Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Is it common for gross, PUA-ish dudes to come on all vaguely "he-man woman hater"-y on OKC? That would help selective and intelligent women to weed out some of the garbage, I'd think.

that fucking guy!

lol, mh

I had a fun conversation with two female friends who said it's gross to have "casual sex" as an interest and people would not message you. Then I kind of walked through their relationship ideas and figured out that they'd definitely want sex somewhat early in a relationship, within the first fourish dates/couple weeks, which they'd define as casual sex.

I mean, I get where we were coming from, but I still loled

My position on this is that everyone on OKC is interested in casual sex, hence it is gauche to come right out and say it. I don't know, perhaps I am a romantic?

I feel like casual sex in implied in a dating site . . . you don't really need to go any further in your specs.

Yeah, that's kinda OTM. Particularly if, as a guy, you're at all sensitive to how gross a lot of dudes are about stuff like that. It's probably fair to assume that it's on the table (unless specifically stated otherwise), but if a dude has that as a preference, it's a good bet that's all he's after.

Nah see to me saying "casual sex" on OKC has a very specific tone/point. Its not qiute like my aforementioned "hook up right away" kinda deal, its more an explicit "I am trawling this site specifically for a shag and NOT a partner". Which is quite different. I mean its a shave off solicitation to be honest. Which, ew.

Yup, which is entertaining in its own way, and I agree, but still pretty funny.

I wonder if there will ever be a feasible casual sex site for straights? One that wouldn't be creepy men grossing out women. Or is there? I don't know of any straight or bi, *blatantly* hook-up-focused sites on par w/ Manhunt (or Dudesnude, Adam4Adam, Craiglist, etc.).

lol adultfriendfinder? But as far as I've heard or know, it's not really a thing that happens. I don't know if it's a difference between the inherent/socially-prescribed way men and women interact, or if it's just part of this semi-formal dance of lack of acknowledgment where people *do* want casual sex but the way to do it is to be glancing around a bar at last call

"do you like learning from and teach1ng those around you?" barf. i wasn't gonna mock him here but then he listed ayn rand as one of his favorites so i feel like he's fair game.

List Ayn Rand as a fave decision tree:
Do they seem youngish, and perhaps they will know better at some point?
Y -> Continue
N -> Jump to 1
Do they have other interests that are decent, and seem to have reasonable politics otherwise?
N -> Reject
Y -> Continue
Was this actually part of a trend of idealistic naivete?
Y -> Reject
N -> Under consideration

1. Is there a weird extenuating circumstance where they might not get the implications of listing Rand?
Y -> This is an architect, proceed with caution
N -> Reject

Ha. Pretty OTM.

I wonder if there will ever be a feasible casual sex site for straights? One that wouldn't be creepy men grossing out women. Or is there? I don't know of any straight or bi, *blatantly* hook-up-focused sites on par w/ Manhunt (or Dudesnude, Adam4Adam, Craiglist, etc.).

a lot of my straight female friends looking for casual sex go the craigslist route. but the creepy dudes sending dick pix quotient is apparently very high.

I've wondered about the M4F part of Craigslist. I figured it was mostly horny regular guys with a few female meth heads and escorts.

I started chatting with a dude on OkCupid tonight who seemed smart, interesting, funny, etc - and then he decided to try and sexy talk me and get all dom. Mega turn off.

i have a good male friend who, last week, had sex on the first date with his female OKC partner about an hour after they met. Both of their profiles seemed like they were up for it and she wanted to meet around 10pm on a thursday at a bar near his house so signs pointed to yes, he asked and they did. So that stuff does happen.

hey man, whatever works

Is that what that Larry David movie is about?!

idgi

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I wonder if there will ever be a feasible casual sex site for straights?

nerve.com more viable for this in my experience than craigslist CE. Plus their music reviews are actually good.

I don't know if it's a difference between the inherent/socially-prescribed way men and women interact, or if it's just part of this semi-formal dance of lack of acknowledgment where people *do* want casual sex but the way to do it is to be glancing around a bar at last call

Does this ever happen in real life? I mean, actually waiting until the bar is closing and only then looking for, and finding, someone who wants to take you home? Wouldn't anyone looking for a hookup for the night chat up someone at the bar well before last call?

