Been messaging/emailing guy I am going on a date with this Friday. Trying really hard to quell my nerves/anxiety/trying-too-hard usual enthusiasm that squashes everything. He seems lovely and I really want to just have an easy nice encounter for a change instead of Rampant Issues Man #34534534
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 00:23 (eleven years ago) link
uh huh accident
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 00:33 (eleven years ago) link
lol
your sister is hilarious btw
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 00:34 (eleven years ago) link
lol mh ;P
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 00:34 (eleven years ago) link
my sister is... unique
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 00:47 (eleven years ago) link
i got my brother to go on okcupid a few months ago but i'd already forgotten that i was even on okcupid still (i finally disconnected in May bc it is unfair to stay on something like this when not paying any attention to it imo), and then he dropped off it within like 2 weeks bc he is better at real life anyway (tho it was prob the push he needed to get going irl), so i guess we will never have an awkward sibling encounter on okcupid! or know if we are compatible be friends :/ lol
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 00:54 (eleven years ago) link
I'm kind of glad I stuck around cos of the guy Im talking to now, but I had been feeling a little guilty that all the other people messaging me I was just ignoring - none of them were even remotely my type.
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:05 (eleven years ago) link
there is something to be said for patience, sometimes
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:30 (eleven years ago) link
I'm trying to steel myself for another let down, in all honesty :(
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:32 (eleven years ago) link
the past is a foreign country
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:35 (eleven years ago) link
Good point! Mustnt let other experiences taint new ones :) Onward with gusto! TBH I'm a little bit of excited. He's a lovely fey blonde morrisey and glam rock fan and he's terribly cute.
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:38 (eleven years ago) link
it might seem harder to go into things with an open heart because it feels vulnerable and can result in pain or not in pain, but ultimately going in with a closed heart can result in the same pain or not pain. i think we hurt ourselves unnecessarily more by closing our hearts even a little in steeling ourselves for let down. it can be hard not to, i know, especially when experience piles atop itself... so it's like, here i am, with my big bad heart, and that feels good to me, love me for who i am or not.
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:41 (eleven years ago) link
xp go forth!
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:42 (eleven years ago) link
aw
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:53 (eleven years ago) link
When you close your heart to love, you eliminate the risk of a broken heart. You also assure yourself of a dull, lonely, pointless life. Despite the risk, I'll take openheartedness.
― Lee626, Tuesday, 3 July 2012 01:56 (eleven years ago) link
yay trayce! who cares what the future holds, give into the excitement now.
― rayuela, Tuesday, 3 July 2012 03:35 (eleven years ago) link
might seem harder to go into things with an open heart because it feels vulnerable and can result in pain or not in pain, but ultimately going in with a closed heart can result in the same pain or not pain. i think we hurt ourselves unnecessarily more by closing our hearts even a little in steeling ourselves for let down. it can be hard not to, i know, especially when experience piles atop itself... so it's like, here i am, with my big bad heart, and that feels good to me, love me for who i am or not.
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Monday, July 2, 2012 9:41 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
ilu
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 15:13 (eleven years ago) link
<3 <3 <3 <3
I might get back on this thing. Updates/hilarity/heartbraek TK!
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 15:13 (eleven years ago) link
<3xp<3
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 15:14 (eleven years ago) link
i guess i should give an update on my dating - it's going really well! i continue to be pleasantly surprised by everything about this person and it seems like the feeling is mutual. oh and he has a really adorable grumpy dog who has also totally won me over (it was not hard).
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 17:16 (eleven years ago) link
holy fuck that date was so good
― hardhouse banter (tpp), Wednesday, 4 July 2012 00:28 (eleven years ago) link
I hope to say the same at the end of the week. And good for you tpp!
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Wednesday, 4 July 2012 01:49 (eleven years ago) link
thanks trayce! hope you enjoy.
― hardhouse banter (tpp), Wednesday, 4 July 2012 07:00 (eleven years ago) link
i was recently 'visited' by a 6-foot-3 dutch woman who won't date men shorter than she is.
i guess i should feel bad since i got no message despite meeting that requirement, but lol
― mookieproof, Thursday, 5 July 2012 22:48 (eleven years ago) link
i used to know a couple who were both over 6'5"
they were an imposing presence
― booger pickup (electricsound), Thursday, 5 July 2012 23:11 (eleven years ago) link
I suppose it would be p difficult finding guys if you're a 6ft plus woman, but personally Ive never really understood some women's revulsion with short men. I suppose its easier for me, though, I'm already only 5 ft 4 myself. My last bf was the same height as me and I thought it was adorable (he hates being short)
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Thursday, 5 July 2012 23:30 (eleven years ago) link
xpost when they go home at night, i bet they just slam dunk over and over again, without saying anything. dunk dunk dunk
― Mad God 40/40 (Z S), Thursday, 5 July 2012 23:51 (eleven years ago) link
That makes me think of a bizarre version of the "american gothic" painting, for some reason.
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Friday, 6 July 2012 00:07 (eleven years ago) link
"our lives are nothing.... but net"
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Friday, 6 July 2012 00:08 (eleven years ago) link
i set up my 6'1" friend (a female) with a 6'3" friend (male). it is the male who is more picky about height though! he says he will not date a woman under 5'11".
i totally don't care about height or being taller or shorter or whatever, it's not really a factor in my attraction to a person.
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Friday, 6 July 2012 02:45 (eleven years ago) link
I don't think I've ever dated a dude who was taller than I am and I'm only 5'7". Not that I would mind.
