oh I would love to go to a session dedicated to OKC bitching as I think I'm starting to drive my friends nuts! But I provisionally have a date tomorrow. If it goes down in flames, you will find me wandering the east village, looking for yall.
― rayuela, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 20:52 (twelve years ago) link
Hahah wait WAHT? xp It does not say that.
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Tuesday, 1 November 2011 20:59 (twelve years ago) link
Aye well, we'll update this thread tomorrow with wherever we end up going? So you'll have a slightly better idea where to look.
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Tuesday, 1 November 2011 21:00 (twelve years ago) link
the fact that okc emails you when someone rates you highly means that i never do it anymore. it used to be kind of good as a shy person "i MIGHT like you, but only if you like me back, and i can be sure before i say anything" icebreaker.
i'll be in the east village tomorrow night (for THERAPY, how apt) so i could definitely meet up after!
― bene_gesserit, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 21:12 (twelve years ago) link
pretty sure it does that only when you rate each other highly?
― mh, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 21:15 (twelve years ago) link
i get "so and so has chosen you" emails from people now who i haven't rated - they changed it recently!
― bene_gesserit, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 21:21 (twelve years ago) link
Laurel, you have to look at your personality chart. I am more experienced in life than straight women my age. Thank you, okc.
They did change it: now anytime someone rates you 4 or 5 stars you get a message and anytime you rate anyone 4 or 5 stars they get a message, and if you both happen to mutually rate each other, you both get a message saying that you are totally into each other.
― Virginia Plain, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 21:35 (twelve years ago) link
― bene_gesserit, Tuesday, November 1, 2011 9:21 PM (16 minutes ago) Bookmark
yah i'm actually kinda annoyed lately at the "x is checking you out RIGHT NOW" emails
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 21:39 (twelve years ago) link
This one adorable guy I met who I had a total friendship vibe with told me that he turned off those notifications...because he doesn't need to get a message every time someone looks at him. He has admirable restraint though--he told me he signs into okc about once every ten days.
― Virginia Plain, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 21:43 (twelve years ago) link
Some german guy "chose" (starred?) me the other day, but his profile says nothing much and that hes looking for "women 40-100" (and is 25)... I was trying to work out if its a spammer.
― Trayce, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 22:29 (twelve years ago) link
no, he just sounds like he's german
― mh, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 22:38 (twelve years ago) link
XD
― Trayce, Tuesday, 1 November 2011 23:04 (twelve years ago) link
Dudes, I was running a fever last night but still came to work today b/c my colleague is also out sick and I had shit to do. Might not be able to make it tonight. Trying! Maybe if I can find a place to nap between 5 and 7pm.
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Wednesday, 2 November 2011 15:36 (twelve years ago) link
Aw, feel better. Don't worry, if you can't make it we'll just send not so thinly veiled misogynistic rants to your profile, so that you can be included. Should we say monas around 730?
― Virginia Plain, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 16:33 (twelve years ago) link
have fun tonight!
― rayuela, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 21:23 (twelve years ago) link
Fed up with checking out some of my matches, liking what I'm seeing then discovering that they haven't been online since 2008. Also, the same but finding out that they are married/seeing someone and are only interested in new friends. Go away, this is a dating site. Stop building up my hopes with your attractive photos and interesting profiles.
― DavidM, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 22:29 (twelve years ago) link
liking what I'm seeing then discovering that they haven't been online since 2008.
omg that is the WORST!! >:| The hottest, most intriguing ppl Ive found, this has always been the case. Not that they'dve replied to me anyway I suppose.
I did get one completely nice, normal message the other day... guy wasnt exactly my type but he wasnt appalling. BUT... then I read his profile and he went on at length about hating it when people dont like being messaged, throw hissies and then delete their profiles... OK DUDE NO SHUT UP. Dont need snotty boy attitude thx.
― Trayce, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 22:34 (twelve years ago) link
Oh and I also got starred by some young american guy whos profile starts "once I saw a prostitute... no no keep reading".
― Trayce, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 22:35 (twelve years ago) link
So don't leave us hanging, did you keep reading?!?
― mh, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 22:53 (twelve years ago) link
Boo. Date is 20 min late. I understand if u can't leave work on time but text me to tell me that when you realize you will be late, instead of exactly when we are supposed to meet.
― rayuela, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 22:53 (twelve years ago) link
Haha I did actually, and it did nothing for me (oh, Vienna)
― Trayce, Wednesday, 2 November 2011 22:59 (twelve years ago) link
i hope you told him that
"THIS PROFILE MEANS NOTHING TO ME"
― vitameatawalloginavegamin (donna rouge), Wednesday, 2 November 2011 23:58 (twelve years ago) link
Thats an idea, I should change my whole profile so its written as 80s new wave song lyrics.
