Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

i'm always overthinking this shat, heh

had a very nice second date with a OKC lady this past thurs, but now she's off for a week's vacation abroad starting sunday

shot her a friendly text yesterday ("have a great trip!" etc) but now i gotta wait and stew. things are likely alright, but damn the overanalysis

datinggggggggggg --- womennnnnnnnnnnnnn

aaaaaand i reactivated my profile today, added a few pictures, edited a sentence or two. but i think i'm going to kind of be ultra-relaxed about it and only check it if i get a message or something. if it happens to work, that's great, and if nothing happens, no big whoop.

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48-Year-Old Man Actually Very Open To Dating 25-Year-Olds

lol @ surname being "Bogan" =)

I would like someone to write a profile for me, which I could then modify. I asked Jenny but I'm not sure she's into it. Is this a bad idea? I've written a number of these things and it's always the same crap and I'd like a fresh starting point.

I was in a very honest and confident mood a few weeks ago and wrote up some new material. I may locate it and update sometime!

What can a profile really say about a person? It seems like there is nothing I can write that would give any impression of who I am or what I am looking for in a person. Is it like how job interview questions are less about the substance of the answer than how the answer is given?

Rhetorical questions, mostly. Not actually grilling you/y'all.

that is pretty existential, dunno what you're looking for. can a person really ~understand~ you after one or two dates, either?

Just thinking aloud, musing I guess. But the thing is, when you meet a person in person you have enormous amounts of sensory information that you don't have from a profile. Seems like 1 minute in person is worth a whole OKC profile.

I got a lot of response from a hook-up site when on a whim I changed my headline to "Mr. Right plz to come here." Actually got a couple dates, and one guy mentioned the headline.

OK. Laurel and I are meeting at Bemelman's Tuesday night around 7. Who is in? On to Subway after, around 8, 8:30ish.

The thought of re-instating my profile fills me with dread. Yeah, I can judge a person with 1 second of meeting them.

Jesse--I could try and write your profile. I would need some info from you tho:)

I wish I could just say to all the single boys on ILX "anyone wanna go on a date with me?". itd be so much easier than this poopy OKC crap.

Ha, are there many in your hemisphere?

I almost felt inebriated enough for a moment to re-load my profile, but then I got distracted by the Grammys.

I'm over wishy-washy dating; I'm ready for mutual attraction. Does that still exist?

VP that might work though I'll have to let you know when the booze has left my system.

Trayce, I would totally accept a date w/ you except for the matter of sexual orientation.

Jesse, we could exchange deets and write each others' profiles. Comedic hijinks ensue.

VP: no thats the problem ;_;

i'm back in OKC land and am grabbing a drink with someone on Tuesday. tmi but this is my first ever date with someone who is bi

I have a terrible confession - after dating a bi guy I am somewhat bi-phobic. Sorry.

ZS have you ever had a threesome?

nope

and shit, just realized the drink with someone on tuesday is...valentine's day. that kind of ruins my plan of setting a new solo drinking record and then passing out with my shoes on

Oh man I'm sorry I asked. It feels like I asked my brother that question.

oh, no big deal

i mean this thread is de-indexed (right?) so who cares.

Only thing I learned from OKC was that if someone says they're mentally ill on there, it's a good idea to believe them.

i feel like i could trust a female bi person more. that might be fucked up and sexist. it was just weird for me b/c there was a very, very sexually aggressive woman pursuing me who he encouraged me to fuck so that he could get a chance to be w/ a woman.

anyway, good luck and keep your mind open i guess.

that sounds discouraging but i mean it.

Why does the fact someone's bi always lead to questions about threesomes and/or infidelity risks? It bugs me.

because that is all these bisexual monsters care about

god bless em

oh man, on the first (and last) time I ever IM'd someone, total disaster. :(

Sorry Trayce. Unfortunately the bi guy I dated was also an asshole, which I should remember when thinking of bi people.

FWIW many of the str8 dudes I've dated were assholes with issues around infidelity + desires for threesomes so YMMV.

fwiw I have dated women who were kind of jerks and also had infidelity / threesome desire crap

Yeah but were they straight ot bi? The point is when str8 ppl suck at relationships it's accepted that it's bcuz they're assholes. When bi ppl suck at relationships it's evidence that bisexuality is at fault. Which is hypocrisy land.

Yeah, Je55e, you definitely need to concentrate on the 'he was an asshole' part rather than the 'he was bi' part. The two aren't really related.

OK. Laurel and I are meeting at Bemelman's Tuesday night around 7. Who is in? On to Subway after, around 8, 8:30ish.

i'll be there! but, probably, significantly underdressed? i am horrible at dressing up. vp, i have no idea what you look like! wear a red rose?

also i kind of feel like i'm going on a blind date

Mary feels like she's going on a date, full stop. Yesterday she asked me if I had planned something romantical.

um i have a date now

Great!

disabled my account

due to success or frustration?

I'd like it to be success! quickly v intense while not rushing into anything not interested in seeing anyone else at all.

congrats!

I might be done with this site for good. I've had more luck meeting people on Fetlife than this collection of hopeless freaks (present company excluded, obv).

Great, rayuela. Laurel and I will be the two Midwestern looking people. Actually, on the upper east side that descriptor might not go that far. I'll message you my details.

Don't worry about dressing up--its the most laid-back swanky place I've ever been. You can wear whatever you want. Ssshhh, Laurel. You're making me seem like a demanding date.

I just reactivated my account and immediately found 2 guys I like the look of a lot - one of whom I already know from last.fm funnily enough.

I'll try and stem my complete anxiety at not being in the right frame of mind to date anyone and just get on with my life.

loooool, i have a meeting with a contractor tomorrow at 1pm and one of them just sent me a message on okcupid saying that i showed up as one of her quiver matches and she thought she'd send a message in advance to avoid potential awkwardness!

Hahah oh christ, I would be mortified if a workmate showed up in my matches. Never thought about it.

when i put a profile up i came across a workmate after about 3 matches.

not cool.

i think she mightn't maintain her profile now tho. anyway i got the fuck out of dodge post haste.