Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Do they have a "Catholicism and laughing about it" option?

Lol, would instantly respond to such a profile on JDate

I thnk "officially jewish" is covered by "culturally jewish" innit? Kind of.

Haha, maybe I should start dating women? I couldn't have any *worse* luck. What is the correct response to "Would you be up to talking on the phone?" besides "Oh god no, why the hell would we want to do that?"

lol

LOL the guy im seeing now who i met on OKC told me in strict terms I was NOT to call him when he gave me his #, before we met. I wasnt bothered, I hate talking on the phone too.

(I think 'culturally Jewish' iis short-hand for you are a New Yorker, of any religious persuasion. Or, you like the films of Woody Allen, or something.

"some of my best friends are jewish"

I know the diff btwn a schlemiel and a schlemazel

Me too!

I sometimes say 'schlep'

I think 'culturally Jewish' iis short-hand for you are a New Yorker, of any religious persuasion

Isn't that what Lenny Bruce said?

Meanwhile, I have a flood of interest on OKC from Minnesotans.

The polyamorist who is my 99% match does list his status as single. This is the type of person I am most suited to?

My 99% match is in B'more 45 mins away but the thought of going to B'more for a date is kind of offputting, I normally schedule them in a bar 2 minutes from my apartment.

I would totally go for Minnesotans. Should I invite long-distance penpals into my life?

Baltimore is so fun. And he might come to you, anyway.

I kind of said I'd go to him, and now I'm busy and tired... we didn't set anything up yet. I do like B'more.

I would date Lenny Bruce.

My sister told me, when I told her that someone offered to come to Qns, but I suggested we meet in Manhattan (halfway point) that I should have had him come to Qns because "men like a challenge." how are we even related?

Dating a heroin addict might be a drag.

At least they wouldn't expect that much from you...maybe money occasionally?

my entire adventure from looking at this thread tonight:
- stalking laurel's profile
- really wondering about this jdate thing. I have a few random jewish friends now and I'm kind of down with this idea. Do they lend me credibility?

I normally schedule them in a bar 2 minutes from my apartment.

this is also my style. /lazy

almost everyone assumes i am jewish because i have dark curly hair and a last name that is sometimes jewish and i am good at math. maybe i should try to pass on jdate?

One drawback--There are less people on jdate, so if you don't quickly meet your dream person, you may end up thinking why am I paying money for such a limited pool

told me in strict terms I was NOT to call him when he gave me his #, before we met.

lol VP, stevie, morbs, and I just had this conversation. NEVER PHONE. In case of emergency, send txt.

My sister told me, when I told her that someone offered to come to Qns, but I suggested we meet in Manhattan (halfway point) that I should have had him come to Qns because "men like a challenge."

You know, I wonder. It seems like the mindset of a person who would say this is kind of reprehensible but it at least has the advantage of prioritizing what the other person can do for YOU, how they can improve YOUR life, instead of the other way around.

OK, I told this dude I don't like to talk on the phone, but that I am a great texter. He responded that he uses phone chat as a screening device but that I already passed. Yay?

Oh I hate talking on the phone. I've had quite a few folks message me w/their phone number (not the 1st message, but as we start to plan), and I always wonder, am I supposed to call you? I usually just message them back with my own # but then I start to wonder if the person finds this passive aggressive. Or maybe I'm just paranoid??

Someone once told me on match.com that she was tired of first dates with guys that she determined at the first date were clearly not right for her, therefore she wanted to talk on the phone first as a screening device.

But, I bet you could have a good conversation with someone, and then meet, and not be interested in them anyway. My way: if someone is at all appealing, meet them as soon as possible.

I'm fine with exchanging numbers as a way of getting in touch (by text) if someone's going to be late. But, one dude, who I met on a Wednesday, texted me that Friday night to ask if I would be free to talk on the phone later that evening. First of all, no, and second of all, just call and leave a message,'don't ask.

I bet you could have a good conversation with someone, and then meet, and not be interested in them anyway.

idk ime long involved convos over the phone are a harbinger of the ability to have them in person which is at least enough to propel a date into "let's be homies" territory.

this time last year there was a girl i traded numbers with, and we spent hours on the phone for a couple of weeks before either of us had the time to meet. by the time we did it already felt like we knew each other.

I don't know, that sounds like I might accidentally make a friend, and frankly I'm trying to limit my exposure to new people unless I might want them to be my boyfriend.

NB: I am...partly...kidding.

Haha. Some people like me, i.e., AWKWARD, have phone fear, plus I have difficulty hearing what people are saying with the coverage that sort of half-covers my apartment. This last part might just be an excuse.

this is too much work!

Here's the problem with phone conversations: it's not clear whether or not there is alcohol involved.

Here's the non problem with meeting in person--almost always guaranteed to be alcohol involved.

Also cuts the amount of possible awkward encounters in half. Plus, I'm so "nice" that even if they sounded horrible on the phone I'd have a hard time saying no to a meet-up.

Laurel, I am completely on board with you not wanting new friends.

Not really into new friends... I have a lot of insanely awesomely radical friends, don't need any more of those.
Also really getting over the potential casual sex hookup option, too. Again, I have a couple of those already, don't need another one.

Le sigh.

i hate talking on the phone, and i hate the idea of someone talking with me on the phone to "screen" me so much!

I'm totally into new friends, but not if they're interested in me and it's not reciprocal, or vice versa. Also, I'm so busy going on all these damn dates lately that I don't have time for new friends.

I'm not worried too much about being screened--I imagine I give good phone--but I would rather skip that step. Let's just meet in person and discern that it's not going to be a thing already.

I imagine I give good phone

do you give good french?

French phone? No, I don't imagine I do.

Also, I hate the people who state that they're good kissers. If you think you are a good kisser, you're probably not. Also, even if you are, and you are somehow deriving some sense of self worth from that ... That's kind of sad.

Maybe we should start our own dating board for people who hate people? OkMisanthropy.

haha sorry, i was quoting a gene wilder movie.

i have received messages thanking me for *not* mentioning sex (and how good at it i am/how badly i need it) in my profile, which makes me wonder about dudes tbh. but i guess i do live pretty close to new jersey.

Romanthropy.com.

Why do guys want girls to know they can make babies smile? Do they think I am a baby? Also dogs and moving objects and scenes of abject misery make babies smile, they can't even focus their eyes yet.

See, I can't even get Gene Wilder references, no wonder I am single.

I hate when guys specify what they need from you physically in their profile, but I've learned the hard way, that even when their profile seems "normal" dead giveaways are in their question answers.

do you prefer guys who make babies cry? xp

I've never thought of it as an either/or proposition?

Those guys sound good! I wonder if my profile is sort of masculine? My profile is similar to that of many guys I'm matched with, but when I look at the ladies, it seems they love their pets and their families and their jobs and are quite well adjusted and positive.

i personally make the babies look at me like 'wtf are you doing?'

Oh, anyway, we should be watching the world series together. Mookie, when are you going to invite laurel and I over for a house party? I was planning to watch in my living room, but my roommate is watching twilight. Mookie, did you have your date? How did it go? You are so reticent.