Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I'll get that sex change tomorrow, shall I? ;)

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THIS IS NOT A REBEL DATE

LOL

80s Bono was kinda cute...

::shoots self::

OK, going to wear my JMAC Automatic tour t-shirt on my next OKC date.

excuse my drunkenness, JAMC.

once I was at the post office wearing it, and the guy behind me was like "jesus and mary chain? is that a band like DC Talk*?" and I said "yeah, they're just like that."

*a shitty US Christian rock band with wide appeal

sellout

/me digs out april skies shirt

not sure where my automatic shirt is. probably being used as a duster...

No no no you want skin-tight black jeans (or leather trousers), black button-down shirt done up all the way, black leather jacket and Chelsea boots. Ray-bans optional. (if it is summer a stripey t-shirt may be exchanged for button down shirt, but it is never summer in Scotland.)

If you dress like this, every 80s girl will want you.

shit, half the dudes in austin rock black skinny jeans and a button-down shirt... they don't got what she gives me, and it's not OK.

Is Austin full of shoegazers?

Man it is a shame about the weather.

Oh yeah and the being in Texas thing.

Bootgazers exist, and it is a thing. And, of course... if London was as good as they said it was... it would be in Texas :)

If Texas was as good as they said it was... you'd have an NHS ;-)

Ha nice comeback ;D

Is this where I say I've seen DC Talk in concert? They were more of a rap group at the time iirc.

I'm glad I wrote that msg I didn't feel like writing bc dude seems interesting and we're going to meet when I get back from vacation. He gives good email. I've been dating musicians and malcontents for so long I forgot that some people can actually write.

Also just sayin', I would have commented on hazel's profile if I had been able to tell he was there/who he was.

It's probably physically impossible for Texas to be as good as Texans say it is. And Laurel, I'll visit your profile... no making fun of my beard though.

I'll try to keep it to myself.

HAZEL your answers to the questions are HYSTERICAL. "I hope we've fully explored my unconditional acceptance of gay people. I hope the next question is about flirting or smoking or something." And of course the next question is about race.

Why has no one else I've ever looked at answered the question about visiting libraries? I'd completely forgotten it, I probably answered that thing 4 years ago and haven't seen it since. Damn, son.

I just another msg from someone who can't punctuate or capitalize and who says things like "regardless" and "needless to say" unnecessarily. You know what? NO.

I would date all the boys in the JAMC t-shirts.

I'm feeling very LONELY today. And wishing I had someone to go on an OkCupid date with.

just wear one of those 80s video outfits and go out by yourself imo ;)

"Irregardless, you should meet me for cocktails on Friday"

Glad you enjoyed my snappy answers to stupid OKC questions, Laurel. Again, very sad more people don't comment on them more... the vast majority of them almost require it.

And I second daavid's advice.

So I am going away for a few days but have made plans to definitely meet up with someone when I get back.

This one is making me do little bursts of nerves and sparkles of excitement and makes me feel kinda floaty in a mostly good way. Which is probably a bad idea because it means I am overthinking things and going into it with too much in the way of expectations (which are almost always dashed by reality.)

But still, at the same time... WHEEEEEEEEEE!

:D

This one is making me do little bursts of nerves and sparkles of excitement and makes me feel kinda floaty in a mostly good way.

Excellent! I really like this stage of the proceedings too.

oh man, meeting a lady on sunday and we chatted on the phone just now... there is a member of jethro tull in her immediate family!

i'm sorry to tell you this, but you are obligated to make this work for the sake of ilx

girl from okc i was seeing broke it off after a couple months, now debating whether i want to get back in this game at all

(who am i kidding)

I fear I may be losing interest in the whole process again.

There was the person who gave me a "like" and then sent me this message saying how amazing they thought I was and we should get together - while I was away for the weekend, and by the time I logged back on, their entire profile had been deleted. Wut?

Now I am concerned about the person who is v v good at picking up obscure references from my profile and from my messages - but then somehow twists them around to be evidence that I might not like them. Which is confusing because 1) why are you so concerned whether I like you, shouldn't you be more concerned about whether *you* like me? 2) are you actually trying to say that you don't actually like me, but in a non-judgey way?

