And just as tempestuous.
― dor Dumbeddownball (Eric H.), Tuesday, 17 January 2012 19:33 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, i dunno, it bugs me that i'm not being assertive at all when ppl assume i'm straight tho. i'm not saying i have to shout it from the rafters. i guess a couple things that have happened in the past week have brought it into relief. there's a straight couple i've formed a very intense friendship with in the past few months and i've found myself on the verge of coming out to them at a few appropriate moments, but always stopped myself. i was just talking to the gf last week about my lack of love and she was all "don't worry, just let it happen and you'll find the right girl", and i felt stupid and cowardly for not coming out to her at that moment. and then the other thing, a (less close, admittedly) friend teasingly suggested i might be gay in a way that seemed to imply his true assumption is that i'm straight. which was kind of revealing like do i strike ppl as kinda faggy but not like actually gay per se?
and yeah, bi concerns, although i'm p confused about that tbh. like i know i'm very much attracted to women, and i've dated and fooled around with women in the past, but something always feels kind of awkward and not quite correct about it that it doesn't when i'm with a guy. so, i'm not sure how interested i am in women for practical purposes at this point. and i'm always worried that my gay side will drive them away. i've kind of come to the conclusion that i could be with a bi woman but not a straight woman. i'm totally stuck on whether to tell ppl i'm gay or bi. maybe i should just tell ppl i'm a kinsey 4. the last guy i dated, after i said something about my gayness, was like "no, you are so totally bi!" i often wish i was completely 100% gay, that would be so much simpler!
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 19:39 (twelve years ago) link
i really should use proper capitalization when writing big blocks of text
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 19:40 (twelve years ago) link
I really enjoy the rare times ppl flat-out ask "Are you gay?" bcz I love coming back w/ "so far"
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, January 17, 2012 11:18 AM Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink
Oh god, the last time someone did this, it was in front of my dad, which, even though i'm out to him, was awkward as fuck.
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 19:41 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, that would not make it fun.
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 17 January 2012 19:44 (twelve years ago) link
man, sorry rev, that has to be maddening
― i think this is serious (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, 17 January 2012 19:46 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, what a pain in the arse
― judith, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 19:50 (twelve years ago) link
Despite having enjoyed my handful of experiences with women, I tend to round up to gay. It's just more convenient and more accurately describes what I'm into/looking/for/want or just sort of go for the all-purpose queer.
In other news, I just remembered this afternoon that idly staring at cute guys on the bus is one of life's great joys.
And I finally got a haircut and feel vibrant and awake and human again. Shaggy mane was weighing me down.
― Somewhere between Fergie and Jesus (Alex in Montreal), Tuesday, 17 January 2012 21:12 (twelve years ago) link
Will post a picture soonish.
― Somewhere between Fergie and Jesus (Alex in Montreal), Tuesday, 17 January 2012 21:13 (twelve years ago) link
cannot WAIT to get a haircut
― surm, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 21:23 (twelve years ago) link
it changes my whole outlook
― surm, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 21:26 (twelve years ago) link
i need to fix my haircut. i don't like it.
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 21:36 (twelve years ago) link
Growing this beard is my version of getting a haircut.
― dor Dumbeddownball (Eric H.), Tuesday, 17 January 2012 21:40 (twelve years ago) link
i think the beard looks v nice on you in that pic, eric
― donna rouge, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 21:53 (twelve years ago) link
yes it's v impressive!
― surm, Tuesday, 17 January 2012 22:09 (twelve years ago) link
interested in: Carol Channing
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, January 17, 2012 1:27 PM (9 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink
actual lol
Rev, it's tough to tell established friends if you weren't actually in the closet and hiding it from them. If you're just coming out of the closet, it's a lot easier to answer the inevitable "Why didn't you tell me before?!" than if you are correcting their assumptions. Anyway, I'm wishing you the best.
Alfred OTM re "look at that cute guy" (or mentions of a/n ex/boyfriend).
Haircuts OTM. Beards too, Eric's in particular!
― Je55e, Wednesday, 18 January 2012 05:04 (twelve years ago) link
i'm contemplating adding a pride pin to my bag. seems kinda tacky tho.
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 18 January 2012 09:49 (twelve years ago) link
Rainbows are so gaudy. Bear pride colors are much nicer.