― Trayce, Thursday, 3 November 2011 00:07 (twelve years ago) link
profiles very much in character
― mh, Thursday, 3 November 2011 00:28 (twelve years ago) link
heh
― Trayce, Thursday, 3 November 2011 00:33 (twelve years ago) link
Did he turn up rayuela?
― ljubljana, Thursday, 3 November 2011 01:00 (twelve years ago) link
Yes. Worst date ever or worst date ever?
― rayuela, Thursday, 3 November 2011 02:19 (twelve years ago) link
ouch
― Nhex, Thursday, 3 November 2011 02:20 (twelve years ago) link
:( shd have come to fap.
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Thursday, 3 November 2011 03:05 (twelve years ago) link
maybe you could have been interviewed about your bad date because *someone* was gabbing at the bar
― mookieproof, Thursday, 3 November 2011 03:19 (twelve years ago) link
Please to come out with us next time, rayuela.
I have a date tomorrow night--I can already tell it's going to be horrible.
― Virginia Plain, Thursday, 3 November 2011 03:36 (twelve years ago) link
hi guys, sorry i had to bounce early - the train took forever and i had to go another night without heat anyways, so i just should have stayed and drank more. alcohol is nature's heat...or something.
― bene_gesserit, Thursday, 3 November 2011 13:23 (twelve years ago) link
I feel asleep right after getting home, did not wash face, did not collect two-hundred dollars. Some date I am!
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Thursday, 3 November 2011 13:55 (twelve years ago) link
oh and mary - my profile is golden_bough, stalk away!!
(hopefully i don't have anything embarrassing on there right now but don't judge me if i do!)
― bene_gesserit, Thursday, 3 November 2011 14:40 (twelve years ago) link
thinking about maybe joining this?
but i couldn't really tell from the discussion above, is it:
a) if i rate someone with 4-5 stars, they get a message saying "ZS is in love with you! here's a link to his profile so you can laugh at him!"b) if i rate someone with 4-5 stars, they get a message saying "another okcupid user is in love with you! i bet you feel great now!"
i get the thing where if two people happen to rate each other highly, they both get a message. but option a) seems kinda ugh
― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:00 (twelve years ago) link
it's option A now :/
― bene_gesserit, Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:04 (twelve years ago) link
Unfortunately, it's option a).
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:05 (twelve years ago) link
but....why would they do that? i've never used a dating website before, but if you want someone to know you think they're a babe and a half, don't you just...send a message yourself?
― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:05 (twelve years ago) link
anyway, you guys have covered it. man, that sucks though. so i guess, just don't rate people is the solution?
― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:06 (twelve years ago) link
Although it's phrased to get the starred person in a frenzy of like'edness, like PIKACHU, USER ZS CHOSE YOU! GO SEND HIM A MESSAGE RIGHT THIS SECOND. ALSO, PIKA PIKA!!
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:07 (twelve years ago) link
except you have to do that so that it can learn about the kinds of people you like!
fuck it, man, i'm starting up a fax dating service network. turn back the clock on this nonsense.
― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:07 (twelve years ago) link
lol laurel
― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:08 (twelve years ago) link
No seriously, the emails say "Someone chose you! He's totally into you! Go send him a message!"
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:12 (twelve years ago) link
if you want someone to know you think they're a babe and a half, don't you just...send a message yourself?
― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, November 3, 2011 3:05 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark
this is the correct strategy
i only rate 3s or skip unless what i can see in quickview has interested me enough to msg
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:15 (twelve years ago) link
hmm. well, i may still join, and only rate people highly if i would actually maybe want to meet. and then when rating someone 4-5 stars, quickly send a real message so it's not just the generic one?
man okcupid, way to make this way too hard for no reason
― double whooooaaaaa! (Z S), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:15 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah I mean if they are TOTALLY INTO YOU, they can send you a message their own damn self.
― WE DO NOT HAVE "SECRET" "MEETINGS." I DO NOT HAVE A SECOND (Laurel), Thursday, 3 November 2011 15:25 (twelve years ago) link
i am reading 'the art of seduction,' I hope it works better than stupid online dating which seems really hopeless and lame
sorry guys, im a bitter ball of hatred today
― homosexual II, Thursday, 3 November 2011 16:03 (twelve years ago) link
can't believe you're just now starting 'the art of seduction'
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Thursday, 3 November 2011 16:14 (twelve years ago) link
i know rite
― homosexual II, Thursday, 3 November 2011 16:15 (twelve years ago) link
shoulda read it years ago