crafty
― mookieproof, Friday, 22 June 2012 00:51 (eleven years ago) link
I guess it also makes me nervous that this is my first date in like eight years. *_*
― the magic butterfly made everyone feel relaxed (Abbbottt), Friday, 22 June 2012 00:52 (eleven years ago) link
assuming it happens
Warning: I married my first date in eight years.
― quincie, Friday, 22 June 2012 15:35 (eleven years ago) link
is it rude to ask someone for their photo if they don't have a profile pic up? they're the one that messaged me...
― rayuela, Monday, 25 June 2012 18:10 (eleven years ago) link
No! Go ahead and ask.
― ljubljana, Monday, 25 June 2012 21:34 (eleven years ago) link
i wouldn't even give someone without a picture the time of day.
i've been having an awesome time with someone...totally amazing chemistry and i'm crushing really hard.
― john zorn has ruined klezmer for an entire generation (bene_gesserit), Monday, 25 June 2012 21:52 (eleven years ago) link
I have come to the conclusion that most people on online dating sites are 'anti-seducers' (thats a term from Robert Greene's "The Art of Seduction"):
http://landofconfusion.tumblr.com/post/25792456084/anti-seducers-come-in-many-shapes-and-kinds-but
― homosexual II, Monday, 25 June 2012 22:24 (eleven years ago) link
calloused and judgmental vs insecure and bitter. sounds hot.
― bnw, Monday, 25 June 2012 22:34 (eleven years ago) link
Hahaha! How have I dated two of them in a row?
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Monday, 25 June 2012 22:58 (eleven years ago) link
Urgh OKC sent me its latest batch of "hey, high matches for you!" ppl, and one of them is my friend A, who Ive dated briefly in the past but put aside cos Im not into his poly lifestyle. Now he appears to be compeltely single and has kinda been ridin' my back about hanging out a lot, with a view to rehooking up with me I suspect, and I Just Dont Want To.
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Monday, 25 June 2012 23:01 (eleven years ago) link
if he wasn't poly, would you?
― mh, Monday, 25 June 2012 23:08 (eleven years ago) link
Nah, its not just that, tbh, I mean we're good friends but when we dated I found him a little overbearing and offputting, tbh.
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Monday, 25 June 2012 23:11 (eleven years ago) link
Haha, the "antiseducer." Is that book worth reading? It's always in high demand at the library. By people who, sadly, seem to lack any sort of social mojo.
Good on you b_g!
― Virginia Plain, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 01:33 (eleven years ago) link
Is this a dumb way of beginning yer profile, y/n:
I'm a militant agnost committed to revolutionary politics and Pixar movies looking for love (i.e. "Agnosticism and very serious about it").
― Moves Like Zappa (Leee), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 01:38 (eleven years ago) link
it looks like you're committed to Pixar movies about looking for love which are also militantly agnosticalso I don't understand how someone can be militant about agnosticism
― chupacabra seeds (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 01:43 (eleven years ago) link
It's a cute formulation.
― Moves Like Zappa (Leee), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 01:52 (eleven years ago) link
Pixar movies already get lots of love though?
― recordbreaking transfer to Lucknow FC (seandalai), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 01:57 (eleven years ago) link
How about:I'm a militant agnost (i.e. "Agnosticism and very serious about it") looking for loveandcommitted to revolutionary politics and <3 Pixar moviesas separate ideas/sentences
― chupacabra seeds (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 02:03 (eleven years ago) link
lol that messes up the punchline, but it sounds like it's already pretty well obscured that adding a few commas or subordinate clauses isn't going to fix.
― Moves Like Zappa (Leee), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 02:05 (eleven years ago) link
so confused
― chupacabra seeds (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 02:09 (eleven years ago) link
Is it meant to be a gag? I'm sorry, i dont think I get it either :|
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 02:13 (eleven years ago) link
YOU KNOW WHAT EVERYONE PRETEND I WAS NEVER HERE. ::hides::
― Moves Like Zappa (Leee), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:22 (eleven years ago) link
If OkCupid is going to regularly turn into this bullshit, I am flouncing.
(Back story, in the "most private thing I am willing to admit" this guy said: Not much, the things men have going through their mind would scare you)
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v209/Mandalion/Screenshot2012-06-25at93831PM.png
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:40 (eleven years ago) link
Like
a) is he addressing me in the 'you'?b) is he addressing women as a whole in the 'you'
both are obnoxiousalso clearly a misogynistthinks if he wears glasses he might pass off as a sensitive guy
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:43 (eleven years ago) link
he lacks imagination
― nicest bitch of poster (La Lechera), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:46 (eleven years ago) link
the tedium would shock you
― mh, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:46 (eleven years ago) link
oH MY GOD MAKING SENSE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER I AM SO SLIGHTED
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:46 (eleven years ago) link
Oh wow what a cockface! I would not have been as polite as you were there, I think! Actually I would have prob not replied at all out of shock, haha.
