"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

Message Bookmarked
Bookmark Removed
Not all messages are displayed: show all messages (5862 of them)
Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (thirteen years ago) link

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (thirteen years ago) link

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (thirteen years ago) link

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (thirteen years ago) link

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (thirteen years ago) link

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (thirteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (thirteen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (thirteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (thirteen years ago) link

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (thirteen years ago) link

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (thirteen years ago) link

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (thirteen years ago) link

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (thirteen years ago) link

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (thirteen years ago) link

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (thirteen years ago) link

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (thirteen years ago) link

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (thirteen years ago) link

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (thirteen years ago) link

Did you read the Lewis Flyer article yet, M.?

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:12 (thirteen years ago) link

Regarding the quote in topic, yeah, the relationship status on Facebook does lead to a lot of awkward situations. A friend of mine had that she was married to her boyfriend on Facebook. After they broke up for a while, he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:42 (thirteen years ago) link

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.
-- dog latin (doglati...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (dog latin)

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:49 (thirteen years ago) link

But what is this thing that US students say is now more important than sex and texting?

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (thirteen years ago) link

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

That is pretty harsh.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (thirteen years ago) link

I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

Deric W. Haircare (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:36 (thirteen years ago) link

Facebook is fucking annoying. I'm an elderly undergrad, surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication. So I decided to get kicked off of Facebook but it's not working yet--I've replaced my entire profile with excerpts from Pilgrim's Progress and some Duran Duran slash fiction, I've started reporting every person whose profile says "Libertarian," etc. No luck.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:41 (thirteen years ago) link

surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication.

hi, do you know the internet?

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:51 (thirteen years ago) link

hah yeah wtf how is it different than anything else on the internet?

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:56 (thirteen years ago) link

that facebook thing would have been so useful for my social life in '96. and myspace too. and p2p files exchange softwares (I was so informationally poor). also, ah, if only I had pentium3 +highspeed+100gig storage+ free video editing software back then, when
i was more interested in cinema , because most of the canonic cinematographic trips were new to me etc good grief I should have been born in '81

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:03 (thirteen years ago) link

believe it or not, there are things better for your social life than exponentially raising the amount of time you spend sitting in front of a computer.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:28 (thirteen years ago) link

i don't.

jeffrey (johnson), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:30 (thirteen years ago) link

Hating facebook doesn't make much more sense than hating cellphones, the yellow pages, AIM and email. It's a social lubricant. If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:42 (thirteen years ago) link

(which would be a better thing to complain about)

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:43 (thirteen years ago) link

mickey, the way I see it it's all about saving time rather than wasting it,of course; it would have been useful in my early 20's to help me find out fun places to go out , with with people I have affinities with, rather than rely mostly on luck. anyhoo, now these apps are less "urgent" to me at this time in my life.

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:46 (thirteen years ago) link

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:47 (thirteen years ago) link

If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

It's not that social networking replaces your social life, it just... mediates it. Instead of personally inviting people to parties via word of mouth/telephone/email or just throwing it up on a flyer, you're sending it to a reasonably targeted, much larger group than you'd be comfortable calling. The downside is that pretty soon you're doing the majority of communication through there, any "event" that can vary from a party or concert to two people sitting around drunk turns into some "scandalous" photo diary, and there's the online backchannel that sucks everyone in.

I've been around people where there's this obnoxious feedback loop where they're pretty much trying to come up with new people to befriend and more pictures/content to put up on things like myspace, and half of what they talk about is myspace. Urgh.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:20 (thirteen years ago) link

That's an interesting way of putting it.

Still, why is word of mouth/telephone/email an inherently better form of communication? I agree that it's a "larger group than you'd be comfortable calling" but I think that's very likely a good thing. For example, tonight I'm going to play soccer with a casual friend from a class. He invited me and the rest of the group with a facebook message. It would have been awkward for an acquaintance to call/email, and probably would have never happened.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:49 (thirteen years ago) link

man, facebook was so much better back when there were only like 8 schools on it

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:21 (thirteen years ago) link

snob

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:30 (thirteen years ago) link

Facebook's early history is pretty snobby and reflects the fact that it was started by a Harvard kid. The schools were added pretty much in order of prestige. No doubt the public school kids just weren't mature enough to deal with such technology until much later.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:45 (thirteen years ago) link

Now they even have community colleges, though. Anyone who takes an adult continuing education course could get on there! It'd be amazing if people in cooking and wine tasting classes started using facebook to set up events and communicate outside of class.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:04 (thirteen years ago) link

The influx of philistines brought Facebook down to Myspace levels of social networking websites, ones it could never recover from! Oh, how I long for the days of only having to add friends from ivy league schools.

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:05 (thirteen years ago) link

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

I had a friend whose girlfriend changed her facebook relationship status to "single" in order to make him jealous, or something.

