Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I've got a lot of time for extremely weird people, but come on... basic social etiquette involves letting people get comfortable with you before you hit them with your quirks. Hide your fictionalized diaries before the first date comes over!

Unless, I guess, you met on the fictionalized diarist singles site, then you would probably have brought it with you to the bar anyway.

Ha! There was the guy (detailed way above in this thread) who wrote fictionalized diaries of his 7 previous dates in emails to me before we'd even met. (he did not get even a first date. so Rayeula's date at least hid his freakiness for longer than that!

Was his profile name Bluebeard?

i mean REALLY

that would be weird even by my extremely liberal standards

Actually been talking to someone semi normal and communicative on OKC and we have a real date tomorrow. Hope it goes well. We'll see.

I have a date this weekend with a public school music teacher who appears to be an avant garde weirdo and board game geek –– and he likes teaching middle schoolers, which is somehow totally dreamy to me? Short and scruffy, wears glasses. I hope there's chemistry and he's not another stiff shirt because this is all looking pretty good on paper.

Well as I was thinking about why i thought it was so weird, i remember thinking, 'it would be way less weird if it were part of some sort of writing project'. but it wasn't written in a storytelling style, just like a "i went to this bar because x and then saw this girl and she had this type of hair and was wearing this type of top". Kind of a "what i did for my summer vacation thing" that kids write. And he didn't strike me as a arty guy, made no mention of interests that veer even remotely close to the creative, is not a reader, etc. i mean i guess i'm making an evaluative judgment of his writing skills but it definitely did not strike me as a creative writing project.

you went on a date with pitchfork reviews reviews?

So I was going to go on an okcupid date with someone. I called him last night to get an idea of whether he's a twitchy weirdo. Not all that awkward, BUT, through the phone call I learned these two tidbits:

1- Before he moved to Denver, he had no idea where it was. He said he thought it was "up by Canada" (uh...)
2- He hardly ever leaves the house. He's been here five years and hasn't been anywhere, it seems.

Run?

On not knowing where Denver was, that would depend on where he lived before, and why he moved?

The never leaving the house thing... weeellll... I'm a socially awkward shut-in since my band broke up so I can hardly throw stones about that. Really depends on the reasons why, again.

I don't think either of those things are "ABORT! ABORT!" signs in and of themselves, really just depends on what he's like.

Well, I am definitely an OUT AND ABOUT person. So that's what I am worried about.

Also he lived in California prior to this.

I would never date anyone from California. That'd be the deal breaker for me.

I just think it's a step in the right direction. Like, you've been feeling rub coz you haven't even messaged by anyone local in ages. So at least messaging with someone and meeting them and having them be not-good is better than feeling like you're invisible? It's not the result you wanted, but it's moving towards it?

(OTOH I am probably the worst person in the universe whose "advice" to listen to. Do the opposite of whatever I tell you.)

Which means, do exactly what she said.

um..

I've put my okc use on hiatus while on vacation, just because...I feel like I'm a different person here than in my own home, and this Michigan person doesn't think about men at all hardly. S'okay, I'll get to it eventually.

Many people who move to Austin have pretty hilarious ideas about its location (like thinking it's only a hour or so away from the coast) so I wouldn't hold that against him. More generally however, just stop thinking about it and go have a drink with them. It's easy to bail if they're clearly a no go, and you can find out real quick if it's worth pursuing further. Spending a week or two daydreaming about them is fun, but counterproductive. Also, if it goes moderately well, you probably get to make out a little, which is nice.

I can't even remember what it's like to make out with someone. I think my lips are broken.

Besides that comment, everything was fine about our conversation. I just kinda can't stand ignorance in general, and Denver "up near Canada" is pretty WAY OFF... I mean, "an hour from the coast" is one thing, but to completely not realize where AN ENTIRE STATE is located is... o_O

I would expect that if he had moved here from Russia or something, but California is so close!

well tbf to him you think california is close to denver when actually canada is nearer, so in a way you're agreeing with him

oh god

RELATIVE TO RUSSIA (IN MY EXAMPLE), CALIFORNIA IS CLOSE

I myself often forget there's only a very tiny sliver of Oklahoma which keeps Texas from touching Colorado... in my head Utah and Colorado are reversed, making Denver a West Coast town.

you are ALL in a foreign country to me.

oh god
--homosexual II

I just mean you think similar, like relative to California, Canada is close is all

xpost

I think you should date him but take gps just in case

also make sure he knows that the sun is bigger than the earth.

Men my age, whose desired age range for a partner ends 2 or 3 years below their own: why do I want to punch them in the face so badly?

