generation limbo: 20-somethings today, debt, unemployment, the questionable value of a college education

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haha - its a card game

the green (Lamp), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:46 (nine years ago) link

lol

here are the basic rules, there are several variants: http://assholerules.com/

We always played with a President, Vice-President, Vice-Asshole and Asshole; President and Asshole swapped 2 cards, Vice-President and Vice-Asshole swapped one. Also, if you lost the Presidency you were automatically the Asshole in the next round. You could also order anyone below you in the hierarchy to drink at any time. We also didn't have special rules for the 3 or 4 cards; whoever had the 3 of clubs always started play.

A popular rule in our games was the Waterfall, where everyone would start chugging and you could only stop when the person directly above you in the hierarchy stopped; usually that meant someone in the middle would be torturing everyone below them.

dense macabre (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:47 (nine years ago) link

srsly tho, discovering Asshole after playing Bullshit for years ruined several of my friends.

dense macabre (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:47 (nine years ago) link

asshole is one of my fav card games ever tho i prob haven't played it in over a decade (fuck) and have never played it as a drinking game

J0rdan S., Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:48 (nine years ago) link

yeah bullshit is pretty lame in comparison

J0rdan S., Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:48 (nine years ago) link

at dan's college the president actually gets to be president when the game's over

iatee, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:49 (nine years ago) link

I played an unbelievable amount of asshole in high school

max, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:50 (nine years ago) link

yeah we played the hell out of it in high school but in college ppl only wanted to play kings cup

the green (Lamp), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:52 (nine years ago) link

lol iatee

we also turned Cosmic Wimpout into a drinking game

no one wanted in on my attempts to make Lunch Money into a drinking game tho

dense macabre (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:52 (nine years ago) link

(97% graduation rate, remember)

dense macabre (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 20:53 (nine years ago) link

If you are going to spend 3 consecutive weeks playing Asshole every night until 4 AM

see I thought y'all were talking about the Gene Simmons album Asshole

fill up ass of emoticon fart (crüt), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:11 (nine years ago) link

actually for us it would have been Beck or Morrissey

they did not often let me control the music

dense macabre (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:17 (nine years ago) link

Asshole was known as Capitalism at my high school, didn't play a lot of card games in college.

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:22 (nine years ago) link

presumably because the internet had been invented by then

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:25 (nine years ago) link

wait what are we talking about?

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:25 (nine years ago) link

I too am in the belly of the beast but I wanna say that teaching at a public 4-year institution & seeing how the students perform / attend class gives special insight into why graduation rates are as low as they are at such institutions.

like, maybe college isn't worth it b/c it doesn't teach valuable skills---I disagree---but keep in mind how many people absolutely waste those years & think, maybe that's part of the problem too.

Euler, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:36 (nine years ago) link

weve argued abt this before i think and im p sympathetic in general i mean i get enough students coming to office hours not having attended lectures in two months wanting me to help them solve half a semesters worth of problem sets cuz now its midterms but at the same time ive attended a fair share of lectures simply regurgitating information from assigned texts or that was garbled and unclear and thought 'i have to work tonight and finish a lab and a newspaper article to write and i really couldve used an extra hour of sleep, thanks a fucking lot' so

the green (Lamp), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:43 (nine years ago) link

agreed that shitty teaching is a thing but it's not the only thing here. I mean the cynical take that "we fuck off 'cos they fuck off 'cos we fuck off..." is wrong...I think?

I read threads on ILX occasionally (less these days 'cos life is nuts!) in which there's the sentiment of "lol college, I really fucked off" & it seems like around here, there's nothing to be ashamed of in saying that, & I think that's indicative of the problem. I feel very out of touch on here sometimes.

I was reading something recently that suggested that the problem is that some people just don't have the skills to work super hard, & that it's bad that our culture expects everyone to be able to do that. & I think that's a terrible concession.

Euler, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:49 (nine years ago) link

sometimes there are actually no good reasons to wok hard

like if someone is graduating from your college and not planning on grad school the difference between them getting an A and a C is pretty minimal. i mean my gf graduated from an ivy league school w/ like a 4.3 and the only field where that really would 'matter' is finance. nobody else really gave a shit. so I mean it's completely rational for a lot of people to not work that hard.

