Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

haha, i have no idea either. there's also this fundamental question of how SERIOUS to be with stuff. like, i just was looking at this girl's profile who is totally a babe and looks like she'd be a blast to hang with, but the style of my prof is so different from hers that i think i'd come across as a dad or something

ZS and i are a 94% match! ZS - i predict you will clean up on this site.

idgi either! Maybe the uh "market" is just saturated here with a ton of the same kind of "type"? I'm sure they all really really mean it but there are just so many.

You know what else there are so many of? Goddamn beards.

ZS's profile was good . . . I just thought it could be a a bit better, by showcasing some more specific things about him and showing, not telling.

Just because I don't personally like happy and upbeat doesn't mean that it's not a good profile.

Rayuela, welcome (again) to ilx. The best place to not get any work done ever.

ZS and I are 90%. Yes, kduos, ZS for not having any beards. Brooklyn is Beard County.

Someone wrote to me and asked if he could plagiarize one of the lines from my profile...but maybe he says that to all the girls.

It's funny, there was immense social pressure this month to grow a moustache. A few of my friends are doing Movember for charity, and they wanted me to join the "team". Unfortunately, even though I'm 28 and my dad and grandpa both have/had huge beards and moustaches, I am only capable of growing the teen-stache and didn't want to look like an asshole all month, especially when this is like the first month that i'm back into the dating scene.

Oh, books, movies, shows...no, they do not have to like the same things as I do, but I am hoping that they are going to show some sort of good (or at least) individual (or hopefully) considered taste in this section. NAGL: David Sedaris and/or Haruki Murakami. Definitely skip: AYN RAND. I would rather someone didn't read at all than list their favorite author as the same favorite author of everyone else.

i have never read a haruki murakami book specifically because it is every single internet person's favorite author, going back to nerve.com in 2001 and continuing through the present day. i feel kind of bad that i've avoided him for such a petty reason...

ayn rand is like the dealbreaker to end all dealbreakers.

I read 1 Murakami when some cheap floozy left it at my house. Still have it, just noticed that the other day and thought about putting it out on the street.

I've never looked at another dude's profile. Maybe I should to get an idea of how men present themselves?

Again, still spinning ideas. Haven't actually gone to the site in weeeeeks, outside of looking at some stuff on my phone to kill time when I get emails.

Going to try for new representative attitudes & pics asap

I like Murakami, wonder if I have that on my profile.

yeah. someone messaged me earlier today and actually seemed kind of cool and then down there in the books she dropped an Ayn Rand bomb. i politely replied so i don't get a "never ever replies to messages" rating.

speaking of, what's everyone's view on that? does it come off pathetic if you reply to everything? is it more mysterious and appealing if someone "selectively replies"?

OkC is like this whole other...world...dude

*bong rip*

Some people don't know any better about the Ayn Rand thing, I think? It'd be hard to meet up with someone knowing that some day we might have to have "the discussion."

I'm not sure what I am, but it's probably 'selectively replies.' I used to reply to everyone, even folks who were trying to get into a debate about something in my profile, and it just became not worth the effort. I feel like it puts some potentially interesting folks off from messaging me, if it seems like I'm not responsive, but oh well...

You know what else there are so many of? Goddamn beards.

Yes, kduos, ZS for not having any beards.

:(

You know what else there are so many of? Goddamn beards.

hush

pop quiz: when you send a message to someone, the average length is

- one sentence
- two sentences
- three to five sentences
- 2 paragraphs
- 3 or more full paragraphs

― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Friday, November 4, 2011 5:07 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

my general template is

-[srs question about something they say they care about]
-[silly question about something they mention]
-[silly question with enticing self-revealing detail]
-[concrete question about a place they mention (where's the best x you've found in this town?)]

^ before people call me creepy again yes i am overselling the mechaniziation

I keep getting shit from my friends that a couple pictures on notional social networking sites (can't even remember: foursquare, linkedin?) do not look at me because I have somewhat of a beard in the pic. It was from early this year and I normally have a stubble thing going on! You'd think that I looked completely different in them.

Not to give this thread a complex, but I feel like people who reply to all messages look way, way too nice, possibly verging on desperate. Maybe that's more of a thing for women, because so many of the messages we get are STUPID or even offensive, and the system doesn't count how many of those are in your total, which would seem to lower the average # of messages you might even WANT to reply to.

