Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

!! Avoiding awkwardness would have been accomplished by immediately blocking you and never mentioning it! So maybe she's after you.

This is my worst online dating/hookup nightmare. I don't want anyone I know IRL seeing my profile EVER. Last time I had one I locked the friends I could locate before I put up a real picture.

was yr profile racy

Mine? It was on Adam 4 Adam so it was somewhat adult themed. But a non-hookup profile is no less super private for me.

I wouldnt mind from a details-revealed POV but then again I avoid a heck of a lot of the compromising q'ns on OKC (esp about drugs).

The actual information is NBD, it's just someone seeing me operating in a dating context. That's private.

vp, got yr message!

happy VD ilx singles. if anyone wants to come to this party tonight let me know. i made a bunch of cookies and they are really good.

On to Subway after, around 8, 8:30ish.

Is this the Subway Inn on 60th/Lex? I am taking myself to The Miners' Hymns at Film Forum at 6:15, no firm plans after aside from eating.

Morbs! Yes indeedy it is that Subway Inn! We'll be there after 1 or 2 rounds of luxury.

b_g, I wish you were coming with us but I hope your party is cat-tastic and full of delicious things.

i actually have a little okc thing going on tonight! may or may not work out, but it'll beat drinking a bottle of wine by myself while watching c-span2 on mute

Mrb, you should have seen miners hymns with me live at the winter garden. Then we could monopolize your evening.

Zs, kudos, tho drinking a bottle of wine by myself is one of my favorite activities.

Happy Valentine's day, past, present, and non okc users! I'm hoping to clean up on Valentine's from the under-12 set.

Messaging with 2 guys at present, 1 is older than me (omg wtf gasp!), that's just been light TV shw talk so far... the other is a guy I really like the look of but after several enthusiastic exchanges my last one was a reasonably long, detailled ramble about music interests as he expressed a love of music and he's not yet replied. Guys tend to try and play it cool tho, right? God I over worry about this rubbish.

the longer the message the longer it takes to respond ime

Yeaah, I'm hoping thats what it is, like he's taking time to craft up a reply. Ive been home sick today which hasnt helped, nothing to do but stare at the pc and fret.

Hahah I jinxed myself! He just replied.

had a sort of nice date that ended with the realization that yeah, nothing will ever happen, biked home and had a bit of an accident, blood all over the place an unexplainable bandages all over my face for the next 2 weeks

happy valentines day!

fuck this holiday

yikes dude :(

Oh crap Z! Are you ok? :/

Had the best time at the Carlyle/Subway. I highly recommend a date with Laurel and rayuela, with a special guest appearance by Dr. M. Except I drank too much (again). Two (actually four) martinis is more than I can handle. Do I owe anyone money or anything? We forgot to kvetch about okc.

"actually four"

heal up ZS

Glad u made it home ok! It took me a while this morning to feel human again. I didn't feel drunk until I got home, and then I felt REALLY DRUNK. I should not have had that beer but I thought there was no sense in wasting it!

I had a good time last night as well & was lovely to meet you all on the most romantic of all days.

Sorry about the abrupt departure last night, I wd have liked to stay at Subway about another hour with you all, but yeah holy hell the double martini.

Jealous of anti-VD fap. I had a strange date that I thought was going well but ended with a handshake (? is that normal? It was awkward as hell but she stuck her hand out so I took it and shook it). At the first place I went to I somehow lost my wallet when the bill arrived, and found it right after she paid. Of course I apologized prefusely and paid for all the drinks at the next place but she seemed really pissed. Then I rode off on my bike and fell on my face.

Mary, I think we owe you money! Or Bemelmans does, because I couldn't stop you from putting too much on the tab. Perhaps the waiter will remember you in future, is that your plan?

Haha, I don't remember much from the second martini on. I'm just glad I contributed at all to the bill.

laurel your timing was perfect b/c had we stayed out any later, i would have felt disastrously drunk in public, and not in the privacy of my apt.

vp, you also bought us a round at subway!

zs, sorry to hear about the terrible date & face injuries...

ZS, I have to say, I have shaken people's hands before upon meeting up on dates, and even on departing. Because unless you have achieved a specific bond, I'm not into hugging peeps and getting cheek-kissed or w/e by relative strangers just because we went to the same place for a drink. So I wouldn't take the hand-shaking as a bad thing NECESSARILY, it may just be meant to keep you at a distance until further developments develop.

hand-shaking is ok

I always end dates with a high-five

double martini
these should not be allowed to exist

if i drink more than 2 regular martinis i feel like i'm on the edge of point of no return
like my friend janet says: martinis are like boobs; stick with two.

i guess the loophole in that aphorism is that they could be doubles...

At least I'm a generous drunk. Insolvency usually keeps me from drinking more than one at bemelmans, but I was seduced by the special occasion.

lol a former employer once told me "martinis are like boobs: one's not enough and three's too many"

to which I would say "balls" :D

It's not reeeeally a "double" but they give you a little flask with whatever was left in the shaker when yours was mixed. Very dangerous.

oh yeah, that's the proper quote - i am not so good at remembering quotes and jokes - that's why i need friends/internet! :)

All you really need to remember is the "martinis are like breasts" part. Someone else is sure to fill in the punchline for you.

Oh shit I just had the thought that I might have left my hand-cast silver art ring in the bathroom at hotel. Shit shit shit shit

that sucks -- but there's probably a higher chance of getting it back from the hotel bathroom than if you had left it in subway, no?

does anyone else do the thing on this where you talk/flirt with people but have no intention of anything more? i mean... or does everyone do this and just pass on the pain?

Hah. Hah. I was just talking to someone about that yesterday.

No.

i don't. but some people do, it seems.

it's not really intentional, sometimes i think i want to and then i don't. this is what happens to me constantly too. i don't let it go too far i guess, a few times i've spoken to people quite a lot over a few weeks and actually felt it was leading somewhere then they FLAKE, i assume the worst from now on.

in other dating nooze, met a girl last week from another site and we had a few beers, wasn't a majorly serious thing but i did quite like her and towards the end of the night she seemed to make it explicitly clear she liked me.

then when i went to kiss her at the end she kissed me on the lips coldly, and awkwardly, about three/four times. so awkward i actually laughed.

AND THEN, next day texted me to say "i had such a nice time, we should definitely do something again"

which i don't even believe, i hate this sort of "politeness".

she kissed me on the lips coldly

do you mean that her lips were cold, or that it was just really mechanical?

i am currently really stoked on this one girl on okc who is waaaaay out of my league, but somehow as i was trying to figure out how to write her a message without sounding like the lamest person in the universe i got an email saying that she "chose" me or whatever (rated 4 or 5 stars). so we've been talking. and it turns out that in addition to being really pretty and having big doe eyes that i want to drown in she's also a relatively prominent writer at...well, i won't say. but somehow she's done all of this at 26, already. but she keeps talking to me for some reason? i've casually mentioned meeting up a few times in the context of longer messages but she keeps ignoring the idea in her reply.

anyway, gaaaaaah, i don't even know her well but it's the first thing resembling gaaaaaah that i've felt in several years

xp
maybe she was uncomfortable w/kissing after a first date?

Zach why do you think she's out of your league???

all i've thought about the last two days (in the midst of going to work, going out for drinks with another okc person and slamming my face into a curb) is how i would feel if she'd agree to meet me out somewhere, doing anything. but obviously i have to play it cool so i go on like it's not a big deal.

sigh

how've you casually mentioned the meeting up? if she keeps ignoring that is a bit suspect but maybe it's not clear? i don't know

I think I'm deliberately keeping parts of my life disorganized so that I can have an excuse for not dating