Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

From thehairpin.com:

http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e66/LimitedLiabilityGirl/okc.jpg

aw, you guys!

i guess i didn't think of it as cruel, but just honest, but i guess it kind of was cruel. i'm glad that i am not a space alien for believing that love is something that develops over time through shared experiences and not some mystical thing that you just know right off the bat.

p.s. set me up on datessssssssss

linds i will set you up with my friend abe if you want.
also, i don't know about cruelty vs honesty but it's certainly tactless & thoughtless to say and maybe indicative of a lack of empathy on his part.

People are so bad at interpreting and communicating their feelings (in general) that to identify that comment as "being honest" is giving that dude more credit than I think he deserves. Lacks fundamental diplomacy, indicates extreme self-centeredness. I've been told any array of similar things over the years and in retrospect, have wondered why I ever gave them credence at all.

I hope you don't spend one more second feeling bad about this, b_g.

honestly, I keep rereading the chain of comments and thinking that while telling a woman that I "wasn't really feeling it" was honest, it probably could have been better-phrased

He may also be from a conservative Christian background and have the whole "dating is for finding the woman I want to marry and anything else is Satan's trap" floating around in in the back of his brain, even if he thinks differently now.

No. He's just a secret jerk.

odd, as I often refer to dating as "looking to fall into Satan's trap"

sweet, sweet hellfire

tell me more about this abe!

self-centerdness/secret jerk fits. he's definitely not a christian and we've talked about how neither of us wants marriage/children. i don't mean to keep making excuses for this guy, but at least now i'm pretty firm in my resolution not to waste any more time with him after we talk tonight.

All of these people are emotionally unavailable, or the timing is just not right.

I am completely loveable, cute, fun, supportive, 'normal', have my shit together, dress well, great social skills, and I've been single for eight years. It's just the timing isn't quite right, and I keep gravitating toward freaks and weirdos because they entertain me, which is dumb. And I'm also on OkCupid. So... there are normal people on there, I guess. Is what I am trying to say.

If you're going to keep dating later in life and keep trying to find wuv and leaving yourself open to people, I think the skill that really makes it okay to keep doing that is being able to shutter your mind with an industrial-strength garage door. A sound-proofed one. Once they err on the side of jerkness, that door starts lowering, lowering...and then it is closed.

Cut them loose. Write them off. However you like to think of it. Vaya con dios, out to sea, I'm sorry what life raft? I don't see a life raft here anywhere.

abe is a bro who knows a lot about music & film & comic books and stuff. he's from new england. he's a good person. he likes to smoke weed & listen to oldies. xp 2 b_g

so basically ian 2? haha, i'm down.

I was going to say, if he's not dateable, just send him to ilx anyway, seems like he'd fit in.

he is less of a jerk than me. he loves the ILX "shoe me weirdos with mike love" thread.

shoWWW

Show me Mike Love wearing weird shoes

really big shoe with mike love

how does he feel about cats?

also how is your little dude's leg healing?

he loves cats.
little dudes leg is great if his ability to run down the hall and climb on top the piano are any indication.

little dude:
http://farm8.staticflickr.com/7120/7631263752_77d912f21c.jpg

ian, you are not a jerk, you are a smartass

ian that kitty could be a baby pen from the side view. he even has the pink paws!

i'm sold on abe unless you are holding back some key piece of information like he is 90 years old or something.

i think the key piece of information against him is that he's currently unemployed.

aw, ian, your little dude looks like my old cat.

Just got an invitation from a dude in Littleton, Colo., to be a sister wife. Sweeeeeeet.

Post this!

hi liked your profile intrested in getting to know you check mine out message me if your intrested in being sister wife

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/ranger_one2000

I told him my aforementioned plan to marry my actual sister. Probably not this best way to rebuff?

I think you just escalated things

She's a cool gal!

Is there a word for the mustache and goatee combination when it's all one piece encircling someone's mouth? That seems like a prevalent type of facial hair in places that are either not NYC or are Staten Island.

We are a mature couple who has been together for 13 years we have 4 children and are looking for a sisterwife to share are love and family with we are We own are own business together and are financially stable that doesn’t mean we are looking for a free loader we are looking for someone who is sure this is what they are looking for we would like to have more children with this sister wife so being sure this is what you want is very important we believe once we are bonded it is forever. So only serious women need contact us.

are, are are...

Hahaha, I was just about to c&p that myself.

xp "the kroeger"

i am a total jerk because i haven't responded back to a couple messages

i just wasn't really in the dating mindset for a couple months there

Laurel, that is the van dyke

Laurel - yes, "awful".

where is a serious girl who really aims plural marriage?

where are a serious girl who really aims plural marriage?

holy shit i just signed up for this yesterday and being on this site is the most nerve wracking experience i've had at a computer since the gre

we chose each other? what the fuck does that mean?

haha oh gods just clicked for first time on an acquaintance's profile, felt extremely incestuous.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPG3YMcSvzo

tlg, I think it means that you gave each other 4 or 5 out of 5 stars? The emails the system sends you are kind of hilarious. Basically she thinks ur hott.

There's a cute guy, who seems cool, but who is short and 38, just for the record, and was "quiver"-matched with me and took himself off my list (when the site cycles a person out of your quiver I think it means they declined you). And I just want to grab him by his nice suit lapels and SHAKE HIS HEAD OFF AND SHOUT AT HIM, "HOW MUCH BETTER DO YOU THINK YOU CAN DO?!?" I realize this impulse is crazy and wrong and I do think he's very attractive and wd totally go out w him but just...haha SO MUCH UGH.

i think she walks her dog on my block! the same thing happened w/ a barista from the cafe down the street and some girl that when i clicked on her tumblr feed i was in the background of one of her cellphone shots.

how do i avoid declining people in my quiver?!?!

It's when you click the "not interested" button, I think? Which is fair, I mean, you're entitled to do that! I realize I'm being irrational by taking this personally.