I am finding all of this just rather too confusing at the moment and would rather like to take a break from it, before I've even really begun.

That sucks about the deleted profile person, stuff like that is frustrating

The second person sounds confusing, I don't think I'd like that

I think its ok to not feel into it, or to take breaks from it - I don't think these things have to be 0 or 100%

wcc, that person #2 sounds a bit passive aggressive to me. i would chalk #1 up to the vagaries of internet dating...that's happened to me several times.

have a date tonight, not excited at. all. but am trying to pep myself up about it, be positive.

have finally logged into OKC to reply to messages i received two weeks ago, i was in avoidance mode.

also a friend is setting me up with someone she met in a bar? might be random enough to work?

someone messaged me and i looked at the questions we answered -- apparently foul language bothers him a lot. this relationship is already doomed...

Person 2 is the person I was feeling sparkly and excited about last week. :(

I don't know, they could also be very dryly joking about things we were joking about previously (wrt what we felt were silky reasons not to meet someone - i.e. being born in the wrong Chinese year)

I think I need to stop overthinking it tbh.

good idea

yeah, when are you hanging out with them? might be best to meet sooner rather than later, less time to overthink things.

how do ppl feel about messaging people who "respond selectively"? if i am taken in by the profile and go to message them and see "responds selectively" it totally kills my enthusiasm! i feel like that button is saying, "sure, message them but they will totally ignore you!"

I think I probably "respond selectively" bcuz over half the ppl who respond do not have basic reading comprehension skills wrt my profile. I think it means try to be even more personalised in your message than usual, but that's just good manners. Hope for the best and know ahead of time it's not your fault if they don't reply - they do it to everyone.

(that said, no one has replied to any messages I've sent cold)

i see it more often with women than with men -- somehow i find it more understandable in women. in fact i can't remember the last time i saw a guy's profile with "responds selectively" (i also don't browse profile that often) and then today, i did a search for an author to see who else on this godforasken site likes them and the top 3 responses were men who respond selectively. i find this very interesting! i started thinking about, well, WHAT exactly is the causal relationship between this selectively responding trait and their mutual admiration of this author? (this study is very scientific and rigorous) are they all assholes? do they get a higher # of messages because they have great taste in books? or like, is this a representation of my horrible taste in men and my subconscious desire for the unattainable? has OKC figured me out?

i probably will message them later anyway, because if they don't respond, I'll know that they do it to most everyone, and i need to practice writing charming messages.

Now I'm wondering who the author is. Because yes, some writers definitely attract assholes - though obviously not exclusively, as clearly you are not. ;-)

i searched for alice munro. :) those in the what are you reading thread are well aware of my current infatuation with her. i wouldn't have thought that she attracted assholes based on that thread and also because she's awesome, but i realized that i don't actually know anyone irl who reads her.

Wow, ok no - not someone I would associate with asshole readers at all! who knows! Correlation does not mean causation.

haha yeah i know. i was being mostly facetious with the speculation in that last post. although this discussion has made me quite curious and I will probably message them tonight. I have to test my hypotheses after all.

Maybe they are just overly Canadian.

hypothesis #4!

so, I clicked on this one guys profile because he looked cute. And there's this one picture of him where he is shirtless, ridiculously muscled of course, standing by the sea with the wind blowing his (medium length) hair back.

He looks a little bit like John Corbett except in this picture there's an unfortunate soul patch.

I lack the words to convey my amusement.

I have a couple of messages in my inbox that seem worth responding to, but I take forever to respond to messages at all. I hope that no one takes it personally.

heh. i was looking at one dude's profile -- he seemed cool, but then he had all these shirtless pics and i was like, i can't message this person.

Another guy seems like a great match and then he ends his profile like this (the part where he says you should message him if:
"And you aren't carrying massive emotional baggage from the last guy you dated who treated you like shit."

Translate as: "I am that guy who will give you emotional baggage to carry to the next relationship." Avoid, avoid!