Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I keep saying it!!! Live nearby and visit often.

Thursday through Sunday is pushing it btw.

Xp to prev discussion its also presumptuous bc even though my next week is open, who is to say that it will stay that way?? Most of my friends are all busy and we all schedule things!

Also to mh what do u feel cheated by?

I don't think it's constant contact thurs - sun but you know.

Cheated by the fact that I either feel guilt I shouldn't for enjoying having a goodly amount of alone time, or cheated by ending up with people who want to BE TOGETHER ALL THE TIME

I'm with you mh!

Not that you should do so too, because it's part of my defeatist, negative, run-away-from-anything-difficult-by-writing-it-off-as-impossible thinking, but I take it as evidence that "I am not made for other people".

Daet tonight.

I feel like this one could at least be a bro even if other things didn't work, which is a better sign than I've had for a while. I think we know some people in common even. Otoh that kinda puts pressure on not to do or say anything I'll regret b/c I might have to be around this person again in the future.

as long as it's not emotional weirdness it's ok, imo

Oh I just meant getting drunk and over-excited and talking a lot, loudly, possibly pounding on the bar for emphasis, and/or making out in public or something equally dumb. All par for the course, sadly.

This is why I don't have nice things easily embarrassed friends.

once you take those things out everything left sounds a little bit dull to me tbh

That means you are the kind of person I could be friends with! Congratulations.

a very cheerful note on which to end my day :)

have fun!

It went very cutely, btw. I mean who fucking knows but thumbs up for now.

what happened to dimples?

I don't think he really liked me that much? It just kind of trailed off. He was good with all the things you can check off a list: email on time, send thank-yous, offer to lift heavy things, etc, but it was kind of like he read about them in a rule-book and not because his heart was in it? Serial dater, had the moves down but I could never tell what was behind them.

Be a fuck-up, be a hot mess, but please be basically a warm, affectionate person that I can at least understand.

Actually I prefer fuck-ups and hot messes, apparently. I mean going on the evidence.

It's heartening to be reminded that not everyone treats dating/relationships like a g-d financial transaction. Fuck-ups and hot messes need love, too.

I think I've decided I'm easy

Honey, we knew that.

Uh I don't know what this is but I like it.

Going on 4th day of seeing each oth btw. o_O

wow! :)

Laurel!

I know! Going back on everything I stand for.

I'm not going back on it, not really! I have plans 4 out of 5 nights this week already, he just showed up on a blank weekend in my calendar so it was simple to get together. And nice. We'll see how it goes. We live near each oth so that part, at least, still holds?

I was gonna say, wtf are you talking about? You wanted warmth and availability and ease, and you got it! Enjoy it ffs ;)

Yesssssssss

they pretty much just do stuff thursday-sunday and spend the rest of the week doing their own thing in their own homes or with friends.

I was like.... wait, you can actually do that?!?

Yep. That's pretty much my ideal too, to the point that for much of my life i gravitated towards kinda-long distance relationships to ensure it stayed that way.

I think it's time for me to move any further updates to the boy trubs thread because for the duration of whatever I am off okc.

congrats!

Thanks! I guess! It doesn't feel like I've "arrived" anywhere in any way, it's just a beginning and god only knows. But it's...okay! Enthusiastically okay.

grudging enthusiasm

You know me.

it's the way to go!

POLYAMOROUS PEOPLE OF OKCUPID - LEAVE ME ALONE!

I only discovered the poly scene on okc when I listed bisexual on my profile l o l

OMG

Hey!

I just got a message on Scruff from a super super cute guy who works at Trader Joe's. He recognized me. I've caught him looking at me every time I'm in there but I kind of thought he was straight and just being that Trader Joe's brand of preternaturally friendly!

Ugh why do so many guys got to name themselves lame things like "artyguy" and "quirkyguy" and similar vague "I'm cool, me!" words that are really offputting? Whats in a name, etc, but blergh.

creativelad18563

Ha yeah exactly ;_;

shit you figured out my name on okc

LAD

roffle

OK in the immediate list of matches and visitors on my page Ive got names such as "foodartguy", "artyguy435", "luv2plsrU" (ewwwww), and at least four guys with the word "geek" or "nerd" in their username. COME ON GUYS. TRY HARDER.

Je55e, what happened with the scruffy trader joe guy??

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