― Je55e, Wednesday, 18 January 2012 14:21 (twelve years ago) link
Bear pride colors are basically a more saturated version of any given pit stop at Pinterest.
― dead-trius (Eric H.), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 14:34 (twelve years ago) link
hi
― surm, Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:24 (twelve years ago) link
there are bear pride colors?
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:25 (twelve years ago) link
surm, every time I see you online I hear "Ra ra ro-ma-ma" in my head.
xp
Yes - earth tones!
― Je55e, Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:25 (twelve years ago) link
brown (fur) and yellow (honey)
― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:25 (twelve years ago) link
that's their story and they're sticking to it
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:27 (twelve years ago) link
Ha, I didn't know that's what the colors represented. I feel like I've seen bear-pride flags with gray and black on them, too -- I guess those are just different shades of fur.
― Girl I want to take you to a JBR (jaymc), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:29 (twelve years ago) link
also just had to google Pinterest, since thus far I've assumed it was an affinity for The Homecoming
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:29 (twelve years ago) link
I'm making a sport of joshing jaymc today.
― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:30 (twelve years ago) link
Oh, LOL, I thought it was a resort in Northern Minnesota!
xp re Pinterest
― Je55e, Wednesday, 18 January 2012 15:30 (twelve years ago) link
Bears pride colors are basically a more saturated version of any given pit stop at Pinterest.
― dead-trius (Eric H.), Wednesday, January 18, 2012 6:34 AM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink
― ah, how quaint (Matt P), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 19:03 (twelve years ago) link
Bears pride colors are basically a more saturated version of any given pit stop at Pinterest
― dead-trius (Eric H.), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 19:08 (twelve years ago) link
pit pride
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 19:10 (twelve years ago) link
hey guys, i have jockstraps on my necktie today
― i think this is serious (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 20:12 (twelve years ago) link
literally
― i think this is serious (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 20:13 (twelve years ago) link
never even seen those at the Nasty Pig boutique!
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 21:29 (twelve years ago) link
oh THAT's where they went, mind mailing them back to me, thxxx
― donna rouge, Wednesday, 18 January 2012 21:43 (twelve years ago) link
http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ly0ejhpfCu1qjnwvko1_500.jpg
he, he
― i think this is serious (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 21:54 (twelve years ago) link
oh tomw is the gay metal night in Greenpoint.
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 23:04 (twelve years ago) link
WANT xp
― ah, how quaint (Matt P), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 23:35 (twelve years ago) link
The sweater too!
― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 18 January 2012 23:38 (twelve years ago) link
the same Greenpoint bar has a Friday night thing called Kielbasa, which I think tabes needs to attend sometime like a good Pole.
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 19 January 2012 18:11 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, really don't need gay threads no mo', unless someone needs to call me a bitch on Thursday.
so is Cynthia Nixon saying she's bi but decided to be gay for scheduling purposes?
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 25 January 2012 22:39 (twelve years ago) link
can't be bothered anymore. also t3d seems to have disappeared?
― donna rouge, Wednesday, 25 January 2012 22:51 (twelve years ago) link
my life is really completely uninteresting right now (unless you think obscure mizoguchi films are exciting)
― tanuki, Thursday, 26 January 2012 02:44 (twelve years ago) link
fwiw my life is not at all like an obscure mizoguchi film
― tanuki, Thursday, 26 January 2012 02:45 (twelve years ago) link
basically living on nothing until i can get a job. right now my hopes are all up in a small town county archives in wyoming. HIRE ME GODAMMIT. :/
fuck salt lake city
― try again, fascist (Matt P), Thursday, 26 January 2012 02:53 (twelve years ago) link
my job is ending this week and there might not be anything until march :(
― tanuki, Thursday, 26 January 2012 02:56 (twelve years ago) link
everyone i like hates it here
― try again, fascist (Matt P), Thursday, 26 January 2012 02:56 (twelve years ago) link
jobs
weird word
― try again, fascist (Matt P), Thursday, 26 January 2012 02:58 (twelve years ago) link
sorry to hear that t, guess we arent the only ones. easy to forget.
― try again, fascist (Matt P), Thursday, 26 January 2012 03:01 (twelve years ago) link
my bf got "demoted" at his bakery job (from shift mgr) AND had his hours cut on the same day (probably a sign the place isn't doing so hot)
― tanuki, Thursday, 26 January 2012 03:03 (twelve years ago) link