iatee, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:54 (nine years ago) link

haha wok hard

iatee, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:54 (nine years ago) link

wok hard pay hard

the MMMM cult (La Lechera), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 21:56 (nine years ago) link

ive certainly noticed that the public university i work for does a much better job of treating students as adults and that, while support services are there, its up to students to seek help and make the initial effort, as opposed to having faculty/admin intervene and guide students the way they wld @ a top tier private school (ime). im sort of ambivalent abt this, there are obvious advantages to both but i think ambitious, dedicated students from public schools probably graduate stronger people w/ better overall knowledge and skills

my big problem is: there still seems to be a declining correlation btw the work that students do at a university and their job prospects after? i think im probably exaggerating this since most evidence says otherwise (haha) and that complicates things. the fundamental/systemic issues are still there no matter how diligent an undergrad you are i guess

ive had this argument w/friends irl too: when i was an undergrad (half a decade ago now!) i was p driven, i played sports and wrote for the newspaper and did charity work and worked at a job in my field and basically made sure i had the sort of resume that wld get me job afterwards, as much as i was able. and it worked, i had a job waiting for me @ graduation and when i left finance i got another well-paying job right away. and i think on an individual level these things matter. but if everyone does them then they sort of end up losing their value, like an A- at princeton or w/e. i also think its worth asking whether some amount of goofing around isnt useful/part of the point? idk...

the green (Lamp), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:02 (nine years ago) link

I wok hard every day

ASPIE Rocky (dayo), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:15 (nine years ago) link

another thing - outside of grad school what jobs ask for your transcript? almost none! even fairly official jobs usually believe you. as long as that's the case it really is more logical for someone at euler's school to just fuck around and then put a 3.9 on their resume.

iatee, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:18 (nine years ago) link

like if someone is graduating from your college and not planning on grad school the difference between them getting an A and a C is pretty minimal. i mean my gf graduated from an ivy league school w/ like a 4.3 and the only field where that really would 'matter' is finance. nobody else really gave a shit. so I mean it's completely rational for a lot of people to not work that hard.

― iatee, Wednesday, November 9, 2011 4:54 PM (20 minutes ago) Bookmark

one thing you hear a lot is that your gpa only matters insofar as helping you get that first sweet job out of college, then everything else thereafter is gonna be based on work experience. which kinda sucks.

also sucks that 'time gaps' in your resume are so frowned upon - so what if I decided to take a few years off to 'find myself' or w/e? well fuck you, some other hotshot asshole spent those three years busting his balls at mckinsey or got an MBA or something

ASPIE Rocky (dayo), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:18 (nine years ago) link

smoke weed everyday

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:20 (nine years ago) link

I'm not talking about a little bit of goofing, though; & anyway Lamp you clearly know what I'm talking about.

eh this is a topic I can get p right-wing tbh, at least wrt meritocracy. I'm inclined to think that "we're" going to get a lot out of students who are driven, & not much out of those who aren't. I favor a big safety net b/c I think it's bullshit for a culture as rich as ours for people to be hungry or lack shelter, & for us to have unequal educational opportunities at the elementary level; but for kids who fuck around...yeah, I oughta keep my trap shut here, b/c I'm pos it won't go over well.

or in other words: I taught Plato's Republic this term & I liked it

Euler, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:22 (nine years ago) link

euler what do you believe the point of life is

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:23 (nine years ago) link

obviously we should send all the poets out to the Great Wasteland beyond the republic's walls

ASPIE Rocky (dayo), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:24 (nine years ago) link

if someone "already" has the skills they'd need w/o college, then I dunno, lie about it, what's it matter to society? (besides Kantian objections against lying blah blah blah)

but o/w if someone can make it through a 4-year degree program with decent grades then they've shown they can handle some amount of grinding & that's a basic req & maybe the only basic req for the kinds of shitty office work that unfocused college grads end up (until now).

Euler, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:25 (nine years ago) link

the point of life is to know the form of the good, duh

Euler, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:25 (nine years ago) link

IMO Euler, a lot of what you are describing is related to the deliberate infantilization of western civilization and the blatant immaturity of ppl participating in post-secondary education. I know I was deeply unhappy during large parts of my academic career and that leaked hardcore into how much time I put into my classes. I would have benefited greatly from taking some time to live in "the real world" to acclimate myself to what my skills would be used for and to connect some type of tangible real-world goal to my academic studies, which were basically an extended prep course for grad school (of my college friends, I am literally THE ONLY ONE who didn't get a graduate degree).

Tie a system that better prepares students for what it actually means to be a college student to better, stronger support networks (and it really terrifies me to think that there are schools out there less supportive than Harvard when I was there, as the prevailing sense was that unless you were a professor's pet student or famous, you were thrown to the wolves) and I can't help but assume that graduation rates would increase sharply.

sex-poodle Al Gore (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:29 (nine years ago) link

failing that, turn drinking games into a major

sex-poodle Al Gore (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:30 (nine years ago) link

I majored in being the Asshole President

ASPIE Rocky (dayo), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:32 (nine years ago) link

a system that better prepares students for what it actually means to be a college student

This seems like a biggie to me xp

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:33 (nine years ago) link

it is very hard for me to think about education in america in any serious way, a lot of my friends are teachers now, and it is just still so hard to think about

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:33 (nine years ago) link

and I don't even like america, conceptually

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:34 (nine years ago) link

here is a random facebook status on my feed:

Taught my kids about how unions work today by having them all say "FUCK YOU" to me at once.

