Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

ZS, I've seen people write things like they just got out of a serious relationship and aren't ready to get into another one. I respect that. Don't feel like an a-hole.

On a lighter note, my date last night was asking me about the Vietnam war. I was like, how old do you think I am?

RE: what i actually want

i don't know what i want right now, it's true. i know i don't want anything super-serious right now. but it's not like i'm just trying to fool around, either.

when i met E- (ex-fiancee), i was actually in a similar position, i had been coasting on happily for several months just meeting girls occasionally. i wasn't looking for anything long-term, and then all of a sudden i met E- and it was BOOM GOES THE DYNAMITE. i didn't even have a choice - i HAD to be with her all of the time. i mean, i wanted to, but the desire was so strong on both of our parts that there was no need to make a decision, we were just together, immediately. all of the time. and loving it. it lasted like that for years. people used to say to us all the time that we disgusted them with our happiness. one day about 2 years in, some homeless guy yelled out "HEY! RIGHT THERE! THE PERFECT COUPLE!", and we just laughed because he was absolutely right. it was visually obvious. sigh.

earlier tonight, when i was ending the thing with the okc girl, we actually talked a little about whether it's possible to ever get those butterflies again. does that only happen with your first big, serious relationship, and then all the subsequent relationships are a little more guarded in the opening stages? because what freaked me out about okc girl is that things were going pretty well and could have easily gotten serious, but i never had that GAAAAH feeling, and i wanted that. i never want to get really serious ever again unless it's accompanied by the GAAAAH. is that just hopelessly misguided? and then i end up breaking it off with girls who are actually really nice and considerate and good people?

No, you should totally have that feeling. If you don't have that feeling, there's not much point.

That's not to say you can't also have fun in the meantime with people you don't have that feeling about.

like they just want someone to dote on but ... when the person they idealize starts to show human emotions they are voted off the pedestal.

I feel like you guys, together, just totally got this. It's a backhanded favor they're doing you by pulling away, because they kind of weren't seeing you as a person in the first place?

No, you should totally have that feeling. If you don't have that feeling, there's not much point.

that's my gut feeling too, but the girl i had been seeing was of the opinion that it's impossible to get again because you'll always be afraid of being hurt after your first epic love. she seemed like she still wasn't totally over some shit that went down about a year ago.

Feelings are going to differ, in scope and magnitude, but I think at the very least there has to be some sort of spark and excitement.

I've definitely had some good, long term relationships where there wasnt over the top crazy first-love butterflies.

i haven't had a butterfly in my stomach for a very long time. just moths in there.

maybe a ferret once

i no longer trust that GAHHH feeling when it happens

Ha, yeah that too. I think the last couple times I let my feelings run away with me, I made a major arse of myself and ended up hurt and/or disappointed. My sense goes out the window in such states. Its a shame, cos I do enjoy a bit of ecstatic joy now and then.

I was just thinking about how I miss the effing butterflies.

Waiting for my date. I had a bit too much to drink at happy hour so am feeling a bit punchy.

Also vp lol re Vietnam.

i totally turned the the date's power structure on its head

o shit i guess i have not been paying appropriate attention to the power structures of my dates?

man . . . pie.

Also re yr question curmudgeon, we had already decided to meet in bk which I am not familiar w at all, while he lives in bk, and he was all like where shd we meet, I say you tell me, and he's all like Ummmm. Actually his text literally said "hmn". . Finally I was like OK! Let's meet at the subway!

I will readily cop to being too picky if that's not a big deal. But we were messaging forever until I was finally like so do u wat to meet or not? And then I planned the date. So I think at least he should take the lead on the next one. Aka tonites date.

Have y'all heard of nerd n1te?

every n1te on ilx is nerd n1te

O man.

ime GAAAAH can be manifest in different ways at different points in one's life

GAAAAH as first love can be a different GAAAAH at later loves. Later GAAAAH, thoug different, is no less GAAAAH.

every n1te on ilx is nerd n1te

― mookieproof, Friday, November 18, 2011 8:24 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark

OTM

GAAAAH as first love can be a different GAAAAH at later loves. Later GAAAAH, thoug different, is no less GAAAAH.

quicie, i want to hear more about this when you have time. also, i fully expect "GAAAAH" to be in the OED next year

quincie so totally OTM - was reading this thread earlier and trying to figure how to say just that

i want to believe.

but tell me more about how the GAAAAH is different. because i've experienced it a few times - the first two were sadly, pathetically unrequited. but the third actually happened, was reciprocated and was amazing. and i understand that feeling can't be maintained ad infinitum. i'm just looking for that feeling again, even if it's brief, at the beginning, because it's pretty much the best feeling in the world.

no, the UNIVERSE

It does change over time and experiences yeah. Perhaps because each new relationship adds to it all yr knowledge of previous successes and mistakes. There's a maturing and a deepening to connections as you progress in years, I've found. You really know what you want the further along you get.

