only atlas shrugged
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:02 (eleven years ago) link
And Mein Kampf.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:06 (eleven years ago) link
I guess even a bizarre or a bad date is more interesting to me than reading a book, I've met some unique people on OKC that I wouldn't have otherwise.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:19 (eleven years ago) link
I definitely look for book people. Music people often annoy me and Movie people sometimes do, too.
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:31 (eleven years ago) link
I've completely given up finding someone with shared interests in music, all I ask is tolerance for my apartment full of vinyl and keyboards. Having shared interests might be nice but its better in a friend than someone I'm interested in romantically.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:36 (eleven years ago) link
As an experiment I tried rewriting my profile without mentioning music or movies at all.
It came out looking very leftie and sort of dull.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:48 (eleven years ago) link
siah what do you do? i thought grad students found blue collar workers sexy?
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:48 (eleven years ago) link
talk about your efforts to oust granny-starving homunculus scott walker
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:49 (eleven years ago) link
I make picture frames for Walmart = very unsexy. I'd love to find a union job but they're rare.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:53 (eleven years ago) link
"hi i'm the frame guy and you look pretty as a picture, let me tell you about stretching canvas over a can of mat spray"
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:56 (eleven years ago) link
this fuckin guy
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:57 (eleven years ago) link
I used to work in medical manufacturing, full clean room and everything, but this actually pays better.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 02:58 (eleven years ago) link
The less said about my job the better, which really doesn't work with that initial question of: "So what do you do?"
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 03:00 (eleven years ago) link
Honestly I think the one thing that really has been making things difficul being bi, a surprisingly low amount of nice progressive women are willing to date someone like me. Maybe its just the Midwest and people are more conservative, maybe its me. I switched my profile to straight just to make things less complicated.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 03:55 (eleven years ago) link
Wait Ive missed a step here, Josiah are you new, or a reg whos namechange I blanked on?
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 04:49 (eleven years ago) link
I've been around a little while, 2007? Maybe?
Mostly on ILM and under 3 different names. I picked a lot of fights on dance music threads.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 05:17 (eleven years ago) link
I think the late great, Tim, and the Reverend are the only people who were familiar with me.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 05:21 (eleven years ago) link
My profile on OKC is under Sigha (the late great's going to laugh @ that), if anyone wants to correct my grammar or tell me my profile pictures look funny.
― Josiah Alan, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 05:28 (eleven years ago) link
well that was *beyond* awkward
i just walked past these girls at the pizza place, one just turned to the other (she's on her iphone) and loudly goes "watcha doing stalking guys on your weird dating site"
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 05:39 (eleven years ago) link
i don't know maybe, maybe i imagine that
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 05:44 (eleven years ago) link
can we talk more about moai please
― I dont even know that I think this sucks per se (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 06:46 (eleven years ago) link
peak timber, they e nded up resorrgting to cznnibalism
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 07:20 (eleven years ago) link
you can't potlatch w/ the pacific ocean, fool
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 07:27 (eleven years ago) link
It's shallow to care about hair colour? The first thing I did was look through all the gingers. But I am admittedly v v shallow.
Someone messaged me and I'm trying to get up the courage to read it.
― I want to smother him in electronic butter. (White Chocolate Cheesecake), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 08:21 (eleven years ago) link
Josiah, I know two couples where the woman has a grad degree (from Madison, even) and the men were machinists when they got together. So, it happens.
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 13:10 (eleven years ago) link
I know this isn't how it works! but my first cynical thought about dating someone bisexual is "I'm already competing with all the women in the world, now I have to compete with all the men, too?"
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 13:34 (eleven years ago) link
i had a great night in last night reading octavia butler and listening to the cure and cooking dinner. i sometimes forget how much i like hanging out with myself.
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 14:23 (eleven years ago) link
and yeah i'm a little intimidated by bi guys, mostly because of how easy it is for men to find other men to have sex with (grindr, etc) and it seems like their dance card would be full.
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 14:24 (eleven years ago) link
whaaaat? I would love to date a bisexual man!!
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 15:00 (eleven years ago) link
I'm trying to think of how to iterate what I find appealing about it and it mostly comes down to us being pervs together.
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 15:03 (eleven years ago) link
I dunno, I feel like if you're bi you should put that you're bi, but I guess if Josiah is only looking for girls then it doesn't really matter.
I think your profile is pretty good, JA, but I might suggest changing the main profile picture to one of the clearer/lighter ones? For one thing, you can't really see your eyes in the main profile pic, and people like to see eyes (even if they are over-imbued with mystical significance at times).
― emil.y, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 15:24 (eleven years ago) link
Ironically, someone in my twitter feed just posted this, which feels apt for the turn this thread has taken...
https://twitter.com/Izaakson/status/228147257738948608/photo/1
― I want to smother him in electronic butter. (White Chocolate Cheesecake), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 15:26 (eleven years ago) link
chiming in a bit late -- i def prefer guys who identify as bi, all other things being equal of course. the most decent of the slew of menfolk i've met on okc was a guy who identified as bi
― rayuela, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 17:34 (eleven years ago) link
whooo got a date
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 17:44 (eleven years ago) link
i should be more open-minded i guess. i definitely don't have a problem with it conceptually or morally (or even consider myself rigidly heterosexual...though i actively am only trying to date men). i think with online dating though it's just another minor personal detail like "favorite band is coldplay" or "dislikes cats" that will give me pause when replying.
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:06 (eleven years ago) link
kind of wish I could see profiles of past exes that I really hit it off with, for comparison's sake. also, like 90% of my top matches have kids. don't know about this.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:22 (eleven years ago) link
People with kids are a whole other basket of I don't know what to do about.
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:23 (eleven years ago) link
yeah, for real. i've never even gone on a date with a child-haver.
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:35 (eleven years ago) link
People who want kids are a whole other basket of I don't know what to do about.
― Lee626, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:35 (eleven years ago) link
ok this thread prompted me to reply to a couple of messages i let pile up, since i've been feeling fairly negatively about OKC. if only there were a similar thread for job hunting, since that is what i should really be doing instead...
― rayuela, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:44 (eleven years ago) link
or maybe i'll just update my profile...
― rayuela, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:45 (eleven years ago) link
my date has two little kids but i think parenting is hot and she's a hot parent and i work with kids so i figure it's something i can get by, besides since we're both divorced we got stuff to talk about
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:06 (eleven years ago) link
i went on a date with a child-haver a while ago -- she was pretty great, but it was fairly obvious that we were 'in different places' so to speak
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:07 (eleven years ago) link
In ten or fifteen years, my husband will be dead. Pretty much all of the people I date then will have teenage or older children. I'm not looking forward to having to deal with that.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:08 (eleven years ago) link
what's wrong with kids? if kids didn't exist we wouldn't be here
― the late great, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:12 (eleven years ago) link
tbh dealing with kids, or your ability to deal with kids, is a pretty good indicator of how you'd do in life's trying moments for some people.
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:14 (eleven years ago) link
i was the last good kid
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:15 (eleven years ago) link
Nothing's wrong with kids, I just don't really want to have to live around someone else's? And I want my own!
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:16 (eleven years ago) link
Shoot, when I say "live around" I mean "plan around and take into account in all/most parts of my life" not, like, live NEAR them.
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:17 (eleven years ago) link
wouldn't you have to do that with your own?
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 19:19 (eleven years ago) link