31g (31g), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:10 (thirteen years ago) link

oh c'mon, thinking the relationship status setting on your facebook profile matters to you or anyone else is pretty ridiculous, right? also, there's an "it's complicated" setting

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:22 (thirteen years ago) link

if someone changes their relationship status on their facebook profile it tends to cause gossip round our way, so it's not as ridiculous as all that to worry about it. Also people use facebook for looking up friends' new beaux etc. I keep forgetting I have a facebook account, every so often I log in cos someone's 'written on my wall' or put up an embarassing photo and discover month-old messages from people who clearly know my email address, but for some reason seem to believe that everyone checks facebook more often than webmail.

putting yr actual girlfriend/boyfriend as 'wife' or 'husband' on facebook is kind of crepey though, surely it should refer only to actual married spouses or to best friends.

permanent revolution (cis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:18 (thirteen years ago) link

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT

which reminds me ... enrique, are you still gonna be in glasgow this weekend?

grimly fiendish (grimlord), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:31 (thirteen years ago) link

Well when I'm all "let's go to the bar and watch the game" and my girlfriend makes it some huge elaborate Facebook event, it's irritating. Also, I liked most of my friends better before I knew what their favorite books are.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:33 (thirteen years ago) link

i cancelled my facebook account when i dropped out of school.
in retrospect, i should have kept it to creep on co-eds.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:34 (thirteen years ago) link

Also, I liked most of my friends better before I knew what their favorite books are.

haha this is true.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:39 (thirteen years ago) link

Now they even have community colleges, though. Anyone who takes an adult continuing education course could get on there! It'd be amazing if people in cooking and wine tasting classes started using facebook to set up events and communicate outside of class.
-- business up front, party entrance at side door (neupun...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (mike h.)

I know a fair amount of Johnston & Wales -- a local culinary school -- on there.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 22:42 (thirteen years ago) link

it's a form of torture

Trϵϵship, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:13 (six months ago) link

If I were that terrified of being reminded of my life I wouldn’t record it for posterity tbh

gray say nah to me (wins), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:50 (six months ago) link

it's a form of torture

― Trϵϵship

this also applies to facebook as a whole, fyi

The Elvis of Nationalism and Amoral Patriotism (rushomancy), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 15:06 (six months ago) link

I was having a bad day a while back and Facebook was nice enough to show a post and pic of me and our dog the day before we put little Dottie to sleep : (

Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 15:10 (six months ago) link

That's horrible. I live in fear of the day my RIP post for my cat shows up in FB memories - it got tons of engagements at the time so I think they'll definitley go for it.

Daniel_Rf, Monday, 4 February 2019 10:45 (six months ago) link

So happy I'm off fb. It's been 2 weeks now? Haven't missed it at all.

nathom, Monday, 4 February 2019 12:58 (six months ago) link

i don't think it filters 'memories' in any way, based on the four bits of absolute tosh it just gave me, none of which has a single like.

"is imagining he's playing tennis"

oh look, 6 years ago i was in kensington waiting for the comedy to start. i know this because i checked in from the pub next door. fascinating.

koogs, Monday, 4 February 2019 13:17 (six months ago) link

congrats nathom!

i don't miss facebook but i do miss talking to most of my internet friends. they're good people but the opportunities for quality socialization on facebook just aren't there, i find it to be an addiction that ultimately does more harm than good. i need to find more friends i can hang out with in person, but the social anxiety makes it challenging...

The Elvis of Nationalism and Amoral Patriotism (rushomancy), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:48 (six months ago) link

ilx is the only good place on the internet

Calgary customer Elvis Cavalic (bizarro gazzara), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:52 (six months ago) link

(in b4 inevitable 'and even ilx sucks' posts)

Calgary customer Elvis Cavalic (bizarro gazzara), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:52 (six months ago) link

i don't think it filters 'memories' in any way, based on the four bits of absolute tosh it just gave me, none of which has a single like.

They don't show YouTube links in memories anymore, but I think that's the extent of the filtering (aside possibly from game/app posts).

a large tuna called “Justice” (C. Grisso/McCain), Monday, 4 February 2019 15:47 (six months ago) link

Have deactivated FB and IG for a little more than a month now and it's been brilliant. Don't miss either.

Wish I could take myself off Twitter too but it's a job requirement, unfortunately.

Roz, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 04:41 (six months ago) link

I have been off fb for a couple of weeks. It's liberating. I do miss some people but the downsides being on it are outweighing the former. Back on ilx which feels grebt. Just can't access my stevienixed account. Nathom will do. Lol

nathom, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 12:58 (six months ago) link

Well, you get the FB ilxors here too, so there’s that!

suzy, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:12 (six months ago) link

Yes! Missed you guys

nathom, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:33 (six months ago) link

yay!

Mark G, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:33 (six months ago) link

"You have two memories..."

but before that, here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted floating around that we put together because it is Friends' Day

and here's a 3 word post from 9 years ago (that one's probably on me)

and here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted that we've cobbled together for no other reason than it used to be January and now it isn't. Your January Highlights.

and here's a memory from two years ago yesterday that you might have missed (but didn't)

meanwhile those group posts you made to that group with 26 people in it, we're only going to show that to two of them, despite the fact that they all subscribed specifically.

koogs, Tuesday, 12 February 2019 11:06 (six months ago) link


You must be logged in to post. Please either login here, or if you are not registered, you may register here.