So it might not be the untrammelled GAHHHHH of the first time but thats not always a bad thing! It can be... richer? Better prepared, too.

i worry that, for various reasons, i have no GAAAAH in me anymore. not just for relationships, but in general.

but yeah z s otm about the UNIVERSE

GAAAAAAHHH just loses letters and capitalization over the years and eventually you are ok with gaah or even guhhh

a little gehhh is enough to get out of bed in the mornings

Quincie otm.

My relationships and their Gaaaah distinctions, by ljubljana (sorry for tl/dr)

1: Saw him for the first time, spoke his language very poorly, heard about 3 sentences he said and fell madly in love GAAAAHHHH. I still understand now exactly why this was and why it was justified.

[2: no Gaaah. Rebound. Desperate. Error]

[3: no Gaaah. Flattered, went along with it. Error]

4: Initially as per 1, and I was so overwhelmed I became extremely boring, and got dumped. Excruciatingly painful at the time, yet now I really don't know why I was so hung up on him (in contrast with 1). Lesson: post-breakup GAAAHHH can reverberate forever or it can taper off after a bit and seem silly.

5: Found the person slightly annoying, but it got physical after a few dates, then suddenly appreciated all the lovely nice things about him and a slow kind of gaaaHHHHHWWWWWWW WHAT A NICE PERSON crept up. Lasted about 2 months until he shouted at me during an argument. Instant gaaaHHHH cessation even though we dragged it out another year.

6: Found the person slightly baffling if interesting, then baboom style GAAHHHH hit the day after after 3rd date while making roasted vegetables alone in my apartment. Remember the moment well, I burst into tears as I recall.

7. 1st date: oh, what an interesting person. 2nd date: oh dear, he can get a bit much, can't he. 3rd date: yet he is intriguing and I really must see him more often. From there on in I would describe it more as an amazed, happy WOW WOW with GAAAAHHH moments hitting me from time to time while, say, looking at him while watching TV.

My problem is not GAAAHH variation, it's GAAAHH reciprocation.

nah, it's cool. if it's in you, at least, there's hope

not entirely sure i approve of this shorthand, tho

ljubljana that was very beautiful prose. a+++

Heh, if only the relationships had *warranted* the crying over the vegetables etc....

Anyway, no time to wallow as I have just been contacted on JDate by an Abraham Lincoln obsessive.

my brain doesn't want me to be happy. formerly i was attracted to this person; tonight, most def not.

oh and: the GAAAAHHHs in my life have mostly been people that I was able to get to know on a gradual basis--all the more reason to find this OKC thing to be completely artificial and without hope. however, it is for this reason (the gradual gaahh) that i'm persisting with the other person. ughh.

oh also, what exactly is an abraham lincoln obsessive? sounds like more than a mere history buff...

He wears beards and stovepipe hats in bed?

Anyway, no time to wallow as I have just been contacted on JDate by an Abraham Lincoln obsessive.

― ljubljana, Friday, November 18, 2011 11:24 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

I'm going to start using this as an all-purpose expression.

The most important influence in his life has always been Abraham Lincoln, and he thinks that while he will never accomplish all that he did – [here he notes that this was saving the nation and abolishing slavery] - he has always tried to govern his own life [here he gives details of in what ways] through a prism of thinking "what would Lincoln have done" (WWLD)

I did not add the WWLD myself.

got chatting with a 97% match who it turns out lives just down the road from me

loool lincoln dude

if this romance proceeds we will require a transcript of his GAAAHHtysberg address for our archives.

ahahahaha

i always know I got the GAHHHHHH when I get turned on when they hold my hand

its only happened a couple of times

lol "the GAHHHHH"
i have my 2nd ever okcupid date tonight - it involves drinking so i think everything will be ok

get him sloppy drunk, roll him for pocket change, and shove him on a bus

IMing someone right now, though I haven't ruled out the possibility that she may be one of those charismatic chat bots.