Have you ever been to a bar at closing??

i have, and it's been me, whoever i'd gone there with, and the bar people.

I have, and I never only then thought, for the first time all night, that I'd better look around the room and find someone in the last few minutes lest I go home alone

i sometimes forget that i live in a city where the bar-closing hookup literally replaced religion in the 60s

To me, hooking up at closing just says "hey youre smashed I can take advantage of that" which... eww.

tbh i think it's often a lot to do with the person looking being smashed enough as well tho?

tru dat

I mean Im not saying I havent had ill advised drunken hookups... just not at closing at a bar. Theyre usually dates that end up as "whoops we got drunk and ended up in bed"

Study: Half of Women Prefer Drunk Sex

Confirms what I long suspected....

Fifty-five percent said they like to be tipsy while having sex, and 7 percent want to be downright wasted.

Because making love is just so much fun when the room's spinning.

To me, hooking up at closing just says "hey youre smashed I can take advantage of that" which... eww.

No, it's more "we are both smashed and we're still at the bar at closing, still striking up random conversations so we obviously are looking for the same thing"

not that I have done this, but I may have made out with someone I met near bar close and then talked to for about ten minutes while waiting for pizza

they give you pizza on the way out?

btw this closing-time stuff at gay bars often continues in the throng outside, spawning the term "sidewalk sale."

nah we made out after the pizza

bit cheesy

any way you slice it

That's the way you knead it.

lol

the 3 a.m. bar hookup scene (and not just at big clubs you'd never go to) during summer in Montreal is a Real Thing. freedom reigns.

Well, booze reigns, but...

I am going to train myself to be able to sleep on demand when I can in order to non-sleep during early morning hours in another week or so. I think I currently turn into a pumpkin somewhere around 2ish?

uh not to hook up in montreal at 3am, but to be social until late hours...

bit cheesy

― pet tommy & the barkhaters (darraghmac), Friday, May 18, 2012 7:45 AM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

any way you slice it

― World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Friday, May 18, 2012 7:48 AM (3 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

That's the way you knead it.

― (Name Withheld to Avoid Hassle) (forksclovetofu)

Yada, yada, topping.

i was hoping we were gonna do a journey thing

btw this closing-time stuff at gay bars often continues in the throng outside, spawning the term "sidewalk sale."

Hahaha I never heard this term and it's awesome.

That's it, I'm going to Montreal.

^^^^^yeah seriously

i think i am going to delete my old okc and start a new one, because i kind of feel like throwing everything in the garbage right now. i got this awesome message today:

I'm thinking of setting up a harem. What do you think?
Here's the deal. I shall approach every woman who I score more than 90% with after answering 100 questions.
We shall dwell on a tropical island. By this time, I shall of course be a multi-billionaire thanks to my shady business dealings, blackmailing the heads of the G8 using loose women and narcotics.
You shall be required to be a geisha-like companion to me on this island, fulfilling my basic sexual needs, and perhaps playing an instrument, though not simultaneously.
Cooking and cleaning skills are a plus, but not mandatory. I shall be known as the Overlord, but obedience is not compulsory, especially since most of the women I score more than 90% with (let's call them "the 90 percenters") are angry liberal feminist political science majors who would baulk at so much as doing some laundry.
At some point, you will be required to bear a minimum of one child. This is so I can fulfill my genetic predisposition to produce as many offspring as possible. The resulting offspring can then be reintegrated back into society, in order to revitalise it and act as a new master race for the overthrow of tyranny and the ushering in of the new, enlightened age.
Jealousy may be an issue between you and the other 90 percenters, but I think we can organise conjugal rights efficiently, perhaps on some sort of rota basis. I hereby undertake not to play favourites. A certain amount of adulation and affection would be required ideally, but may be feigned if not developing naturally.
What do you say?
M. Noir

M NOIR, go fuck yourself.

Why do guys think that kind of shit is funny? :|