"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

you have to know someone's name to look them up on facebook, too...

I actually stay in touch with people more regularly through MySpace, which unlike most of creation I really have no problem with (though a lot of that has to do with Greasemonkey making things very handy for me). That said others prefer Facebook more, it's whatever works.

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That's what I'm saying . . .I just did a search for my major and hundreds of people came up. I could see their name, photo, networks or whatever and residence. Most people just had something like "Austin, TX" but some had "Blanton Rm 406". Dumb. I didn't know them or their names. Yes I'm part of the same University network but that's not hard to join.

or their friends' name

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at my college, a "facebook" was like a telephone directory except with PHOTOS of everybody, and the whole point was to find the deets of someone you'd only seen at a party, or somebody cute in your english lit class that you were too shy to approach

i see no indication that Facebook can be used the same way, in fact it seems like it functions in the opposite way: the only people whose details are accessible are people you already know! bo-ring

FB is very much the bourgeois ex-student social network of choice, innit? it's totally exploded among my meeja chumz in glasgow and london in the last fortnight. maybe it'll be a passing fad; i dunno. right now i just like the fact that it's a really good way of keeping up with a shitload of old friends.

it's the way it acts as a social diary which makes it potentially more than just a fad/way to pass time at work - it's really handy for planning anything from meals out with four or five people, to big parties, to even holidays - all the details on one handy page rather than a mass email which gets lost in the inbox. and this is why people are joining up, too! they don't want to be out of the loop.

fb also put me back in touch with someone from The Past, who i'd had no other way of contacting, which is really brilliant and more than myspazz ever did for me.

I am up to four or five 'I've added you as a friend on Facebook...' mails a week now.

i dunno, i think youre mostly being paranoid ms. misery. all this shit is out there for the dedicated stalker even in facebook's absence.

Tho I like having my last.fm on FB.

yes! but that's about the only app I currently like.

I think MySpace put me in touch with too many people from the past. Once all those weirdos find me on FB I'll probably abandon it too.

FWIW when I was in college we kept in touch by carving messages on rocks and leaving them at the creek where everyone washed their tunics.

xxpost, perhaps I am being a bit paranoid but there is something to say about young people being too trusting of the this technology.

i have pseudonyms because i don't wanna be found! srsly facebook sounds like my worst nightmare.

i dont think its a question of trusting the technology so much as trusting yr classmates/friends. fwiw id say its mostly a minority of people who actually have their addresses/dorm rooms in those fields (or who keep those fields updated)

yeah I'm kind of all "if I'd wanted to stay in touch with you, I would have just stayed in touch, thxbye."

that said, I've had a couple of repressed memories track me down on that god-forsaken myspace. hahahawesome... :\

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You are probably right. But for cute blonde Jenna over in Carothers dorm it could be all I'm in ur room sniffin ur panties and explioting ur fresh young credit.

yeah I'm kind of all "if I'd wanted to stay in touch with you, I would have just stayed in touch, thxbye."

a lot of the people from eg school whose company i've most enjoyed recently are the people i didn't really get along with at school, while a lot of my actual friends from then who i've conscientiously kept in touch with, i now find quite awkward to communicate with. gosh what a torturous sentence that was. but anyway, gist of it = people change, and the people whose company is pleasurable and useful now aren't nec those you expect, and nor should they be

meh... i'll take the risk.

I'm really lousy at keeping in touch with people, so something like Facebook might turn out to be useful for someone like me. As I said upthread though, seems like not many people I know are on it anyway.

i see no indication that Facebook can be used the same way, in fact it seems like it functions in the opposite way: the only people whose details are accessible are people you already know! bo-ring

Not true, you can look up the details of anyone at your university who chooses to make those details public to the entire university (most people do)

Like I just said to my colleague, my social network works perfectly well on email

xpost but the point is that where with the paper facebook you found the picture to get the name, with online facebook you need a name to find the picture

You really can't beat rocks.

yeah I'm kind of all "if I'd wanted to stay in touch with you, I would have just stayed in touch, thxbye."

i totally agree. i can think of only one person who i've lost contact with that i would like to be in touch with again.

the kind of myspazz profile you have tends to dictate the kind of people you meet. i don't actually encounter that many weirdos; i only accept friend reqs from people who make the effort to write me an interesting msg; and i periodically cull my friend list of people i haven't stayed in contact with. and srsly, i've met some absolutely awesome people thru 'spaz that i wouldn't have otherwise encountered.

that's true, although there are WAYS xxpost

I just prefer facebook because myspace is ugly and broken a lot.

yeah, i refuse to join myspace on design principle

Facebook could be pretty awesome with the api and whatnot

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If you mean by design otherwise perfectly sane adults putting hideously loud backgrounds and sparkly Zwinkys on their pages, then yes I agree. MySpace is like the worse of GeoCities and LiveJournal combined.

ok, i wasn't going to do this but i remembered i put my 'spaz url on my ilx profile-thingy anyway... for all you haters:
http://myspace.com/red_rubies79
go and have a laugh if you want. feel free to take the piss.

