"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

yeah I'm kind of all "if I'd wanted to stay in touch with you, I would have just stayed in touch, thxbye."

a lot of the people from eg school whose company i've most enjoyed recently are the people i didn't really get along with at school, while a lot of my actual friends from then who i've conscientiously kept in touch with, i now find quite awkward to communicate with. gosh what a torturous sentence that was. but anyway, gist of it = people change, and the people whose company is pleasurable and useful now aren't nec those you expect, and nor should they be

meh... i'll take the risk.

I'm really lousy at keeping in touch with people, so something like Facebook might turn out to be useful for someone like me. As I said upthread though, seems like not many people I know are on it anyway.

i see no indication that Facebook can be used the same way, in fact it seems like it functions in the opposite way: the only people whose details are accessible are people you already know! bo-ring

Not true, you can look up the details of anyone at your university who chooses to make those details public to the entire university (most people do)

Like I just said to my colleague, my social network works perfectly well on email

xpost but the point is that where with the paper facebook you found the picture to get the name, with online facebook you need a name to find the picture

You really can't beat rocks.

yeah I'm kind of all "if I'd wanted to stay in touch with you, I would have just stayed in touch, thxbye."

i totally agree. i can think of only one person who i've lost contact with that i would like to be in touch with again.

the kind of myspazz profile you have tends to dictate the kind of people you meet. i don't actually encounter that many weirdos; i only accept friend reqs from people who make the effort to write me an interesting msg; and i periodically cull my friend list of people i haven't stayed in contact with. and srsly, i've met some absolutely awesome people thru 'spaz that i wouldn't have otherwise encountered.

that's true, although there are WAYS xxpost

I just prefer facebook because myspace is ugly and broken a lot.

yeah, i refuse to join myspace on design principle

Facebook could be pretty awesome with the api and whatnot

xpost
If you mean by design otherwise perfectly sane adults putting hideously loud backgrounds and sparkly Zwinkys on their pages, then yes I agree. MySpace is like the worse of GeoCities and LiveJournal combined.

ok, i wasn't going to do this but i remembered i put my 'spaz url on my ilx profile-thingy anyway... for all you haters:
http://myspace.com/red_rubies79
go and have a laugh if you want. feel free to take the piss.

[although i've just added some art slideshows and they seem to be slow to download, but that could just be my computer]

If you mean by design otherwise perfectly sane adults putting hideously loud backgrounds and sparkly Zwinkys on their pages, then yes I agree

hehe :D

There's all sort of folks i've met irl that i don't have the time to keep in touch with. FB is awesome for that.
and also for letting me know which ex's literally want nothing to do with me!

big time xposts

it's the way it acts as a social diary which makes it potentially more than just a fad/way to pass time at work - it's really handy for planning anything from meals out with four or five people, to big parties, to even holidays - all the details on one handy page rather than a mass email which gets lost in the inbox. and this is why people are joining up, too! they don't want to be out of the loop.

This actually annoys me, if people are organising things I prefer it if they do it by email.

a lot of the people from eg school whose company i've most enjoyed recently are the people i didn't really get along with at school, while a lot of my actual friends from then who i've conscientiously kept in touch with, i now find quite awkward to communicate with

absolutely OTM. i have no problem with people from my "past" seeking me out. if it turns out we like each other in 2007, great; if not ... what, are we gonna start giving each other fucking chinese burns and bogwashes?

(actually ... that's one they should put in superpoke.)

fwiw: with one exception, all the ilx0rs i've added as FB friends are ppl i know in real life. does this make me rude and standoffish? it's not meant to. i'm still a little unsure about the etiquette of "friending" people you don't really know.

(whereas on last.fm, for instance, it's never been a consideration.)

that's one they should put in superpoke.

Fuck supering a poke. (The whole poke thing is kinda weird -- just say hi, gawdammit!)

I refuse to join MySpace on MURDOCH EVIL principles.