lol someone link to CaptainLorax's posts about finding an attractive woman who just moved to his town on OKC

THE LIST OF ADAM YOUNG PRIMARY PROJECTS

Owl City Ocean Eyes Album
1. Cave In 4:07
2. The Bird and the Worm 3:27
3. Hello Seattle 2:58
4. Umbrella Beach 3:51
5. The Saltwater Room 4:55
6. Dental Care 3:18
7. Meteor Shower 2:20
8. On the Wing 5:03
9. Fireflies 3:48
10. The Tip of the Iceberg 3:33
11. Vanilla Twilight 3:51
12. Tidal Wave 3:13

Owl city Ocean Eyes Deluxe Edition
1. Hot Air Balloon 3:33
2. Butterfly Wings 2:46
3. Rugs from Me to You 1:30
4. Sunburn 3:46
5. Hello Seattle (Remix) 2:58
6. If My Heart Was a House 4:07
7. Strawberry Avalanche 3:16
8. Fireflies (Adam Young Remix) 3:48

OWL CITY MAYBE I AM DREAMING
1. On The Wing 5:03
2. Rainbow Veins 4:44
3. Super Honeymoon 3:29
4. The Saltwater Room 4:55
5. Early Birdie 4:26
6. Air Traffic 2:58
7. The Technicolor Phase 4:27
8. Sky Diver 2:51
9. Dear Vienna 4:15
10. I'll Meet You There 4:16
11. This Is The Future 2:53
12. West Coast Friendship 3:51

OWL CITY ALL THINGS BRIGHT AND BEAUTIFUL:
1. The Real World 3:42
2. Deer In The Headlights 3:01
3. Angels 3:38
4. Dreams Don't Turn To Dust 3:53
5. Honey And The Bee 3:45
6. Kamikaze 3:32
7. January 28, 1986/ Galaxy Live 4:42
8. Galaxies 4:00
9. Hospital Flowers 3:42
10. Alligator Sky 3:17
11. The Yacht Club 4:33
12. Plant Life 4:17
13. Alligator Sky with rap feat shawn chrystopher 3:05
14. How I Became The Sea 4:24
15. Lonely Lullaby 4:19
16. Shy Violet 3:53
17. To The Sky 3:40
18. Enchanted 5:04
19. In Christ Alone 3:28
20. Peppermint Winter 3:57
21. The Christmas Song 3:54

Of June
1. Swimming In Miami 6:21
2. Captains And Cruise Ships 3:28
3. Designer Skyline 3:34
4. Panda Bear 3:08
5. The Airway 3:23
6. Fuzzy Blue Lights 4:41
7. Hello Seattle (2007 version) 2:58
Owl City Episodes Ends....................

SKY SAILING Album
An Airplane Carried Me To Bed
1. Captains of The Sky 2:43
2. Brielle 4:06
3. Steady as She Goes 2:36
4. Explorers 4:10
5. A Little Opera Goes a Long Way 3:48
6. Tennis Elbow 3:45
7. Blue and Red 3:39
8. Alaska 2:36
9. I Live Alone 4:04
10. Take Me Somewhere Nice 2:47
11. Sailboats 4:19
12. Flowers of the field 4:06

PORT BLUE Album ALL EPS
The Airship, The Albatross EP, Artic, Unreleased, Bsides

Setting Sails 5.01
At Anchor 4.45
Deep Iceberg 8:01
The Grand Staircase 4:58
Pond Skater 4:15
Into The Sea 2:23
Arrival At Sydney Harbour 5:07
The Skybridge 6:04
Base Jumping 5:28
City Of Safe Harbours 2:07
Queen Annes Sail Boat 5:54
Silver Blueberry/ Reverse 1:20
An Enchated Eveining 1:50
Up Ship / Reverse 4:55
I Am The Aeronaut 4:49
Seagulls 5:03
Elephant Island 3:08
Over The Atlantic City 4:20
The Cargo Bay 3:20
In The Yatch 2:57
Of The Airship Academy 3:34
In The Dolphin Tank 2:13
Butterflies 1:28
The Snow Ballet 1:12
The Axial Catwalk 4:25
Under The Glass Observation Dome 2:55
Sea Horse 4:51
Over Lionsgate City 4:51
The Gentle Decent 1:46
june bug 3:54
Sunset Cruiser 7:31
Monorail 2:03
Chocolate Turtle 3:01
Aurora Borealis 4:54
Snow Fox On Glacier Coast 2:09
Juneau 7:40
Moonscape 5:00
Into The Gymnasium 1:33
Bay City 3:01
Of Japan 1:02
In The Control Car 1:37
Wintermint 4:49
Ice Hand 1:18
Frigid Airport Lounge 3:20
The Albatross EP 1:02
Glider 6:00
Shell And Wing 2:17