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:49 (eleven years ago) link
OH MY GOD POOR HIM, HE HAS NEVER MET A GIRL HE LIKED BEFORE because you share some interests. Martyr complex off the scale (not that I have never...ahem).
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 03:50 (eleven years ago) link
Prior to this, a few weeks ago, a guy kept sending me messages that were like "How r u cutie?" and "What are you doing tonight?"
The ONLY question he answered on OKC was that he was on OKC specifically looking for sex.
When I wrote back and said, VERY NICELY, that I wasn't looking for casual sex partners, he said back to me:
"Hey, you know I can get sex partner in 100 bucks and my time is much more expensive than that.... I am here to make friends. Neways, Gals like you have problems in finding partner because of your suspicious nature. But Good luck anyhow :)"
A male friend of mine was complaining that every woman he meets on OkCupid wants a boyfriend. And that he just wants to hang out once in a while, and make out (i.e. fuck). I had to remind him that most women can get laid any ol' time. And that if we went to the trouble of making a dating site profile, it means we want a BOYFRIEND. DUH.
I just... I just... don't know anymore. I really think this system is extremely flawed. SPEED DATING MIGHT EVEN BE MORE EFFECTIVE.
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 20:55 (eleven years ago) link
Hey, you know I can get sex partner in 100 bucks and my time is much more expensive than that.
The fact that prostitution is his other option is supposed to be a...selling point? Tipping his hand imo.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 20:59 (eleven years ago) link
cost of burger king and a movie followed by a couple 40s, imo
― mh, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 21:01 (eleven years ago) link
started a profile, can't think what to put in it yet, don't think i'd know what to message somebody either, :\
still in the hopeless case zone, obv
― ENPBGIW (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 21:22 (eleven years ago) link
Its ok Ive had a profile for ages and I never end up messaging anyone because everything I start writing seems daft and I lose courage :|
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 22:09 (eleven years ago) link
okcupid
― conrad, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 22:15 (eleven years ago) link
i'm going on a date with a cool girl i met on this next week!
― hardhouse banter (tpp), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 22:34 (eleven years ago) link
Have a date with an okc dude tmr. Seems like a cool person--am currently having issues with an IRL person so maybe this will just push all that outta my mind. Expectations too high?
― rayuela, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 22:38 (eleven years ago) link
my friend who is also on it let me look through the messages she has received from guys and it was pretty shocking both the depravity of some of them (you wanna watch me wank off on skype? etc) and the template messages that had obviously been sent to hundreds of ppl. gave me confidence actually.
― hardhouse banter (tpp), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 22:41 (eleven years ago) link
After a couple weeks of fussing with my profile and sending out dozens of messages with virtually no reply, someone sent me a brief message that ended up turning into a great conversation. We're meeting up tomorrow! The takeaway is to put as little effort into the site as possible, evidently.
― Vinnie, Wednesday, 27 June 2012 00:20 (eleven years ago) link
ts: neways guy vs. anti-seducers
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 27 June 2012 00:24 (eleven years ago) link
met the dopest girl from here right when i was at my dating nadir - i was gonna post something all dopey about it a while ago, and then thought better of it. next thing i know we've been seeing each other for a month
i swear i keep expecting to wake up some morning with my kidneys gone
― scream blahula scream (govern yourself accordingly), Wednesday, 27 June 2012 21:11 (eleven years ago) link
Waiting for date. Not really feeling up to it today but oh well!
― rayuela, Wednesday, 27 June 2012 22:56 (eleven years ago) link
Abort abort
― rayuela, Thursday, 28 June 2012 00:20 (eleven years ago) link
?
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Thursday, 28 June 2012 00:46 (eleven years ago) link
Sorry, that was written in a moment of desperation. Super nice but self-described talker. Like he talked the entire time. I felt like I was in a movie because I did not realize that people talked that ceaselessly in real life.
― rayuela, Thursday, 28 June 2012 01:09 (eleven years ago) link
Aaaand I'm a terrible person. Oh well.
That doesn't make you a terrible person! You're calling it like it is.
The date I just came back from was confusing. Fun conversation, I had a good time, but I'm so bad at reading interest. Seemed like she wasn't feeling it, but I could be way off.
― Vinnie, Thursday, 28 June 2012 01:30 (eleven years ago) link
I worry Im a talker/babbler with new people tbh :( I get so nervous, I compulsively fill lulls and silences with inane chatter. I cant help it. I know it must be irritating and it upsets me to think I'm dateless because I'm actually a complete fucking git.
― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Thursday, 28 June 2012 01:33 (eleven years ago) link
I like inane chatter
― Lee626, Thursday, 28 June 2012 03:29 (eleven years ago) link