Now that we found love what are we gonna do? The Winter 2011-12 Gay Thread

"Interested in: myself"

Which is, on FB, redundant.

to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance, etc.

And just as tempestuous.

yeah, i dunno, it bugs me that i'm not being assertive at all when ppl assume i'm straight tho. i'm not saying i have to shout it from the rafters. i guess a couple things that have happened in the past week have brought it into relief. there's a straight couple i've formed a very intense friendship with in the past few months and i've found myself on the verge of coming out to them at a few appropriate moments, but always stopped myself. i was just talking to the gf last week about my lack of love and she was all "don't worry, just let it happen and you'll find the right girl", and i felt stupid and cowardly for not coming out to her at that moment. and then the other thing, a (less close, admittedly) friend teasingly suggested i might be gay in a way that seemed to imply his true assumption is that i'm straight. which was kind of revealing like do i strike ppl as kinda faggy but not like actually gay per se?

and yeah, bi concerns, although i'm p confused about that tbh. like i know i'm very much attracted to women, and i've dated and fooled around with women in the past, but something always feels kind of awkward and not quite correct about it that it doesn't when i'm with a guy. so, i'm not sure how interested i am in women for practical purposes at this point. and i'm always worried that my gay side will drive them away. i've kind of come to the conclusion that i could be with a bi woman but not a straight woman. i'm totally stuck on whether to tell ppl i'm gay or bi. maybe i should just tell ppl i'm a kinsey 4. the last guy i dated, after i said something about my gayness, was like "no, you are so totally bi!" i often wish i was completely 100% gay, that would be so much simpler!

i really should use proper capitalization when writing big blocks of text

I really enjoy the rare times ppl flat-out ask "Are you gay?" bcz I love coming back w/ "so far"

― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, January 17, 2012 11:18 AM Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

Oh god, the last time someone did this, it was in front of my dad, which, even though i'm out to him, was awkward as fuck.

yeah, that would not make it fun.

man, sorry rev, that has to be maddening

yeah, what a pain in the arse

Despite having enjoyed my handful of experiences with women, I tend to round up to gay. It's just more convenient and more accurately describes what I'm into/looking/for/want or just sort of go for the all-purpose queer.

In other news, I just remembered this afternoon that idly staring at cute guys on the bus is one of life's great joys.

And I finally got a haircut and feel vibrant and awake and human again. Shaggy mane was weighing me down.

Will post a picture soonish.

cannot WAIT to get a haircut

it changes my whole outlook

i need to fix my haircut. i don't like it.

Growing this beard is my version of getting a haircut.

i think the beard looks v nice on you in that pic, eric

yes it's v impressive!

interested in: Carol Channing

― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, January 17, 2012 1:27 PM (9 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

actual lol

Rev, it's tough to tell established friends if you weren't actually in the closet and hiding it from them. If you're just coming out of the closet, it's a lot easier to answer the inevitable "Why didn't you tell me before?!" than if you are correcting their assumptions. Anyway, I'm wishing you the best.

Alfred OTM re "look at that cute guy" (or mentions of a/n ex/boyfriend).

Haircuts OTM. Beards too, Eric's in particular!

i'm contemplating adding a pride pin to my bag. seems kinda tacky tho.

Rainbows are so gaudy. Bear pride colors are much nicer.

Bear pride colors are basically a more saturated version of any given pit stop at Pinterest.

hi

there are bear pride colors?

surm, every time I see you online I hear "Ra ra ro-ma-ma" in my head.

xp

Yes - earth tones!

brown (fur) and yellow (honey)

that's their story and they're sticking to it

Ha, I didn't know that's what the colors represented. I feel like I've seen bear-pride flags with gray and black on them, too -- I guess those are just different shades of fur.

also just had to google Pinterest, since thus far I've assumed it was an affinity for The Homecoming

I'm making a sport of joshing jaymc today.

Oh, LOL, I thought it was a resort in Northern Minnesota!

xp re Pinterest

Bears pride colors are basically a more saturated version of any given pit stop at Pinterest.

― dead-trius (Eric H.), Wednesday, January 18, 2012 6:34 AM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

Bears pride colors are basically a more saturated version of any given pit stop at Pinterest

pit pride

hey guys, i have jockstraps on my necktie today

literally

never even seen those at the Nasty Pig boutique!

oh THAT's where they went, mind mailing them back to me, thxxx

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ly0ejhpfCu1qjnwvko1_500.jpg

he, he

oh tomw is the gay metal night in Greenpoint.

WANT xp

The sweater too!

the same Greenpoint bar has a Friday night thing called Kielbasa, which I think tabes needs to attend sometime like a good Pole.

yeah, really don't need gay threads no mo', unless someone needs to call me a bitch on Thursday.

so is Cynthia Nixon saying she's bi but decided to be gay for scheduling purposes?

can't be bothered anymore. also t3d seems to have disappeared?

my life is really completely uninteresting right now (unless you think obscure mizoguchi films are exciting)

fwiw my life is not at all like an obscure mizoguchi film

basically living on nothing until i can get a job. right now my hopes are all up in a small town county archives in wyoming. HIRE ME GODAMMIT. :/

fuck salt lake city

my job is ending this week and there might not be anything until march :(

everyone i like hates it here

jobs

weird word