who cares if he is the love of her life?! live large, laurelita!
― Laura Lucy Lynn (La Lechera), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:35 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah, okay! You're right, LL.
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:36 (twelve years ago) link
by the way, critical update, the thing with girl i was totally stoked about went really well this afternoon! definitely going to be seeing her again soon.
― tmi but (Z S), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:37 (twelve years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hiUuL5uTKc
― Laura Lucy Lynn (La Lechera), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:38 (twelve years ago) link
lol
― wolf kabob (ENBB), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:39 (twelve years ago) link
ZS did she think your scar was teh cuet? :)
― HO WBEAUTIFUL IS THE GENTLYFALLINGBLOOD? (Le Bateau Ivre), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:45 (twelve years ago) link
nah, we barely talked about it, actually. she said she didn't notice it until i pointed it out. but yeah, she's very cuet and v v intelligent. it was nice to tell a few anecdotes and have the other person actually smile and laugh! that sounds so stupid, but the last few okc things i've been on have been like talking to dr. stoic
― tmi but (Z S), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:54 (twelve years ago) link
ppl not reacting to anecdotes is the worst feeling
― ⚓ (gr8080), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:56 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, plus i mean it's a date, i'm busting out some of the best anecdotes i can think of. these are the anecdotes that have survived natural conversational selection to rise to the top of the memory pool, and i can't even get a "hmmph".
― tmi but (Z S), Saturday, 18 February 2012 22:59 (twelve years ago) link
Good for you, ZS! My two-weeks-ago date hasn't replied to my message re a second date yet...
― ljubljana, Saturday, 18 February 2012 23:16 (twelve years ago) link
i am still only lurking okc.
still don't think babes in this town have figured out its ok to okc yet
― ⚓ (gr8080), Saturday, 18 February 2012 23:19 (twelve years ago) link
these are the anecdotes that have survived natural conversational selection to rise to the top of the memory pool, and i can't even get a "hmmph".
This made me giggle, the idea of conversational darwinism haha.
And I mean really, how rude does someone have to be to not respond to a story? Even if you are bored spitless its polite to at least look interested, gah it isnt that hard.
― Lindsay NAGL (Trayce), Sunday, 19 February 2012 00:41 (twelve years ago) link
I'm back. It was mildly pleasant.
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Sunday, 19 February 2012 05:53 (twelve years ago) link
He said he'd like to see me again, and I agreed, but I'm not sure that wasn't just politeness about a dead end.
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Sunday, 19 February 2012 06:01 (twelve years ago) link
He was quite stylish and not at all bad looking, but I think he might have realized I wasn't interested in his tiny dog.
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Sunday, 19 February 2012 06:56 (twelve years ago) link
four hr im convo, tons of BSing about music (great rap/R&B taste FTW), and we're set for monday. crazy shat.
im ... generally a bad look, but can work wonders (???)
― pearsonic, Sunday, 19 February 2012 07:13 (twelve years ago) link
x-post. Read that as "dong" at first.
― nickn, Sunday, 19 February 2012 07:17 (twelve years ago) link
showed this thread to the girl I've been seeing
― conrad, Monday, 20 February 2012 21:33 (twelve years ago) link
Got a message back from my date saying he's really busy with work and this week is 'already out', in what came across as a slightly snippy tone. Wrote back that I understand work pressures (and I really do) and maybe next week sometime, let me know when's good if that works for you. Silence.
― ljubljana, Tuesday, 21 February 2012 01:19 (twelve years ago) link
*waves to conrad's girl*
ljub the last time a guy did that to me its cos he was doing the bailout act and was too gutless to just say so. I had to flat out ask him "you're not bothered with this anymore are you" and he then admitted he wasnt, and I just dropped him. I HATE TIME WASTERS.
― Lindsay NAGL (Trayce), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 01:21 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah, I'm kind of getting that vibe. He was intriguing, but definitely not intriguing enough to chase after.
― ljubljana, Tuesday, 21 February 2012 01:31 (twelve years ago) link
The second best thing to being told how awesome you are is being told straight-up: "Sorry, but I'm not feeling it." It feels like RESPECT!
― garbage corn fan (Je55e), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 02:00 (twelve years ago) link
It's so great that I message 3 or 4 people a day just to tell them that.
― garbage corn fan (Je55e), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 02:01 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah I've had a couple of recent experiences with - not rejection, but just full on honesty about their situs, and I love it, it is so refreshing.
― Lindsay NAGL (Trayce), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 02:03 (twelve years ago) link
I haven't been on a date in quite a while, but when I was dating frequently I found that when I gave honest, simple no-thank-yous, the other person felt the same way, and I made a friend after one such disclosure.
