It's a very easy thing, when already unhappy/depressed, to use messageboards etc. as an eternalisation of one's own self loathing.
Combine with poor impulse control and an addictive personality = deep trouble.
― I want to smother him in electronic butter. (White Chocolate Cheesecake), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:25 (eleven years ago) link
whither f.hazel goest, ilx will go.
― estela, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:26 (eleven years ago) link
if he's going to take your willingness to be understanding about neurosis as carte blanche to be egregiously and inconsiderately neurotic, that could end up pretty annoying.
yep, this.
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:28 (eleven years ago) link
pretty easy to get other people to loathe you as a way to externalize, yup
been there, done that, paid the check and went home
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:30 (eleven years ago) link
Laurel, what was missing from that 'not on OKC' pie chart was "read about OKC on ILX."
― Pangborn to be Wilde (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:31 (eleven years ago) link
Also true. In her defense I don't think the art is one of us one of us one of ussssss
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:31 (eleven years ago) link
Artist, rather. Although personally my favorite slice of pie is "not into soul patches or 50-year-olds," with respect to 50yos who are perfectly respectably not trying to date 30yos or something. There are some people claiming to be 40 or 41 on this thing that are at least several years off.
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:33 (eleven years ago) link
would be tempted to live blog my OKC dates on ilx thread
Pato refused to do this when he was OKCing >:(
― ¥╡*ٍ*╞¥ (sic), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:39 (eleven years ago) link
tbh when people do that for sites like nerve/gawker, i kind of hate it. using people for your snarky judgmental article is mean.
― bnw, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:44 (eleven years ago) link
>For the record I was trying out giving people high star ratings to see if it would encourage them to contact me
not everyone gets these b/c of email settings. just realized that yesterday with my own settings.
― JuliaA, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:48 (eleven years ago) link
f hazel would never give in to that temptation, don't worry
― nicest bitch of poster (La Lechera), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 14:54 (eleven years ago) link
I am all but ignored by dudes in Denver, but lately I am getting a lot of msgs from people in other states--most notably in the Chicago area and/or East Coast. This only supports my theory that I am just not the Mile High City's type.
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 17:48 (eleven years ago) link
Must be a lot of outdoorsy camping type people in CO, no? Can't really see you and them being each others things, you know?
― (✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 17:49 (eleven years ago) link
On the other hand you seem to find way more eclectic group of people to hang with on a regular basis than I would expect out of CO so idk.
― (✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 17:51 (eleven years ago) link
Majority of people are outdoorsy hiking camping snowboarding people with a oh-so-tiny hipster edge.
Maybe I need to import a boyfriend from the midwest.
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 17:52 (eleven years ago) link
your workplace has an office here, iirc
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 17:53 (eleven years ago) link
Yep. We do. We have a small one in chicago, too. But part of my job relies on a huge office wherein people are semi clueless so not sure how it'd translate to a smaller place.
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 18:50 (eleven years ago) link
what is the etiquette for when you messaging someone and they don't get back to you? can they block you? i was thinking of messaging someone again but if they can't block me i don't want to be creepo harasser
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:18 (eleven years ago) link
also it only took 24 hrs for the well of cute matches above 70% to run dry, wtf okcupid
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:21 (eleven years ago) link
they can block you if they find you creepy. i take a while to return messages, a lot of the time.
imo, a second message (after some elapsed time) doesn't seem creepy. a third seems a bit much. (this guy msged me a third time about how lonely he was and WOW is that not a motivation to respond)
― JuliaA, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:27 (eleven years ago) link
yeah i wouldn't stoop to a third
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:29 (eleven years ago) link
this lady has a picture of herself napping on a real tiger's stomach though and i have to hear that story
oddly enough my top three matches atm all have pics olf themselves feeding or playing with tigers in thailand
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:31 (eleven years ago) link
That is the staff robot at work no doubt.
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:33 (eleven years ago) link
feeding a baby tiger with a bottle just went to #1 on the bucket list
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:33 (eleven years ago) link
they look v soft
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:34 (eleven years ago) link
pretty sure there was either a bh ideas or 77 content image related to that
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:36 (eleven years ago) link
is feeding/playing with tigers the lady equivalent of men posing in front of machu pichu?
