finding somebody really attractive but you don't want to fuck them, aka lack of pheremone correspondence

cerebral bones are overrated. and it's probably not low libido you're worrying about -- just that when you hit your mid 30's, sex is unavoidably meaningful and your body stops you from doing it with people that aren't really your type to save you the grief -- and surprise, it turns out your type is not actually your type

cut to the chase, and meditate on the idea of children with her. might be terrifying, but it's the quickest way to find out if you're wasting your time at this far along point

added bonus: it's sobering

d'oh! didn't realize you made it out to this far-flung corner of ilx

yah, those are interesting points you made, milton. thanks.

d'oh! didn't realize you made it out to this far-flung corner of ilx

in response to dayo, obv

It's fun having beautiful women as friends without the primal instinct to bed them.

sounds like you're either hung up on the ex a little, or you have the age-and-experience thing going where you think you can see where things could lead and you think you're preemptively dodging something.

I think definite good things take effort to get rolling, but not all things you've invested effort in turn out to be good, if that makes any sense. So it's good to try things, even if it's just talking to an attractive woman and getting to know her.