― garbage corn fan (Je55e), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 02:07 (twelve years ago) link
It can be a relief, if nothing else, it undoes a level of "what if" thats left hanging otherwise. And yeah I agree ive made/stayed friends with people I *adored* once I 'fessed up and they said no, or vice versa.
Its the ones you say no to who then chuck a queen sized tanty, that you need to run away from (thank u, mister "you're lucky I didnt drive into a TREE after you told me that" gothboy I once knew)
― Lindsay NAGL (Trayce), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 02:20 (twelve years ago) link
lol-sorta
Jesus.
Somewhere between driving into a tree and "Oh thank Christ" is a good reaction.
― garbage corn fan (Je55e), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 02:36 (twelve years ago) link
[Yeah, I'm kind of getting that vibe. He was intriguing, but definitely not intriguing enough to chase after.
NO CHASING!!
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 03:14 (twelve years ago) link
every time i've even half-chased someone, it has only ended in nothing or half-heartbreak
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 03:15 (twelve years ago) link
Yep - I chased back in 2009 and got myself into a total state (documented on here somewhere). Once I'm really into someone, I can get ridiculous. But he really sent crazy mixed signals, that 2009 guy.
― ljubljana, Tuesday, 21 February 2012 03:38 (twelve years ago) link
my friend has the mantra "don't chase them, replace them" and i think it's a good rule to live by. when something clicks you don't have to chase or be chased.
― bene_gesserit, Tuesday, 21 February 2012 18:15 (twelve years ago) link
so out of nowhere, i've been seeing a non-OKC girl (i met her through real life friends - a novel concept!) a bunch over the last week. she's really, really awesome!! so it was kind of bad timing because the okc person i saw recently was actually pretty cool and i was excited to see her again, but...gotta follow the heart!
― tmi but (Z S), Tuesday, 21 February 2012 18:21 (twelve years ago) link
Kind of wish this thread was on 77. Bleh. Sick of feeling like dating is akin to applying for rental properties or jobs! >:|
― Lindsay NAGL (Trayce), Thursday, 23 February 2012 07:44 (twelve years ago) link
(as in, I always just miss out... sigh)
disabled
― Z S, Thursday, 23 February 2012 15:48 (twelve years ago) link
I have an email from someone that I like & want to respond to but I don't go on the site at work, and I'm too tired to be sparkling and witty at night. Shd I email him like one line just to apologize for the delay? I feel responsible. Because a bunch of people haven't responded to me, either, and I'm like, "WHAT? WHAT DID I SAY? I'm too old for you, aren't I. You're 36, you can date 29-year-olds. And you're tall, and thin, and you appear to own at least one suit--I'm sure there's a tall, thin, athletic professional woman with a blow-out for you out there. You know what, just forget it." I'm probably doing this to that guy, aren't I.
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Friday, 24 February 2012 14:43 (twelve years ago) link
Er I meant "athletic, professional," not actually "professional athlete." There's probably not a professional athlete out there for everyone.
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Friday, 24 February 2012 14:44 (twelve years ago) link
email him back imo
― ⚓ (gr8080), Friday, 24 February 2012 14:54 (twelve years ago) link
if you don't go on the site at work, could you craft a sparkling and witty reply at work and then just log on at home & paste and send?
― rayuela, Friday, 24 February 2012 14:58 (twelve years ago) link
so there's no okcupid app for droid?
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Friday, 24 February 2012 15:30 (twelve years ago) link
i mean android obv lol
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Friday, 24 February 2012 15:31 (twelve years ago) link
Oh there is but I can't write on my phone. I can't think with my thumbs at a measured pace, and I can't cut and paste when I want to move a though to another paragraph, and etc. It makes me write in l33t speak out of annoyance with the technology.
― drawn to them like a moth toward a spanakopita (Laurel), Friday, 24 February 2012 15:32 (twelve years ago) link
rayuela has it, I'll write an email in another account and send it later. Now why didn't I think of that?!
My intriguing date met someone else and politely messaged to explain this. I politely responded. Next!
― ljubljana, Saturday, 25 February 2012 01:48 (twelve years ago) link
Next indeed! I'm at a weirdpunk show and i say Go for Love not casual-maybe blahblahblah!
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Saturday, 25 February 2012 05:29 (twelve years ago) link
<3 this is the vibe that I'm feeling as well
― Z S, Saturday, 25 February 2012 05:31 (twelve years ago) link
I'm getting married
― conrad, Saturday, 25 February 2012 17:54 (twelve years ago) link
just kidding
― conrad, Saturday, 25 February 2012 17:55 (twelve years ago) link
connie u are such the playa on thyis thread
― jojothejojo (toandos), Saturday, 25 February 2012 18:07 (twelve years ago) link