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:04 (eleven years ago) link
shit, I have never been to machu pichu! I knew there was a reason women never call me back.
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:16 (eleven years ago) link
i don't know b_g is standing in front of maccu picchu super-hot because if so yes
We have great news! Your personality: Really great How bad girls want you: So bad Your profile, as of 8 milliseconds ago: Approved!
ok wtf does this email mean
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:33 (eleven years ago) link
your bones are gonna get jumped
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:36 (eleven years ago) link
btw b_g = tza?
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:37 (eleven years ago) link
mh i don't believe that's what that email means
Nope, b_g is bell labs.
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:41 (eleven years ago) link
ah what happend to tza?
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:42 (eleven years ago) link
real life got her
― I dont even know that I think this sucks per se (forksclovetofu), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:58 (eleven years ago) link
I am so confused now.
For the record, I am a boy. Although I am flattered to be thought of as a nice lesbian. Honestly, I thought it was obvious I was a boy from the way I write.
Haz, apologies for my flippancy. I am an equal-op dater w/r/t height, but I recently saw a guy's profile where he spent most of it complaining about and mocking women who specify their pref for taller men blah blah. I hadn't realized it was such a thing on okc cos I don't read other women's profiles much but maybe it is?
No, don't apologize! This is the ILXOR OKC backstage area so you should be able to vent as you like. A fair number of women do specify they're looking for tall men (and hair preferences are generally specified too) and while I find it somewhat crass, it's also well within the bounds of acceptable dating web site behavior. Maybe that guy's had a hard time of it.
Also 38 is close to my age! Totally age-appropriate. What are you doing on Thursday?
I actually have a date Thursday! At least I think it is. But I peeked at your profile and you are absolutely crushworthy.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 20:58 (eleven years ago) link
I considered using a photo of me by the giant stone heads on Easter Island, but it somehow seemed like showing off. Of course I am standing there under a red/pink umbrella looking goofy, so the manliness is questionable.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:00 (eleven years ago) link
WHAT?? HAIR COLOR? And here I thought I was being unfairly narrow-minded about beards--at least you can shave those off.
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:02 (eleven years ago) link
idgi how does okcupid know anything about my personally
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:04 (eleven years ago) link
spoiler: Easter Island heads are actually entire bodies, as a couple have now been excavated
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:06 (eleven years ago) link
More hair length and approval/disapproval of facial hair, but yeah.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:09 (eleven years ago) link
I thought I was being unfairly narrow-minded about beards
oh, you were
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:11 (eleven years ago) link
oh, they knew they had bodies... there's hundreds of them all over the island with above-ground bodies. the ones in rano raraku they're excavating lately had the body part buried under earth, so the fine carving details were preserved. the ones exposed to sea air are pretty eroded.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:16 (eleven years ago) link
I think it's a public misconception due to portrayals that they're just heads?
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:18 (eleven years ago) link
i can't believe you've been to easter island! i mean i believe you, but so jeal!
― nicest bitch of poster (La Lechera), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:20 (eleven years ago) link
if you just see the pictures of the ones at rano raraku (the part of the island where they actually carved the things) then they are just heads, because over time the bodies have been covered by earth. this area is more heavily photographed, because frankly, it looks totally bizarre and magical. all over the rest of the island there are rows of full-body moai on stone platforms called ahu, mostly by the coast. by the time the europeans arrived, the moai were mostly all knocked down, however. it's only since the 50s (IIRC) that various folks have reconstructed the ahu platforms.
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:24 (eleven years ago) link
easter island is a really fucked up story
― the late great, Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:26 (eleven years ago) link
i get chills thinking about it
what is easter island
― you're all going to hello (Z S), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:30 (eleven years ago) link
I can't believe you got a date from okc without going there and getting your picture taken.
― check the name, no caps, boom, i'm (Laurel), Tuesday, 24 July 2012 21:31 (eleven years ago) link