thread to get over a breakup

Dear Laurel: please let me know where I can find this douchebag so I can kick his teeth in.

Oh man, Laurel. Sure there's some stuff on that list that would be workable on, but there are a bunch of out-and-out dealbreakers. You're far too good for this douche.

xpost lol, I don't even use the term 'douche' very often, but the women of ilx are in agreement: he's a douche.

Yeah, some of those things weren't deal-breakers as long as there were other benefits...and I wouldn't write someone off for having made mistakes in their past, if they had a present & future. But the evidence kept piling up until kablooey.

Also, my friend mentioned me + bf to her hairdresser, who was from his old scene, and the stylist, like, dropped his brush and said, "GIRRRRRRRRL. How did this happen?" and dished on what he used to be like. Still is, as it turns out.

co-signing on douchebag status

do we have a rubber stamp or something? we need to make this official

So glad it's over, this guy doesn't deserve you.

yeah, fuck that guy! you're much, much better off, it sounds like.

on a much less significant note - where does 94/7 come from? is it autocorrected from 24/7 on ILX?

It's an old DC ilx joek, pretty sure.

I think it's because I DIED used to DJ at a club, outside of which you had to stand to smoke, and the awning to the business next door had the address 947 or something, and someone's eye caught it and rolled it into a drunk joke one night, and it stuck.

xpost ah, i see!

You refused to dance, ride a bike, go in the water, or get sand on you.

i feel like you can only refuse to do these 2 of these 4, and that's being lenient. 3 or more is completely unacceptable.

Oh, I forgot one:

At any event you went to, you would find at least one person who angered you so much that you'd spend the whole night threatening to fight them, but where only I could hear you. I think this was supposed to impress me and/or make me worry all night that you were unhappy and liable to cause damage.

That really is the cherry on the dungpile - sounds like the right decision was made all right.

whoa. fuck that guy indeed.

oh no. THAT guy.

I haven't even told you about the time I was at a show, getting happily drunk and FINALLY enjoying the last band to go on, and he came barreling out of the bathroom and said he was just jumped by two people and we had to leave right away because he had knocked them out in the men's room and we should be gone before they came out. I went back in and paid our tab, then walked out to find him, hands cut up and dripping blood.

Once home, I went to the kitchen to get ice for his hands and came back to find him on the floor, having apparently had another seizure and asking me to call an ambulance. So BACK to the hospital we went, to really, really bad results. That night was actually the start of the downhill slide.

that man is a fuck

see, usually when someone jumps you, even if you defend yourself, don't you call the cops or something? sheesh

yeah, he is a dumb stupid. good on you for being awesome throughout the relationship – it doesn't sound like easy chops, and you were like 900x more than he deserved

Oh God Laurel, my last bf displayed about 50% of these tendencies and even half-dose was infuriating. Sleep, no fun exertions, anger, hidden dodgy past I found out about on a blog...

i couldn't really tell from the BP thread what was up with this dude, but shit. crazy!

yeah yr reasons seem pretty clearcut, L.

onwards and upwards!

oh Laurel, this guy is a piece of work, and I am glad it won't be you that has to do that work any more. best wishes!

ugh, laurel i didn't know it was this bad. i was in the path of the seizure on your birthday and it was pretty scary in a "why is this person knocking me over and kicking me?" way and of course once i realized what was happening also scary - sorry it sounds like that was a regular occurence :(

glad he is kicked to the curb. let's get "boys are jerks" drinks soon.

oh and for good measure, i am over my breakup too. like so totally.

Awesome! I'm glad for you, bell. Let's hang out, possibly the weekend after this one! I'll be away for this one.

sounds good!

Laurel, wow. Fuck this guy.

Sleep, no fun exertions, anger, hidden dodgy past I found out about on a blog...

Okay, now I'm really curious!!

I will take it to 77...

oh, man, Laurel, i had no idea. good riddance; everyone and you otm.

ok NOW i want to get on 77

I haven't seen anything, ljub...??

wishing you the tidiest of bedcovers going fwd laurel

Ack!!

But now I'm wondering which std is statistically almost impossible to pass on?

wishing you the tidiest of bedcovers going fwd laurel

double-edged sword

well, then, hoping that the next duvet-musser isn't a complete asshole, i guess

wow, L, i'm so glad you saw fit to kick this one to the curb asap and wash your hands of him
<3 you

Hep-C, for the curious.

It's not really an STD I guess, since it's almost impossible to get it that way, but for the purposes of my having been put at risk unknowingly it's p much the same.

Fair enough, thank you. I hadn't really thought about that as an STD. I have a few friends who have it, but I presumed they all got it through drug use.

Bingo.

unmentioned STIs I have blogged

You know, speaking of duvet mussing, what do boys have against sheets??? I haven't met one in...ever? that used a top sheet. Hardly ever. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE THAT THEY WANT TO SLEEP UNDER DIRTY DUVETS?

I never use a top sheet but I wash the duvet/duvet cover once a week.

I am iffy on duvets and sleep above a fitted sheet and below a top sheet and light blanket

also if the sheet and blanket aren't tucked under the end of the bed I get fussy

Oh my god you're like the Brigadoon of men.

If the sheet and blanket ARE tucked in it makes me want to die.