Now that we found love what are we gonna do? The Winter 2011-12 Gay Thread

there is a particular junction in london that would often take the bus up to half an hour to get past, a distance of a couple of hundred metres maybe.

my record is being 2 hours and 10 minutes late for work.

I never stopped biking over the winter, but now I can at least enjoy it.

my record is being 2 hours and 10 minutes late for work.

― lex pretend, Tuesday, March 13, 2012 2:50 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark

did you get fired

i missed a film on friday because it took an hour and a half to move from the beach to fairfax (< 12 mi)

nah, my boss did sigh pointedly when i walked in but i don't think i ever turned up less than half an hour late. i stayed late most of the time though. flexible hours!

- i am hardline w/r/t being controlled: my attitude is always "this is how i live my life, if you don't like it the door is that way". fuck a compromise!

ALSO THIS IS NUTS

― 3hunn O))) (J0rdan S.), Tuesday, March 13, 2012 3:54 PM (3 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i still don't get how that is nuts btw

cuz that's not how relationships work?

well i don't know... i feel like if most people like other someone else they're willing to make some compromises or small alterations to their lifestyle, and vice versa

i mean i don't understand the mindset of "i'm this way and if it means i'm alone for the rest of my life, then so be it" but i guess i can sympathize with it, but it doesn't seem particularly helpful to anyone including yourself

well there are some things i might be ok with changing but mostly not. i'm not gonna change myself to needily hang on to some guy, if they love me at all it'll be for ~who i am~

it's actually a very interesting conversation

somewhere in btw is obv the answer, but deciding where that line is is the bitch

i have given this a lot of thought tbh

cooking, aesthetic tastes, and pasta vs rice are areas of compromise, I think.

I think I've had enough of gays loving Victor Calderone remixes of Madonna though

a great thing about having a bf is evaluating yourself and how you live your life and do things and seeing how the other person can positively alter you, if you let him

I am a rock, I am an island

yah. Most of the changes wrought by companionship are subtle and take months or years to show.

j0rdan otm. i think it's not fair at all to have huge expectations of other people while refusing to budge yourself.

sometimes i'd find sitting in traffic on my way home to be very zen

this is actually nuts

haha

i don't have massive expectations of other people except as it pertains to what they expect of me

i mean probably, yeah xp

like, they can do what they want and go where they want and see who they want, i'm not gonna control them

well sure

Having a bf is helping me realize some of my annoying and/or selfish habits

altho sometimes it's nice if someone comes along with you to do something even if they don't want to even if you have to return the favor

What makes accepting those changes in a relationship is suddenly realizing you're no longer one of the friends watching and criticizing your bro as he subtly changes -- now it's you.

not to get all regionally competitive abt it but rhode island drivers are THE most disgusting savages and there is nothing zen about having someone sit blocking your lane as they force a left hand turn into the oncoming lane xp

yeah, that's kind of an important realization xp

tbh i take pride in making my person happy, so while i definitely take pride in myself, ima change like a girl before a date if it means making him smile

a penguin paperweight that fell on the floor about 3 weeks ago that i still haven't picked up yet

Please make this film.

yah. Most of the changes wrought by companionship are subtle and take months or years to show.

i think this is a different thing, obv one's character changes over time and is necessarily affected by everything you go through and everyone you know, but it's more...specific things that i do and about the manner in which i like to live my life, i am not gonna change those at anyone's behest

it fell on a pile of laundry so i didn't have to pick it up, then it rolled away when i did the laundry and has come to rest next to the wardrobe. i can't be bothered yet

xp

The nice thing about my annoying and/or selfish habits is they don't seem that way if I spend the entire day alone.

Morbius needs a hug, a cup of warm milk, and Joel McCrea.

The nice thing about my annoying and/or selfish habits is they don't seem that way if I spend the entire day alone.
--Literal Facepalms (Dr Morbius)

the internet is not life. for which you and I can both be grateful.

If you say so.

Lex, have you ever had a patient, cooking-skilled friend go through a few basic things with you, in your own kitchen?

Btw I never cooked rice till WmC shared that rice recipe a couple years ago on the cooking thread - it makes perfect rice and you can skip the saute bit at the start.

no. i miiight be amenable to that but i don't really want to ask because a) i don't think it would end well b) i don't know what to ask or where to start.

man I should have really invited you over when you were last here

Sometimes my commute ends too quickly. Yesterday I was engrossed in a book so I stayed on to the end of the line and then rode back.

― free societies must let drunken gay Texans have sex (Je55e), Tuesday, March 13, 2012 2:46 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I miss doing this. I've taken to podcasting on buses in the past year which is just NOT the same thing and it's a bad habit. Music has taken over headphones at the gym where podcasts once ruled and thus books on the bus have been shoved to the side. Might be the solution to the lack of fiction I've read lately.

Xps just ask, and just be completely honest about your lack of skills. Cooking rice and pasta, sauteing veggies, marinating meats, boiling/steaming veggies, baking and pan-frying meat, roasting - these are all simple techniques that are (usually) easy to learn, and will provide you with many different kinds of meals. Get your friend to do each technique and explain why they are doing each piece of that technique. Then have them walk you through doing it yourself another time.

Just an idea! Also: alcohol should be involved in these lessons, if you think it'll help you not feel so pressured.

the glass of wine you drink while cooking is my favorite glass of wine

^^^ I'm drinking mine now (pouring my second)

Also, Lex, even though I learned to cook at a very young age, I hated it for years bc I had to cook most of the family meals from 12-18. I've only started to really get more into it bc I am fortunate enough to have a v appreciative audience - it has def inspired me to cook much more adventurously than I ever imagined possible.

rice cooker makes perfect jasmine rice btw, i didn't even mind having to use jasmine rice in my burrito. (i had no medium or short grain rice in the pantry and fuck a brown rice burrito imho)

This looks useful.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LEVJHKqWvuI

If we all ever meet, let's do so at the Olive Garden in Times Square.

It would be a plus to find some 30-year-old culinary whiz who's into me.

I make spaghetti with Ragu Light sauce once a week.

hi cad! damn, you never know what topic's going to bring the nice straight boys into the thread.

― Literal Facepalms (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, March 13, 2012 11:29 AM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lol hi morbs! i do enjoy checking in on the gays tbh.

I always use jasmine rice in my burritos and I add a little butter when I cook it and ohh my gooodddd so good

my beans are v good, tho. always. i make a mean bean imho.