Now that we found love what are we gonna do? The Winter 2011-12 Gay Thread

Oh i dunno, Grindr can be startling too- I just had the jarring experience on Grindr of a blonde, 6 foot 5 sporty n fit looking twenty year old tell me out of the blue that I was very handsome only to realize, upon closer inspection, that he was a former student of mine- he apparently didn't recognize my pic without glasses and suit and tie? I explained that I couldn't flirt with undergrads but was happy to have a friendly chat. I wouldn't file that under "tedious" but under "the one that got away" . . .

oh and hi all and thanks Morbz for coming to that metal night, that was fun

congrats on cool job Stevie

it was fun! my friend and i both loved yr jacket.

Grindr has totally lost its appeal to me. So has sleeping around in general, for that matter. I guess my "wild youth" days are behind me :-(

― tropical mall lady (Stevie D(eux)), Sunday, January 29, 2012 9:52 PM (5 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

stevie u r so dead to me. this thread is so gentrified now.

i think these threads were always pretty gentrified tbh

nah i remember when it was black lesbians for miles

black lesbians can gentrify themselves too

Ph!l and I have essentially decided that we want to be monogamous. For the first few months I wasn't totally sure but I think it's a good idea. I feel like I'm in it for the long haul. I told him yesterday, "I'm not going anywhere."

I haven't bought a bookshelf yet though. I'm actually slowly giving him all my books cuz I don't want 'em anymore.

T, if it makes you feel better I think my pathetic cocksucker slut years are just in front of me, so I'm doing my part.

don't mind me, i went out last night and didn't get laid and being hungover always makes me super horney anyway

but morbs that does make me feel better.

being hungover always makes me super horney anyway

yes! there's even a thread about that here somewhere

anyway i've been distracted all day by some cypriot pretending to be coy. if he wasn't cute in his profile pic i would be doing my reading for class.

ran into a guy i went on a date with at an art opening last night

on a saturday?

also ended up hooking with this guy after we went back to my place for drinks earlier this week. hadn't really planned on that but it was nice. (he told me afterwards he's not looking for a relationship and i was like "cool! me neither!" would that it always went that smoothly)

yes

this show, which is terrific (that giant wall installation is amazing - took some photos of it last night but they were all fairly blurred)

http://www.luisdejesus.com/

Ooh! Also tbh T they might return someday! Maybe I'm just having a phase of chastity?

I never had sleeping around days, I guess. Never figured out *how* to do it. I dunno. It's not like I'm opposed to the concept - hell, I'm allowed to - but the entire concept of picking up guys remains totally daunting and confusing to me. I feel like I stumbled into a pretty decent relationship through dumb luck.

Tbh, school and life are so exhausting these days I don't have it in me to go out that much (and despite not picking up ever, I love going out). Went to a concert Friday night that ended at 2:30 for the first time in months and Saturday I was hungover and unproductive until sundown.

The boy's been expressing a desire to indulge in his 'wild youth' days, though, so I guess I'll just live vicariously through him.

And wait. Confused. tanuki = c0rey, so who is judith?

really its only the picking up guys part i enjoy. sometimes i feel like i get bored halfway through sex let alone relationships.

oh, it's Ti4rn4n. nevermind. hi!

my brain still hasn't recovered from friday night, clearly. ugh.

hey!

hey jude <3

I never had sleeping around days, I guess. Never figured out *how* to do it. I dunno. It's not like I'm opposed to the concept - hell, I'm allowed to - but the entire concept of picking up guys remains totally daunting and confusing to me. I feel like I stumbled into a pretty decent relationship through dumb luck.

Same here, minus the stumbling into a relationship part.

I do, I must say, sorta savor being able to tell stories from my *CRAZY PAST* or w/e. I was talking abt sex stuff to my friend at work the other day and I was all "Did I ever tell you abt the time I fucked a rabbi?" and she nearly shit herself.

i have had the worst 24 hours of trying to get laid. normally i am super good at this.

also, hey jed. <3 <3

A Rabbi?

Like... reform? Or modern orthodox? You get more points/respect from me the further up the theological chain you go.

i am doing a half decent job at slimming down, and growing out my stubble. then i am getting a tan and showing off my new haircut.

(xp speaking of getting laid)

I've gained about 10 lbs since this summer. I'm okay with that.

but the entire concept of picking up guys remains totally daunting and confusing to me.

Me too until I have way too many drinks in me and I turn a corner and I'm suddenly starting conversations all over the place and evidently being good at breaking the ice in a way I normally am not.

Last night I went to the somewhat seedy Lucky H0r5h0e and talked to a bunch of Mexican and Guatemalan guys celebrating two birthdays. One of them - short and cute - asked to friend me on FB but I'm not sure he succeeded. I was like just take my phone number, but being a modern man, he doesn't like using the phone.

It's also far easier for me to start a conversation w/ a stranger in Spanish. Or when in a strange city. Maybe I feel more open when I'm out of my usual element or something.

picking up guys is somewhere between hello and a miracle, it's a fine line

My worst moment of which I a proudest is when I went up to the stranger in the bar and said, "Take me home with you," and he did. I reserve the right to brag about that, though I don't even consider it bragging since it was the booze talking, not me.

me and my straight best friend have ended up having really frank discussions about sexuality the past two nights

what constitutes "really frank"?

[also, i enjoy v. much the construction of the phrase 'my straight best friend' insofar as it inverts all of the weird tokenism of the far too often heard phrase 'my gay best friend']

yea the 1-2 punch pickup can work real wonders jess

takes one to know one in those kinds of situations

Ha – I always had a frank sex/"relationship" chat with two of my best straight bros last night: prostates and such.

whoops: omit "always"

Chicken wings and beers helped with the sextalk.

As for my sex life, I've been dry for weeks, since before Xmas; thank god for my dromedary instincts.

you store it in a hump?

I store my humps more like

I just jerked around all weekend, not nec in a metaphorical way

jerked into a literal facepalm

i went to the salon and talked to the ladies, scrubbed my shower and my sink, re-organized the linen closet and got the new Vogue

I need to clean my bathroom tonight or tomorrow.