This is an endless refrain, I know.

Anyway, I am going on this date tomorrow.

yeah i want to punch all those people in the face too. i think what those dudes aren't realizing is that they are also alienating younger women who ARE in their age range because it makes them look like a tool. i frequently get messages from 40 somethings who don't want to date women their own age and it's an automatic dealbreaker. but i WILL go out with 40 somethings that do want to date women their own age and older in addition to younger women. i don't know why you wouldn't just hedge your bets.

I have the overwhelming desire to send them just a one-liner that says "you are a repulsive human being" just to give them a tiny taste of how shitty and worthless they have just made me feel. But, of course, I don't, because I try to be a decent human being ~most~ of the time. (Though with the full and searing experience that there are so many dudes out there who have felt perfectly justified in sending me one-liners saying stuff like "yuck you are LOL-old and LOL-fat and LOL-ugly and LOL speccy ginger geek LOL" etc blah blah forever.)

But my god, I think about it.

WHERE IS DIRTY DRONEROCK PERSON OF INDETERMINATE GENDER WHO AIMS SERIOUS FAT SPECCY GINGER GEEK?

it's just a thing. Like sketching people in public, it's a thing, that might look weird if you did not know that life drawing was a thing.

Several years ago a woman I lived with was taking a life-drawing class, and I was stoked when she asked me to pose for her to make a pencil line-stroke drawing of me. Me, a nude model! Only later did I learn that life drawing art teachers instruct their students to choose average- (or worse-) looking models for maximum realism and to avoid attractive people of the sort usually associated with modelling. Knocked my body image down a few rungs after having it artifically inflated for awhile....

Uh, I know I went to art school a while ago, but no one ever told me that. And FWIW, all of the people I've asked to pose for me (and there have been a few) have been people I thought were v v good looking. But, like, everyone I've approached to draw, I've told them "I want to draw you coz I really like your look." (mainly to prevent shenanigans.)

Her drawing made me look much better than I do in real life.... All I remember is that 20 minutes feels like 2 hours when you have to maintain an uncomfortable (yet relaxed-looking) pose, and how cold and breezy it was in a room temperature set to be comfortable for clothed people.

(the artist OTOH was v v good looking; me, less so).

My small experience with figure drawing says they like a wide range of types - fat to skinny, young to old, good looking to not so good looking. I've also modelled casually, and done some awful drawings.

http://desmond.imageshack.us/Himg708/scaled.php?server=708&filename=ga020607.gif&res=landing

I wish I had some cuter/hotter blouses
probably part of the problem is using the word 'blouse'

You and me, Beckott, we are "date tonight" sisX0rs.

I will have to iron my blouse, though. It will not make up for having potato-face from being in bed with an ear infection all week and - even worse - I have broken one of my canine teeth (I now only have the requisite 2 instead of my former 3) but they still wanna meet me, even sans tooth, so I hope that's a good sign.

Hope that yours goes well! Actually a scruffy music teacher sounds kinda dreamy (but I might have read Ex Cordite Caritas too many times.)

hope you have a nice time!

yes, I hope it goes well!

It might just be the sun but head feels kinda spiny in a totally good way.

We have already made plans to go for vegan dinner some time.

I don't really care what happens but it's a long time since I have felt so ~comfortable~ with someone so quickly. Not passive aggressive at all, just very very literal.

aww

Spinny not spiny. I am not a hedgehog.

I had a ton of fun last night. The dude brought his own travel Scrabble board just in case! I can defs get behind that kind of preparedness. We went back to my place for drinks & scrabs after mini golf. P clear the guy never ever drinks though based on his reaction to one gently poured vodka drink, which is ok. Played some XTC records (he's a big fan of them too! holy shit!) and gabbed and looked at comic books until way past my bedtime. It was really refreshing.

He BROUGHT HIS OWN TRAVEL SCRABBLE BOARD? Beckotts, this one is a keeper. For reals. ;-)

x-post. Was your date Michael Cera?

he's 35 but he does have kind of a scruffy Jewish Cera thing going on phenotypically

ooh good dates! i am v happy for you crabbs & wcc :)

i might go out on a platonic date with someone...we had a really low match (~50%) and couldn't figure out why but it turns out it is because he wants to have children in 3-4 years and i don't want to have children ever. meeting friends is fine and everything but it seems kind of weird.

Well, so long as it is a Platonic date and he doesn't think he can change your mind with the power of his sexy? I don't see why not.

no one is changing my mind about having children...trust me. it's not even a question.