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:35 (nine years ago) link

xp how can you not like the concept of America? it's got the American revolution and presidents with sideburns and Intrepidity and Innovation and Railroads!

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:35 (nine years ago) link

another thing - outside of grad school what jobs ask for your transcript? almost none! even fairly official jobs usually believe you. as long as that's the case it really is more logical for someone at euler's school to just fuck around and then put a 3.9 on their resume.

― iatee, Wednesday, November 9, 2011 2:18 PM (2 minutes ago) [IP: 64.61.128.66: New York, United States]

not true. every public school teaching job asks for a transcript.

free banana man! free banana man! (remy bean), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:36 (nine years ago) link

a system that better prepares students for what it actually means to be a college student

This seems like a biggie to me xp

Yeah I mean, I basically went through most of high school doing my work either during class or on the bus ride to school the day it was due; what this translated to is a work ethic as an adult where I wait until just past the last possible moment to do a task, then cram mightily and kill myself to pull heroic measures to get it done. I never actually learned how to finish things early or plan out my workload!

sex-poodle Al Gore (DJP), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:36 (nine years ago) link

Me neither! I tried to make that a personal goal for myself in my last two years of college (which just ended heh, I act like it was forever ago) but I didn't make tons of progress on that front. (It is hard to learn how to do your best work when your halfhearted work gets good-to-excellent feedback. I finally hit a bit of a wall with that tactic during college but more importantly I realized that I did actually want to be proud of myself.)

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:39 (nine years ago) link

yeah, I oughta keep my trap shut here, b/c I'm pos it won't go over well.

naw you can call us lazy :D

theres this weird thing were like, it seems p unfair that a le rosey alum who barely slumped her way through an creative writing degree at hampshire can land a sweet job in wealth mgmt after she graduates and plenty of other more qualified applicants are serving coffee but the le rosey girl is probably a better fit and if i was running pcs id hire her too. 'merit' is tricky thing i guess?

the green (Lamp), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:39 (nine years ago) link

that's well-put & wise. My non-trad students are def better prepared for college work compared with similar trad students of similar abilities & talents (though less well-prepared than the best trad students, of whom we get very few anyway since they all go off to fancy private colleges like the one I went to).

but I dunno about connecting to tangible real-world goals of academic studies. I'm with that if it means: most majors should assume the bulk of their students aren't going to grad school & structure the curriculum accordingly. my department's in the process of working on that.

so I mean yeah: some of this is the fault of bad organization at the university level. & some of it's the fault of bad students. & those are intermixed! but "blatant immaturity" isn't the fault of university faculty.

also I wish we had a way of funding public education that didn't depend on graduating anyone b/c obv some people who go to college don't deserve a college degree but we also need them as "consumers" & this affects dean-level pressure toward grade inflation. it really sucks.

Euler, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:40 (nine years ago) link

er xp to DJP a while back

Euler, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:40 (nine years ago) link

Yeah I mean, I basically went through most of high school doing my work either during class or on the bus ride to school the day it was due; what this translated to is a work ethic as an adult where I wait until just past the last possible moment to do a task, then cram mightily and kill myself to pull heroic measures to get it done. I never actually learned how to finish things early or plan out my workload!

― sex-poodle Al Gore (DJP), Wednesday, November 9, 2011 5:36 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark

lol otm. people really should be forced to work at mcdonalds for a few years before going to college

ASPIE Rocky (dayo), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:40 (nine years ago) link

wait there are Hampshire alums working in finance? xp

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:41 (nine years ago) link

i dont think its controversial to wish that kids who didnt work hard worked harder? or cared more? i think a lot of people in this thread might suggest that those kids would be better off not going to college, at least not at that point in their lives, given that theyre a) not really learning anything and b) probably putting themselves into debt. (this is all in a perfect world, where a college degree signified something more specific than "employable")

like in my plan the lazy kids would be working on farms. would get the laze right out of em

max, Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:42 (nine years ago) link

tho come to think of it my friend's evil ex girlfriend spent four years at Hampshire designing her own actuarial science major and is now an actuary no foolin

whoop, up the butt it goes (silby), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:42 (nine years ago) link

'actually an actuary' is the name of her forthcoming autobiography

ASPIE Rocky (dayo), Wednesday, 9 November 2011 22:44 (nine years ago) link


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