Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

the fact that okc emails you when someone rates you highly means that i never do it anymore. it used to be kind of good as a shy person "i MIGHT like you, but only if you like me back, and i can be sure before i say anything" icebreaker.

i'll be in the east village tomorrow night (for THERAPY, how apt) so i could definitely meet up after!

pretty sure it does that only when you rate each other highly?

i get "so and so has chosen you" emails from people now who i haven't rated - they changed it recently!

Laurel, you have to look at your personality chart. I am more experienced in life than straight women my age. Thank you, okc.

They did change it: now anytime someone rates you 4 or 5 stars you get a message and anytime you rate anyone 4 or 5 stars they get a message, and if you both happen to mutually rate each other, you both get a message saying that you are totally into each other.

i get "so and so has chosen you" emails from people now who i haven't rated - they changed it recently!

― bene_gesserit, Tuesday, November 1, 2011 9:21 PM (16 minutes ago) Bookmark

yah i'm actually kinda annoyed lately at the "x is checking you out RIGHT NOW" emails

This one adorable guy I met who I had a total friendship vibe with told me that he turned off those notifications...because he doesn't need to get a message every time someone looks at him. He has admirable restraint though--he told me he signs into okc about once every ten days.

Some german guy "chose" (starred?) me the other day, but his profile says nothing much and that hes looking for "women 40-100" (and is 25)... I was trying to work out if its a spammer.

no, he just sounds like he's german

XD

Dudes, I was running a fever last night but still came to work today b/c my colleague is also out sick and I had shit to do. Might not be able to make it tonight. Trying! Maybe if I can find a place to nap between 5 and 7pm.

Aw, feel better. Don't worry, if you can't make it we'll just send not so thinly veiled misogynistic rants to your profile, so that you can be included. Should we say monas around 730?

have fun tonight!

Fed up with checking out some of my matches, liking what I'm seeing then discovering that they haven't been online since 2008.
Also, the same but finding out that they are married/seeing someone and are only interested in new friends. Go away, this is a dating site. Stop building up my hopes with your attractive photos and interesting profiles.

liking what I'm seeing then discovering that they haven't been online since 2008.

omg that is the WORST!! >:| The hottest, most intriguing ppl Ive found, this has always been the case. Not that they'dve replied to me anyway I suppose.

I did get one completely nice, normal message the other day... guy wasnt exactly my type but he wasnt appalling. BUT... then I read his profile and he went on at length about hating it when people dont like being messaged, throw hissies and then delete their profiles... OK DUDE NO SHUT UP. Dont need snotty boy attitude thx.

Oh and I also got starred by some young american guy whos profile starts "once I saw a prostitute... no no keep reading".

So don't leave us hanging, did you keep reading?!?

Boo. Date is 20 min late. I understand if u can't leave work on time but text me to tell me that when you realize you will be late, instead of exactly when we are supposed to meet.

Haha I did actually, and it did nothing for me (oh, Vienna)

i hope you told him that

"THIS PROFILE MEANS NOTHING TO ME"

Thats an idea, I should change my whole profile so its written as 80s new wave song lyrics.

profiles very much in character

heh

Did he turn up rayuela?

Yes. Worst date ever or worst date ever?

ouch

:( shd have come to fap.

maybe you could have been interviewed about your bad date because *someone* was gabbing at the bar

Please to come out with us next time, rayuela.

I have a date tomorrow night--I can already tell it's going to be horrible.

hi guys, sorry i had to bounce early - the train took forever and i had to go another night without heat anyways, so i just should have stayed and drank more. alcohol is nature's heat...or something.

I feel asleep right after getting home, did not wash face, did not collect two-hundred dollars. Some date I am!

oh and mary - my profile is golden_bough, stalk away!!

(hopefully i don't have anything embarrassing on there right now but don't judge me if i do!)

thinking about maybe joining this?

but i couldn't really tell from the discussion above, is it:

a) if i rate someone with 4-5 stars, they get a message saying "ZS is in love with you! here's a link to his profile so you can laugh at him!"
b) if i rate someone with 4-5 stars, they get a message saying "another okcupid user is in love with you! i bet you feel great now!"

i get the thing where if two people happen to rate each other highly, they both get a message. but option a) seems kinda ugh

it's option A now :/

Unfortunately, it's option a).

but....why would they do that? i've never used a dating website before, but if you want someone to know you think they're a babe and a half, don't you just...send a message yourself?

anyway, you guys have covered it. man, that sucks though. so i guess, just don't rate people is the solution?

Although it's phrased to get the starred person in a frenzy of like'edness, like PIKACHU, USER ZS CHOSE YOU! GO SEND HIM A MESSAGE RIGHT THIS SECOND. ALSO, PIKA PIKA!!

except you have to do that so that it can learn about the kinds of people you like!

fuck it, man, i'm starting up a fax dating service network. turn back the clock on this nonsense.

lol laurel

No seriously, the emails say "Someone chose you! He's totally into you! Go send him a message!"

if you want someone to know you think they're a babe and a half, don't you just...send a message yourself?

― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, November 3, 2011 3:05 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark

this is the correct strategy

i only rate 3s or skip unless what i can see in quickview has interested me enough to msg

hmm. well, i may still join, and only rate people highly if i would actually maybe want to meet. and then when rating someone 4-5 stars, quickly send a real message so it's not just the generic one?

man okcupid, way to make this way too hard for no reason

Yeah I mean if they are TOTALLY INTO YOU, they can send you a message their own damn self.

i am reading 'the art of seduction,' I hope it works better than stupid online dating which seems really hopeless and lame

sorry guys, im a bitter ball of hatred today

can't believe you're just now starting 'the art of seduction'

i know rite

shoulda read it years ago

Yeah I shoulda gone out with y'all last night instead.

I mean, is the first date really the time to badger someone into talking about something they've explicitly said they didn't want to talk about? And passive aggressively saying, "well I think it's alienating to have taboo topics. I'm not OK with that. Are you OK with that?" Am I OK with ALIENATING you on our first date! Jesus fucking christ. The date ended with him ranting at me about how he's decided I'm a horrible person. I didn't defend myself so as not to engage, but now I'm getting mad thinking that he might have mistook my silence as implicit agreement with his penetrating insight into who I am, when really I shouldn't give a shit as to whether he thinks this or not.

WHAT?// WHAT?!?o*# Kick this person right back under the rock he crawled out from.

this last part happened because we ended up having to walk to the train together (though thankfully one of us was going uptown and the other downtown). sigh, new york.