― daria g (daria g), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:28 (twenty years ago) link
― daria g (daria g), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:29 (twenty years ago) link
― amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:30 (twenty years ago) link
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― daria g (daria g), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:31 (twenty years ago) link
passive-aggressiveness: the new black
― animal wrangler (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:32 (twenty years ago) link
It's not passive-aggressive to refrain from bashing others over the head with pure aggressiveness..
― daria g (daria g), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:35 (twenty years ago) link
― animal wrangler (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:36 (twenty years ago) link
― amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:36 (twenty years ago) link
― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:36 (twenty years ago) link
― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:38 (twenty years ago) link
I think this is very interesting. It is more like it takes patience to deal with rudeness or cluelessness, the most commonly-bugging variety of which I have recently encountered which is dealing with people who are complaining to you basically that they are having to work too hard to get the maximum benefit out of their acquaintance with you, basically, not getting or understanding that THEY may be seeking YOU more than YOU are seeking THEM. It is fine to have this situation but don't complain about it to the person you are pursuing, please!
For example, I met a random fellow at a random function and I gave him my card at his request. He emailed me at work at the business email address on my card and in the BODY OF THE EMAIL asked me what my business telephone was. This caused me to think, is this person lame or just plain stupid? because my work telephone number is on the same card where he got my email. This was a big turn-off.
Later, after I returned one of his calls, he left a return message in part complaining that it was really inconvenient of me not leaving my callback number and that he had to go "shuffling through" lots of people's cards to find it. DUH! I am happy to return his call and to leave my number when asked to do so but it just indicates to me that someone is likely to be careless or lazy in a friendship, should one ever develop.
>:(
END OF RANT
― felicity (felicity), Thursday, 25 September 2003 18:55 (twenty years ago) link
you should never be polite in the first place bcz that's when ppl take advantage of you.― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Sunday, 24 August 2003 19:23 (fifteen years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
my current job is where this penny has finally started to drop for me
(ito irl behaviour obv)
― ~mine own~ bitcoin (darraghmac), Thursday, 14 March 2019 23:39 (five years ago) link
As a general rule of conduct there's already more than enough friction and irritation involved in just living among other humans that reducing it a bit through good manners helps to keep us from one another's throats. Over time you learn which people do not reciprocate your being politeness, but rather use it as a means to trample on you. Them you can unload on.
― A is for (Aimless), Friday, 15 March 2019 01:13 (five years ago) link