20 (twelve years ago) link

in these crazy times i can't say i blame you. but thanks for friending me.

blueski, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:21 (twelve years ago) link

two mutual friends~!

Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 12:25 (twelve years ago) link

Somebody start an ILx group. I feel like a liar in the ILM one.

Ms Misery, Wednesday, 27 June 2007 13:34 (twelve years ago) link


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