WINDSOR AIRLIFT Albums (6 Episodes)

The Basement EP
1. Intro 1:42
2. See You Soon 3:27
3. Joyride 2:16
4. My Regards 3:18
5. Disaster 3:19
6. My Best Friend 2:28
7. Boat 2:17
8. Jason 4:13
9. First Semester’s Over 0:55

Moonfish Parachutist
1. Moonfish Parachutist 2:33
2. What, Pantamimist? 1:54
3. No One Tells Me Anything 4:30
4. My French Voice Teacher, Luvelle 2:50
5. To Paris! A Lovely Excursion 1:46
6. Grandeur - Interstate Parkway 6:10
7. Ruby Fjord, Runway Beck 2:33
8. Operatic, Glacial Kirovgrad 2:53
9. White Tarn Sonata in Blue 1:57
10. Love 3:33
11. Heroism: Hazel & Dandelion 2:07
12. This is Television 3:40
13. A Trio of Talking Books 2:26
14. Oceanic? Staten Island, Oh Darling! 4:13
15. I Haven’t Any Money 1:55
16. You here! Hull, King of Swans! 1:47

Qiu!
1. Give Me Your Motorcycle 3:26
2. The Number Of Insects Is Tremendous 3:34
3. She And I Swam Down The Staircase 25:02
4. The Trouble With Bugs 4:25
5. Wake Up Boss, You’re Bald 3:23
6. We Shan’t Be Snorkelling, We Shan’t We Shan’t 5:05
7. A Wolf Am I, A Wolf On A Mischief Bent 4:17

Selections For A Fallen Soldier, Vol. 2 com
1. Cities, Stars, And Planes 7:35
2. Waves Spent on Breathing 4:17
3. A Fatal Storyline 9:42
4. Buzz The Spaceship! 8:50
5. This Face Alone Unveils Shadow 8:09

We Rule! com
1. The Babemeister 3:50
2. Landscapes 4:43
3. Ocean City Park 4:01
4. One & This Face Alone Unveils Shadows 5:22
5. The Theme For Moonglow 4:15

The Forest Sings to Distant Shores com
1. Nice Job With The Tents, Sturgis 11.48
2. One 6:51
3. I Hate Texas Taxes 13:01
Windsor Episodes Ends.....................

The Perfect Theory
1. Without You Baby 4:59
2. Prom Night 4:20
3. Do You Want to Date Me 2:58
4. Waldorf + CSU = Love 4:14
5. Would you be my Valentine (LQ) 3:53
6. Waldorf Sweetheart 3:50
7. Fast Food Relationships 3:36

Swimming with Dolphins Albums
Ambient Blue
1. Silhouettes 6:17
2. Pajama Party 3:51
3. Sunset, 1989 3:25
4. Everything’s a Miracle 6:16
5. Up In The Stars 4:56

Water Colors
1. Holiday 3:59
2. Easy 3:37
3. Sleep To Dream 3:28
4. Diplomat 3:28
5. Watercolors 3:16
6. Jacques Cousteau 3:37
7 I Was a Lover 3:34
8. Captured 4:27
9. Hapiness 4:47
10 Good Times 3:53

Addition Songs
1. Fast Cars 4:39
2. Jacques Cousteau 3:54

OTHER SONGS / REMIX / SOLOS
Owl City An Enchantedf Future 4:24
Lights Saviour Remix By Adam Young 3:15
Owl City helicopter moon 1:01
Owl City halcyon 1:54
Owl City happy valentines day 5:02
Owl City My Hope is Found/ In Christ Alone 3:23
Something Corporate I Woke Up in a Car adam young remix 4:11
Armin Van Buuren Feat. Adam Young - Youtopia 4:10
Think Again Radio Mix Kate Havnevik --
Terminals Relient K 3:08
Satisfy Radio Mix Vedera 3:19

Breanne Duren- Daydreams (Adam Young Remix) Lyrics HD

so this is probably a good week for new profiles

good call