Yeah, I'm a little weird about adding ILXors, too. I'll say yes to those who ask me, but I don't add others unless I've met them IRL. I was the same way on Friendster and MySpace.

The past two months on facebook for me

- friends with 19 yr old uni students on my course
- old friends from school appear (ie people in their late 20s)
- people I know from my gap years appear (people in their late 20s/early 30s)
- people I used to work with pop along (people either about to hit their 30s or in them)
- bosses appear (old)

(And now - the cooler people I know, people like my trendy early 20s cousin, are defecting from myspace)

From where I'm, er, poking it seems fb has morphed very rapidly into a more grown-up/varied space just within the last few weeks.

A head-mashing collision of worlds, but has been a handy way for me to update my address book and say hi to people I was crap at keeping up with when I was much busier than I am now and not in the mood for chat.

^ 8080. I'm just not quite used to granularity of it all yet. It's not about posting shit you don't want your boss to see, it's the unease of a party when both your mates and your boss are there. You have different social registers for these people.

Precisely. I did feel very out of place on there when it was just me and uni mates writing 'wot time is the oral exam lol I forgot!!!!!" Was more at ease when friends my age appeared but, yes, the boss thing feels slightly gatecrashy - not cos they're mostly older but because there's obv a professional relationship there and now I'm supposed to call them my 'friend' and vice versa. Although some of the bosses I've seen making 'friends' with colleagues are probably more likely to write inappropriate stuff than I am.

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/519PAH2SC0L._SS500_.jpg

I thought that said "pubics"

None of my bosses are on Facebook. I'll take this as a good thing.

you guys know that you can set specific parameters for privacy on a person-by-person basis? so your boss, for example, doesn't have you see that your interests include "pedophilia" or "arson"?

why would you want to censor that

max works at a daycare with no fire exits.

no fire exits makes it harder for arsonists to get in, see

your interests include "pedophilia" or "arson"?

But that would be the only thing we have in common! Seriously my bosses are far too old to care about shit like Facebook.

people with myspace accounts should be culled.
-- Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, June 27, 2006 6:37 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Link

damn i should chillax

Most everyone at work jumped on the FB bandwagon, so they could be "hip like the students." They strong-armed me into signing up. I had to explain what a poke was to my boss, and then show her how to send a personal message.

It was depressing.

I just signed up for this today, totally different world to myspace. It's like a more grown-up bebo really, and I never warmed to bebo. It'll take some time to get used to.

How Facebook could crush MySpace, Yahoo!, and Google (from Slate.com).

zoe, i'm intrigued as to which "bosses" you mean ;)

it's the unease of a party when both your mates and your boss are there. You have different social registers for these people

er. i don't, really. there are subtleties and niceties, but it's all one big swirling vortex round grimly's social sphere.

The typical Facebooker spends hours each day sending messages, posting "notes" or blog entries, and uploading photos, along with trolling for freshmen girls who love the Decemberists.

journalists be hyperbolizin

some people on there have like 20-30 comments a day, most of which are the same message

"wow sounds like you had a great time!!! how was steve?? work is really busy at the moment! im off to Madrid in August!!! How cool is that????!!"

feels like being in a town centre pub in somewhere like Hatfield

"im really excited about the wedding!! photos look amazing!! have you seen any of the old gang around at all?!!! mikey is still just the same!!"

WELCOME TO THE REVOLUTION

6968080

which incidentally was my telephone number in 1985

Ed how was last night!!! sorry i couldnt make it round!! I had to work late!! crazy busy! what are you doing this weekend??? Is it ok if i bring round the macbook so you can do that cloning thing!! We'll have to meet up for drinks soon!! I'm busy all week and then its Dezzers stag on friday which should be AMAZING!!! How about sat??

I deleted my MySpace Account. I feel much cleaner now.

but 696 you must know these people if you can read their messages... surely you don't mind it that much.

he's looking for insider info on the housing crash

"I just paid £95,000 for a 2 bedroom buy to let in Croydon! WICKED!! I'm in the $$$$s now!"