― kate, Monday, 13 January 2003 23:53 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Chris P (Chris P), Monday, 13 January 2003 23:57 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 00:30 (twenty-one years ago) link
― kate, Tuesday, 14 January 2003 00:34 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Tom Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 00:53 (twenty-one years ago) link
― kate, Tuesday, 14 January 2003 00:57 (twenty-one years ago) link
― donut bitch (donut), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:04 (twenty-one years ago) link
Usually it is not relevant though. I don't have intimate or personal conversations with people I'm not already friends with. Like, I only tell people I work/study with if they are someone I've become good enough friends with to discuss love, sex & relationships.
Even then I don't just say "by the way I'm a lesbian" because I don't like the whole *assumed hetero* thing so I just talk as if being lesbian is not unusual and they tend to pick it up & sometimes they still need to ask to confirm.
Anyway, I'm single at the moment so it doesn't come up a lot with people I don't know fairly well but I would never be backward about having a female partner.
I prefer the word partner to boyfriend or girlfriend - regardless of whether the relationship is gay or straight. Part of the reason for this is because I like the way the word partner includes both options and it's ambiguity makes people stop and consider the possibilites and I think it's good for people to think.
Girlfriend is so commonly used by women to refer to close female friends that the status of the relationship is not made clear with this word.
― toraneko (toraneko), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:06 (twenty-one years ago) link
― kate, Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:10 (twenty-one years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:17 (twenty-one years ago) link
I will always take gender ambiguity as a compliment. Er, except in the sack. It should be quite clear then, ahem.
― Chris P (Chris P), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:17 (twenty-one years ago) link
I am so boring.
― Chris P (Chris P), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:22 (twenty-one years ago) link
If I remember the test correctly, it doesn't actually measure how "gay" you are, but how your stereotypical gender traits correlate with your physical sex. I am not a very "feminine" person != I am gay, which is the mistake that they make.
― kate, Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:26 (twenty-one years ago) link
Partner is good because it also covers people who are de facto but don't like to call their partner their spouse or husband or wife and people who are married and don't like husband and wife.
― toraneko (toraneko), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:27 (twenty-one years ago) link
http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,4-2003020332,00.html
― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 01:29 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Maria (Maria), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 02:38 (twenty-one years ago) link
― di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 02:42 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Tom Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 02:45 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Sean (Sean), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 02:51 (twenty-one years ago) link
― toraneko (toraneko), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 02:58 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Tom Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 03:03 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 03:05 (twenty-one years ago) link
'That's my own personal business.'
'Got to stay in business!'
'I'm going out of business.'
'I got down to business.'
― Tom Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 03:06 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Kim (Kim), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 03:11 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Tom Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 03:13 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Kim (Kim), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 03:15 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Douglas (Douglas), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 03:26 (twenty-one years ago) link
I had a friend who had to come out to his parents as straight... twice. (And of course at the time -- when we were teenagers -- I had a massive crush on him. See kids, you should listen to your parents!)
― Chris P (Chris P), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 07:56 (twenty-one years ago) link
― dave q, Tuesday, 14 January 2003 10:58 (twenty-one years ago) link
― toraneko (toraneko), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 12:26 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 12:29 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 12:32 (twenty-one years ago) link
Of course, I don't actually REMEMBER the Kinsey scale...
Anyway, I'm a tiresome, sarcastic straight boy.
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 13:38 (twenty-one years ago) link
That's the fun of the game, and why that Kinsey perv came up with it.
― Chris P (Chris P), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 16:55 (twenty-one years ago) link
Anyway, the phrase "big flaming sack of gay" is being incorporated into my personal lexicon as I type.
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 14 January 2003 18:31 (twenty-one years ago) link
I can't stand the closet or even being around people who are in one. I grew up around a lot of conservative Catholic people. I am not gay but my parents are really gay friendly and encouraged people to be who they are, we can't stand being around these fearful and repressed religious people. We left our church because of it when I was a kid. I hate being nice just so Aunt Ruthie doesn't get offended. It's so bad that my family avoids religion altogether. I have to live and work in a very liberal community, or I am unhappy. There is no point in denying who you are, if you stuff it down, it comes back up in other ways!
― Department of Energy Department (u s steel), Sunday, 19 July 2009 16:50 (fourteen years ago) link
1955 film of a college student's "I want to change my homosexuality" therapy session
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a8NDuSYQfOA
― we can be heroes just for about 3.6 seconds (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 27 April 2016 18:16 (eight years ago) link
omg the advice to read Plato! amazing!
― the tune was space, Wednesday, 27 April 2016 18:57 (eight years ago) link
yes, that got quite a few chuckles at the Lincoln Center screening last night!
that kid would be about 78 to 81yo now. I wonder what happened.
― we can be heroes just for about 3.6 seconds (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 27 April 2016 19:08 (eight years ago) link
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Of course, it's not one story.
― So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 12 October 2021 01:21 (two years ago) link
I don't have a reference point for the story, but your writing, as always, is wonderful.
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