[although i've just added some art slideshows and they seem to be slow to download, but that could just be my computer]

If you mean by design otherwise perfectly sane adults putting hideously loud backgrounds and sparkly Zwinkys on their pages, then yes I agree

hehe :D

There's all sort of folks i've met irl that i don't have the time to keep in touch with. FB is awesome for that.
and also for letting me know which ex's literally want nothing to do with me!

big time xposts

it's the way it acts as a social diary which makes it potentially more than just a fad/way to pass time at work - it's really handy for planning anything from meals out with four or five people, to big parties, to even holidays - all the details on one handy page rather than a mass email which gets lost in the inbox. and this is why people are joining up, too! they don't want to be out of the loop.

This actually annoys me, if people are organising things I prefer it if they do it by email.

a lot of the people from eg school whose company i've most enjoyed recently are the people i didn't really get along with at school, while a lot of my actual friends from then who i've conscientiously kept in touch with, i now find quite awkward to communicate with

absolutely OTM. i have no problem with people from my "past" seeking me out. if it turns out we like each other in 2007, great; if not ... what, are we gonna start giving each other fucking chinese burns and bogwashes?

(actually ... that's one they should put in superpoke.)

fwiw: with one exception, all the ilx0rs i've added as FB friends are ppl i know in real life. does this make me rude and standoffish? it's not meant to. i'm still a little unsure about the etiquette of "friending" people you don't really know.

(whereas on last.fm, for instance, it's never been a consideration.)

that's one they should put in superpoke.

Fuck supering a poke. (The whole poke thing is kinda weird -- just say hi, gawdammit!)

I refuse to join MySpace on MURDOCH EVIL principles.

Yeah, I'm a little weird about adding ILXors, too. I'll say yes to those who ask me, but I don't add others unless I've met them IRL. I was the same way on Friendster and MySpace.

The past two months on facebook for me

- friends with 19 yr old uni students on my course
- old friends from school appear (ie people in their late 20s)
- people I know from my gap years appear (people in their late 20s/early 30s)
- people I used to work with pop along (people either about to hit their 30s or in them)
- bosses appear (old)

(And now - the cooler people I know, people like my trendy early 20s cousin, are defecting from myspace)

From where I'm, er, poking it seems fb has morphed very rapidly into a more grown-up/varied space just within the last few weeks.

A head-mashing collision of worlds, but has been a handy way for me to update my address book and say hi to people I was crap at keeping up with when I was much busier than I am now and not in the mood for chat.

^ 8080. I'm just not quite used to granularity of it all yet. It's not about posting shit you don't want your boss to see, it's the unease of a party when both your mates and your boss are there. You have different social registers for these people.

Precisely. I did feel very out of place on there when it was just me and uni mates writing 'wot time is the oral exam lol I forgot!!!!!" Was more at ease when friends my age appeared but, yes, the boss thing feels slightly gatecrashy - not cos they're mostly older but because there's obv a professional relationship there and now I'm supposed to call them my 'friend' and vice versa. Although some of the bosses I've seen making 'friends' with colleagues are probably more likely to write inappropriate stuff than I am.

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/519PAH2SC0L._SS500_.jpg

I thought that said "pubics"

None of my bosses are on Facebook. I'll take this as a good thing.

you guys know that you can set specific parameters for privacy on a person-by-person basis? so your boss, for example, doesn't have you see that your interests include "pedophilia" or "arson"?

why would you want to censor that

max works at a daycare with no fire exits.

no fire exits makes it harder for arsonists to get in, see

your interests include "pedophilia" or "arson"?

But that would be the only thing we have in common! Seriously my bosses are far too old to care about shit like Facebook.

people with myspace accounts should be culled.
-- Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, June 27, 2006 6:37 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Link

damn i should chillax

Most everyone at work jumped on the FB bandwagon, so they could be "hip like the students." They strong-armed me into signing up. I had to explain what a poke was to my boss, and then show her how to send a personal message.

It was depressing.