― chupacabra seeds (Abbbottt), Friday, 6 July 2012 03:06 (eleven years ago) link
had an okcupid date last weekend - she was literally half my age (22/44) but she actually, strangely, knows me via mutual friends, realized she'd met me at someone's party before, and still wanted to meet up with me. we had a nice time but i think we both felt like the age gap was too much... so she's setting me up with her 25 year old co-worker for a date this saturday :)
― messiahwannabe, Friday, 6 July 2012 03:31 (eleven years ago) link
lol @ 22 being too young but 25 being ok
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Friday, 6 July 2012 14:23 (eleven years ago) link
People can change a lot in those years! Sometimes not, but maybe the 22 year old thinks of the 25 year old as her less-bargoing more laid-back friend (old).
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Friday, 6 July 2012 14:26 (eleven years ago) link
"we're all the same height when we're lying down"
― Authorities don't know who shot the 50 Cent the goose. (forksclovetofu), Friday, 6 July 2012 16:46 (eleven years ago) link
in Procrustes' bed
― chupacabra seeds (Abbbottt), Friday, 6 July 2012 16:57 (eleven years ago) link
The more I date and listen to people and then watch it go all wrong, the more suspicious protestations JUMP out at me from people's profiles.
"You should message me if...you can take a joke" = I'm an asshole and will be disrespectful and then claim to have been joking."...if your judgment of a person does not come from fucked up assumptions" = If you accuse me of being an asshole, I will tell you all the reasons why you're wrong and it's your fault for basing your opinion on my behavior.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 6 July 2012 17:31 (eleven years ago) link
If you use any opportunity to use the open-ended questions to constrict the number of people interested in you by THEIR characteristics you're doing it wrong. It should be positive stuff relating to concrete attributes.
Now if it's like "you should like kids/dogs/cats/white water rafting" it's cool because that is important stuff that people might require from a prospective mate?
― hot sauce delivery device (mh), Friday, 6 July 2012 17:35 (eleven years ago) link
OTM!
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Friday, 6 July 2012 18:20 (eleven years ago) link
I am being such a dick on online dating right now. Too many things are red flags to me. Like people liking Dan Brown novels or ANY mention of "Living life to the fullest"
Pass on anyone mention Ayn RandPass on anyone with a photo of them on a mountaintopPass on any Geminis, Aquariuses or LeosPass on anyone who lists sex as the six things they couldn't live withoutPass on anyone who says "Then it wouldn't be private now, would it?" on the "What's the most private thing you're willing to admit here?"Pass on anyone who rails on about how they like to be fit and healthyPass on anyone who mentions dubstepPass on anyone under 30
― homosexual II, Friday, 6 July 2012 20:43 (eleven years ago) link
"everything but country and rap"
― bnw, Friday, 6 July 2012 20:46 (eleven years ago) link
rand goes w/o saying but why no mountains?
― radical ferry (donna rouge), Friday, 6 July 2012 20:47 (eleven years ago) link
I'm just back from a date, though it was a queer one (in the antediluvian sense). She was a personage of spectral aspect, a resident of the twin towns of Hadoth and Neb, where madness is whispered to be rife, and incest universal. I could tell she had issues with my choice of restaurant, and certainly it was a dank and foetid establishment, a former priory situated in squamous scrub halfway along the Cthulu turnpike, closed after a series of unfortunate events of which I shall not speak here.
We were the only customers, and found ourselves tended with much suspicion by an eldritch server and his hideously misshapen cat, which gibbered pitifully by the fire, providing the only music in that place. A mournful wind keened around the panes and malign rain hissed on the gambrel as we perused the near-incomprehensible menu, a charnel slab of horse entrails and rotting fungous. She chose the liver, with a side of agar, strepwort, and nightshade. Her conversation was abnormal and seemed to be in some long-banished tongue, and I strained to nod in the right places. My attention, however, inclined increasingly to the disturbing sound emanating from the forest beyond - something blasphemous, like the wailing of a cadaverous choir revived from its eternal sleep. The din rose to a clatter, a howl, a squall. It seems we were surrounded.
Swarthy tentacles slapped against the window, and I saw the hideous eye of some fishy visage glimmering - daemoniac, vile and subhuman in the gibbous moonlight - through the glass, afire with an ambitious loathing. The waiter was wrestling with a cardiac arrest which, by all appearances, was proving fatal to him, while my companion fainted away and the cacophonous cat fled in a panic up the chimney flue, where cruel fingers of flame consumed its fur with a vile stench. The thoughts that swarmed upon me in that moment were uncountable, unnameable and unutterable, but principal amongst them was the conviction that, as first dates go, this one augured only a wretched infinity of pestilence.
― Grampsy, Friday, 6 July 2012 20:47 (eleven years ago) link
sure, but did she live life to the fullest
― mookieproof, Friday, 6 July 2012 20:49 (eleven years ago) link
yeah, can't you meet them halfway? down the mountain?
― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Friday, 6 July 2012 20:50 (eleven years ago) link
xpost
Pass on anyone mention Ayn Rand - duhPass on anyone with a photo of them on a mountaintop - I view with deep suspicionPass on any Geminis, Aquariuses or Leos - ;_;Pass on anyone who lists sex as the six things they couldn't live without - cosignPass on anyone who rails on about how they like to be fit and healthy - JESUS THESE PEOPLE this is why I say right out that I love to smoke.Pass on anyone who mentions dubstep - hahaha does this happen? People admit this?Pass on anyone under 30 35
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 6 July 2012 20:58 (eleven years ago) link
Pass on member of law enforcement or if photo of self in armed forcesPass on anyone who wears item of clothing with college athletics logoPass if in any photos, subject is wearing Tevas (or equivalent)
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 6 July 2012 21:03 (eleven years ago) link
Pass if any mention of any Mike Patton project under musical preferences
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 6 July 2012 21:04 (eleven years ago) link
You think you're an asshole? I'm an asshole.