Personally I'd rather be "replies selectively" and I feel more probable toward people on the same lev.

I'm a fan of facial hair. My coworker let his facial hair grow out after a breakup and he looked great! though sad.

i pretty much don't like how i look clean-shaven

I feel really happy when I get a message too stupid to reply to, because then I have some faith that it is not just the males of the species who are capable of undignified twaddle

literally got a msg today that said "hi :)" and it was just like cmon yall

like that's actually kinda cute in its way but no-content msgs that leave the profile to do all the heavy lifting don't do a lot for me

I am "replies selectively." I think most women are that or "replies very selectively." When I see a woman who "replies often" I assume she is just a very methodical person who replies to everyone with a "thanks, but no thanks."

If men reply often, I think that's cool. If they don't reply often, I don't get excited and feel like it will be a challenge to get them to reply to me. One guy I met told me he liked to write to women who reply selectively because it seems like more of a challenge.

lol results:

rayuela 95%
hoos: 94%
bene_gesserit 93%
ljubljana 89%
Virginia Plain 88%
ZS 86%
Laurel 76%
homo II 72% (narrowly avoiding 'y'all got issues')
zora (no user found)

re: the question upthread about ppl having same taste in books/music/whatever

I guess it shouldn't matter, but most of my friends have different tastes from me re: books/music/tv, and I've started to want to have people to talk about books with--this desire has become superimposed onto OK cupid, though maybe I should reconsider.

does "hip whit" srsly strike ppl as self-congratulatory??

The less taste issues I have in common w someone, the less time I'd want to spend with them, because I would need to set aside time from my life to do things I possibly wouldn't enjoy, for their sake, and I don't have time to be into someone else's shit and get my shit done, too.

So it's not that I'm opposed to not having a lot of cultural consumption etc areas in common, it's just inconvenient...or maybe convenient, if we're both busy and see each oth less often.

lol oops i have murakami listed in my profile

oh noez

i have never read murakami, i didn't like sedaris based on the book + handful of pieces i've read

hee. my own profile is littered with pretentious authors.

(i like murakami, if not his fans)

haha yeah, i shouldn't talk (*cough*witoldgombrowicz*cough*)

most of the taste stuff is kind of silly (ayn rand aside). if someone *reads*, i don't really care too much if their fave authors are too popular or too abstruse. but i guess when you're wading through hundreds of ppl you know nothing about, you've got to draw some pretty arbitrary lines.

I am way behind all the book-reading folks. I should probably stay home and read books for weeks and weeks to catch up. Bye ilx, bye OKCupid, bye freelance music critic writing, bye exercise...

I mean I read some, but have missed out on a fair amount

does "hip whit" srsly strike ppl as self-congratulatory??

Haven't looked at the context on okcupid, but the impression you gave here was that it was more of a moniker you readily adopted and enjoyed as a term of praise than as a slight slam against you that you accepted as a nickname. The best nicknames in that vein are the ones that are slightly negative to begin with, or dished out sarcastically, and grudgingly adopted as acknowledgment that we all need to be reminded of our own hubris.

ZS thought I was referencing Tori Amos, when in fact I was referencing the Velvet Underground.(Oh, I just realized TA covered New Age, I have to change that part.)

Typical Friday Night: "Waiting for the phone to ring, lipstick on my neck and shoulder." I think I will change it to "Interpretative dancing to Kate Bush, with my imaginary cat."

Murakami's not bad in itself, but it doesn't distinguish you in any way from everyone else who likes Murakami.

very true re: murakami

"i like murakami because he writes about food."
"i like dostoevsky because he is super depressing and seems crazy."
etcetc.

mh can i read your prof, i forget your name on okc

How about I update it asap and then send it on? :)

This is kind of hilarious in that I have spent untold minutes talking to a friend and on ilx about the ins-and-outs of okc and how I should do something, and had offers to do profile workshopping. In reality, I've been talking to people who are not from the internet and haven't looked at it much lately.

I mean I read some, but have missed out on a fair amount

I said that sheepishly. Behind on movies too.

what are people's positions on being up front about your politics, or letting this come out in the course of getting to know someone?

Either is fine. I assume that anyone I have anything in common with is going to be a lefty, but I don't write anything about that. I don't like it when people say they don't like Republicans or Fox news and the like, because, seriously? Who does?

I'm kinda apolitical, so i'd never thought about it